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Old November 27th 05, 04:40 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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I don't know how old any of you are, but let me tell you, things are
not like they used to be. You used to be able to go to your neigbors
house and ask for help with all kinds of things. Now you may be living
next door to Ted Bundy and never know it. You have to be careful and I
for one think it's a shame!!! You don't know who to trust and when you
do need help there is never anyone around for you. These are some of
the problems I have run into throughout my short life. I decided I
wanted to do something about it. I have started a service in which I
connect people who need each other. So if you are in need of help or
you feel as if you have help to offer someone else, visit my website
and let's change the way the world is turning. Give each other hope
that there are still people out there that care.

http://www.webspawner.com/users/givehope2005/index.html

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Old November 27th 05, 04:49 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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Sure....... as long as they pay a small fee.

Can we say spam?


"givehope2005" wrote in message
ups.com...
I don't know how old any of you are, but let me tell you, things are
not like they used to be. You used to be able to go to your neigbors
house and ask for help with all kinds of things. Now you may be living
next door to Ted Bundy and never know it. You have to be careful and I
for one think it's a shame!!! You don't know who to trust and when you
do need help there is never anyone around for you. These are some of
the problems I have run into throughout my short life. I decided I
wanted to do something about it. I have started a service in which I
connect people who need each other. So if you are in need of help or
you feel as if you have help to offer someone else, visit my website
and let's change the way the world is turning. Give each other hope
that there are still people out there that care.

http://www.webspawner.com/users/givehope2005/index.html



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Old November 27th 05, 05:01 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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Sorry Givehope,, I have great neighbors. Send me $5.00 and I'll email you a
list of houses for sale in my area. Stop trying to take money from others.





"givehope2005" wrote in message
ups.com...
I don't know how old any of you are, but let me tell you, things are
not like they used to be. You used to be able to go to your neigbors
house and ask for help with all kinds of things. Now you may be living
next door to Ted Bundy and never know it. You have to be careful and I
for one think it's a shame!!! You don't know who to trust and when you
do need help there is never anyone around for you. These are some of
the problems I have run into throughout my short life. I decided I
wanted to do something about it. I have started a service in which I
connect people who need each other. So if you are in need of help or
you feel as if you have help to offer someone else, visit my website
and let's change the way the world is turning. Give each other hope
that there are still people out there that care.

http://www.webspawner.com/users/givehope2005/index.html



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Old November 27th 05, 01:50 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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givehope2005 wrote:
I don't know how old any of you are, but let me tell you, things are
not like they used to be. You used to be able to go to your neigbors
house and ask for help with all kinds of things. Now you may be living
next door to Ted Bundy and never know it. You have to be careful and I
for one think it's a shame!!! You don't know who to trust and when you
do need help there is never anyone around for you. These are some of
the problems I have run into throughout my short life. I decided I
wanted to do something about it. I have started a service in which I
connect people who need each other. So if you are in need of help or
you feel as if you have help to offer someone else, visit my website
and let's change the way the world is turning. Give each other hope
that there are still people out there that care.

http://www.webspawner.com/users/givehope2005/index.html


OK Givehope, I believe what you may be trying to do is indeed help
others and your idea very well can be a success and indeed be something
that some people that do not have trustable neighbors or help from
familycould benefit from. It appears you are trying to find a way as a
single parent to also make ends meet. I try to help others myself in my
neighborhood, I know there is a need, I feel good when I am able to
help out. I do not charge a fee. It just so happens that I am in a
class right now that is teaching me some marketing skills ! I would
like to take this opportunity to share with you that this that you are
doing is not marketing your service. There are ways to market your
service through the net but invading newsgroups and peoples e-mail is
very bad business ethics.Tends to turn the "Hyde's" into "Jekyll's" as
you can see the responses you have gotten are not exactly pleasant.
Here is the punch line ...............There are several things you need
to do now, first you should always refrain from advertising in a
newsgroup, In order to start a successful business you should educate
yourself on which segments of the internet you should target, this not
being one of them. Having some business skills and education can help
you make your idea become an actual service to others. In truth using
the internet as your only source of advertising will fail! I suggest
you research marketing your service / product . I am not gonna charge
you for my time and advice, but I would like it if you would tell us
more about yourself and your children and how you got to be a single
parent? Unless ..........................?

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Old November 27th 05, 03:02 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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Thank you Bev, for seeing that I am not just out to try and make a
killing off of other people. That is not my intention at all. If that
were the case I would simply take others money and never speak to them
again. This is what I am talking about. No one trusts anyone anymore.
One person said something about how her neighbors were good and she
would hook us up with them, well I am glad she has people around her
that help her and she can turn to them when she needs them. I, on the
other hand, have not had that benefit. I have 3 small children and
have no one but myself to look to. No matter how hard I try, that is,
sometimes, just not enough. Up until about three months ago I was in
college studying education. Life was good. I was working toward a
dream I'd had since high school. Then suddenly everything changed.
The man I had been with for 9 years and the father of my children never
came home one night. I wish I could say he left me for another woman
or he just didn't love me anymore but that was not the case. He went
to jail. And now he is in prision and won't be home for over a year.
I'm not even sure if I am going to let him come home after leaving me
this way. Bear with me because there is a lot to say. My oldest son
has been diagnosed with several mental health problems including
bipolar disorder. He goes to a school trained to deal with children
with behavior issues but they can't seem to control him. He has been
suspended more times than I can count already this school year. So I
had to quit school because I too was spending more time out than in. I
am now looking at having to home school him. Finding a job is almost
impossible at this time. I have to be here for him and my other two
babies. I was at a loss as to what to do. Then I thought how
beneficial it would be if I could help others find the help I need so
badly. I can't be the only one in this situation. You are right that
this isn't the best way to market my service, but I have no money to
invest in that right now and all the legit ways I have found to
advertise cost money. I am deeply hurt that people would think I was
just out to make money. I just want to help others. I don't have to
charge for the service, but that is how I am helping me at this time
and what I would be undertaking would be huge. There would be a lot of
time involved. I would in a sense be working and doing something for
others at the same time. If you have any suggestions as to how I can
market this without offending people or come across as a money seeker I
would appreciate it. I just don't have the money to invest in it.
Thank you again for seeing me for what I am. The other posts kind of
shocked me.

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Old November 27th 05, 05:03 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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givehope2005 wrote:
Thank you Bev, for seeing that I am not just out to try and make a
killing off of other people. That is not my intention at all. If that
were the case I would simply take others money and never speak to them
again. This is what I am talking about. No one trusts anyone anymore.


Is your name Hope by any chance ? This is what I will call you
unless you say differently.
I am glad you took my invitation to introduce yourself a bit. Trust is
not something many people have these days, it is hard to trust, my own
sister took me for a bad ride recently.

One person said something about how her neighbors were good and she
would hook us up with them, well I am glad she has people around her
that help her and she can turn to them when she needs them. I, on the
other hand, have not had that benefit. I have 3 small children and
have no one but myself to look to. No matter how hard I try, that is,
sometimes, just not enough.


Don't you have any family at all or close friends ? It is hard to
manage without any support.

Up until about three months ago I was in
college studying education. Life was good. I was working toward a
dream I'd had since high school. Then suddenly everything changed.
The man I had been with for 9 years and the father of my children never
came home one night. I wish I could say he left me for another woman
or he just didn't love me anymore but that was not the case. He went
to jail. And now he is in prision and won't be home for over a year.
I'm not even sure if I am going to let him come home after leaving me
this way.


Wow ! That really sucks to say it bluntly....... don't give up on your
dreams, this situation is only a stepping stone, throughout life we get
hit with many foreseen and unforeseen challenges and dissapointments. I
have had many myself and I understand. I am so sorry you ended up in
this situation because of your partners poor judgement.

Bear with me because there is a lot to say. My oldest son
has been diagnosed with several mental health problems including
bipolar disorder.


Does he see a doctor, take medication? I am in tune to what you may be
going through, I am on an "up" right now with my own child that was
diagnosed bipolar almost 5 years ago.

He goes to a school trained to deal with children
with behavior issues but they can't seem to control him. He has been
suspended more times than I can count already this school year. So I
had to quit school because I too was spending more time out than in.


This I do not quite understand? My daughter's behavior in school most
definately interfered with my ability to keep a job, she remained in
public school in the emotional support classes and partial hospital
classes available in our school district. At least when she did go to
school, she is 18 now and finally went back to school just recently, to
graduate H.S. So what I am saying is if he is going to a special school
that is trained, he is where he should be and how can they suspend him
when they specialise and are supposed to understand the illness?

I am now looking at having to home school him. Finding a job is almost
impossible at this time. I have to be here for him and my other two
babies. I was at a loss as to what to do.


What were you doing to accomidate your son and other children prior to
your partners arrest? I know you said you went to school, aparently was
not working, so was he working and have you looked into public
assistance for the time being for you and the children?

Then I thought how
beneficial it would be if I could help others find the help I need so
badly. I can't be the only one in this situation. You are right that
this isn't the best way to market my service, but I have no money to
invest in that right now and all the legit ways I have found to
advertise cost money.


Yes advertising does cost money and yes something you really can't
spend money on right now. Maybe what you could do is make up some
flyers , print them out and post them in nearby stores. Focus on some
local people that may see a use in forming a local group of single
parents that can help eachother out.Heck you may even find couples that
are willing to join the group, and this may be something to help you
right now, not looking at it to make money but to help you in your own
situation!

I am deeply hurt that people would think I was
just out to make money. I just want to help others. I don't have to
charge for the service, but that is how I am helping me at this time
and what I would be undertaking would be huge. There would be a lot of
time involved. I would in a sense be working and doing something for
others at the same time.


Don't be hurt so much, just take it as a learning experience. My advice
to you would be to focus on using the available help in your area that
is there to help you when such a situation happens. I was not too proud
to take the available help when I needed it , sometimes you have to do
this, take it a day at a time and focus on getting things stable for
yourself before venturing outside of your own neighborhood.

If you have any suggestions as to how I can
market this without offending people or come across as a money seeker I
would appreciate it. I just don't have the money to invest in it.
Thank you again for seeing me for what I am. The other posts kind of
shocked me.


It is a small fee that maybe people could afford, you have to remember
that most people needing help don't have 5 bucks either! My advice
really truthfully is that you focus on your own situation first and
seek out a community within your neighborhood that could band together
to establish this idea to help eachother get on their feet. By
networking yourself within your home area this way, you will meet many
people that know others that may be able to point you in a direction
that will help make your ability to help yourself and your children get
through this hard time.

Communicating the hardships you are going through and allowing people
to give suggestions is your best resource right now, this group has a
wide variety of folks, from different situations, although blunt and to
the point , if it is advice you want ask for it. I had to learn how to
digest and realise some of the advice I have gotten , although harsh at
times helped me see outside of the box!
Bev

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Old November 27th 05, 08:15 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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Kate I think you are extremely rude! I am sorry to say that. Think
about what you say before you say it. If I were to apologize to people
you surely wouldn't be one of them. There are ways to talk to people
and ways not to and I think you are the perfect example of how not to.
You do not know anything about me or where I live. My neighbors are
not the kind of people I want to associate me or my children with
outside of them living next door. I am in nothing for money!!!!! Try
to find something better to do than judge others.

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Old November 27th 05, 08:18 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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Thank you Bev. You are a very caring person. I would love to talk to
you outside of this group area. I feel as if everything I say here is
going to be torn apart by one particular person. My name is not Hope.
It's Cindi. You can e-mail me at and maybe we
can talk more

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Old November 27th 05, 08:50 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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And you are still being rude. I'm sorry if you can't see how you have
attacked me. Like I said before you need to pay attention to how you
address people. There was a much better way to go about expressing
your opinions and feelings than the way you did. If you need some help
on how to do that read Bev's posts. You could learn a lot from her.

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Old November 27th 05, 09:12 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
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If you behave like this
to everyone, then perhaps that's one reason why you are lacking in
support IRL. Think about it.

"gimme gimme... Kate is being rude to me... poor me, my life is so sad"

You don't feel as if that is rude??? I am willing to make a truce here
if you will stop saying things like that. As I said before, you really
don't know much about me. You were very quick to judge. I, in no way,
feel as if I am a victim of anything. Possibly the victim of poor
choices but other than that no. And I never said my life was sad.
It's not perfect, but it could be a lot worse. All I did was answer
some questions for Bev. I didn't volunteer my pity story. And I don't
behave like that to everyone. Only to defend myself when need be. All
I'm asking is that you find a nicer way to make your point without
offending others. If that's how you behave then I would be surprised
if you have much support either.

Now can we be done with this nonsense????

 




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