Other peoples Kids.

I often compare my boy to other kids around his age to see the
differences & see what others his age is learning etc... heck, I've
never done this parenting thing before, so sometimes I don't know what
his age would be able to do/understand.

In doing so, I see things that he hasn't learned yet, and things he
has. I also sometimes see things that he has learned & other kids
haven't.

Yesterday my cousin in-laws were passing though in their motorhome,
stayed for dinner, slept in our driveway & left today after fixing
breakfast. They have twin girls only 4 months older than my boy, who
is 26 months.

These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening? I know all kids
are different, but i'm just looking for opinions.

On a side note, Even if my boy isn't as verbal as other kids around
his age, I thank my lucky stars each day that he is so mild tempered
in comparison some other children I know.

Last night was a whirlwind of 2-1/2 year old temper tantrums.
I know this is par for course, but my boy doesn't have many tantrums
and gets overwhelmed by this & starts to misbehave more than normal.
This afternoon, we are back to are normal calm days. I dunno if being
by himself (no siblings) accounts for this, or not, but it's sure
nice!

Now it's time to start working on his verbal skills!
It was really nice to see how other people do it.


Denise, Brian & Wyatt (May 31, 02)

A good friend will come and bail you out of jail...
A true friend will be sitting next to you saying,
"Damn...that was fun!"

These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening? I know all kids
are different, but i'm just looking for opinions.

My son is 2.7 yrs old and probably started about 3 months ago. He's child
#3 out of 4 kids.

On a side note, Even if my boy isn't as verbal as other kids around
his age, I thank my lucky stars each day that he is so mild tempered
in comparison some other children I know.

Eh, I'll take kids with personality any day

Last night was a whirlwind of 2-1/2 year old temper tantrums.
I know this is par for course, but my boy doesn't have many tantrums
and gets overwhelmed by this & starts to misbehave more than normal.
This afternoon, we are back to are normal calm days. I dunno if being
by himself (no siblings) accounts for this, or not, but it's sure
nice!

My nephew is 3 weeks younger than my son, has a 6 month old sister. My 2.7
yr old has a 6 yr old sister, and 2 brothers (age 4.8 and 4 weeks). My
nephew turned my 2.7 yr old into a brat by misbehaving - particularly at
mealtimes. My sister lets him wander from the table with food, put candies
in the back of toy trucks and eat them, throw food in restaurants (*that*
was fun). "He'll behave later" she said. Ya gotta be kidding me! My son
behaves cos he has his older sister and brother to learn from.

Now it's time to start working on his verbal skills!
It was really nice to see how other people do it.

It *is* intersting, not just your kid compared to other kids, but comparing
siblings. They can be so different.


Denise, Brian & Wyatt (May 31, 02)

Sophie -
mom of 4

"Denise~*" wrote in message
Last night was a whirlwind of 2-1/2 year old temper tantrums.
I know this is par for course, but my boy doesn't have many tantrums
and gets overwhelmed by this & starts to misbehave more than normal.
This afternoon, we are back to are normal calm days. I dunno if being
by himself (no siblings) accounts for this, or not, but it's sure
nice!

IME, the terrible tantrums started when the girls turned 3 years old. When
the girls were 2 I didn't have many problems at all.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)

On Wed, 4 Aug 2004 15:36:30 -0400, "Sophie"
wrote:

On a side note, Even if my boy isn't as verbal as other kids around
his age, I thank my lucky stars each day that he is so mild tempered
in comparison some other children I know.

Eh, I'll take kids with personality any day

Not sure what you mean by "personality".

Wyatt is mild tempered, but has loads of personality. He gives me
these looks sometimes that just crack me up.

I'm sure her twin girls have personality too, but I really haven't
been around them long enough to see it fully. They live in another
state.

My sisters 4.5 yo twins (boy & girl) have personality too, and are
little smarta**es (the cute way) They really love my boy & are great
kids. Although they exhaust me. High tempered & high strung,
especially the boy. I could never handle an entire day of that.

OTOH, there's this boy who comes over to my sisters house often with
his mom, who is a complete brat devoid of any good personality.
Shesh, the stories I hear.


Denise, Brian & Wyatt (May 31, 02)

A good friend will come and bail you out of jail...
A true friend will be sitting next to you saying,
"Damn...that was fun!"

Denise~* wrote:

These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening?

Luke was doing it by 2yo. Hunter was much older but he needed speech
therapy. He talks a lot now though :-)

On a side note, Even if my boy isn't as verbal as other kids around
his age, I thank my lucky stars each day that he is so mild tempered
in comparison some other children I know.

Oh I know!! I sometimes complain a lot about lugging my kids everywhere but
when I see the ones running laps around the place I'm glad for my lazy
ones, lol. Mine do run a bit, especially Luke, but nothing like I've seen.
I'm tired just thinking about it :-)

Last night was a whirlwind of 2-1/2 year old temper tantrums.
I know this is par for course, but my boy doesn't have many tantrums

Well lets hope he stays that way!! Hunter did. Year three was bumpier then
year two but really nothing to terrible. Luke....he had his share, plus all
of Hunters unused tantrums. Year 2 (and few months) was a very long one.

I dunno if being
by himself (no siblings) accounts for this, or not, but it's sure
nice!

Maybe a little bit but probably a lot of it is personality. Being by
himself there are no fights with siblings or competition for attention so it
might make it a little easier.

Now it's time to start working on his verbal skills!
It was really nice to see how other people do it.

Talk, read books, and if you think he is really behind, take him for a
speech evaluation. My only regret with Hunter is not doing it sooner. You
can use the links at this site to see age related milestones. Remember
though, at 26 months he isn't expected to do the things in the 2-3 year
category because he is just starting out at that year. If he can't do the
things in the 18-24mo category you may want to watch things more closely.

--
Nikki

"Sue" wrote in message
...

IME, the terrible tantrums started when the girls turned 3 years old. When
the girls were 2 I didn't have many problems at all.

Hoo boy aren't you right! It was easy peasy until about 3.5.

JennP.

Denise~* wrote:


These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening? I know all kids
are different, but i'm just looking for opinions.

What do you mean by this? What I think of when you
say that started happening quite a bit earlier for mine,
but I might well be thinking of something different that
what you're thinking of.

Best wishes,
Ericka

On Wed, 04 Aug 2004 17:28:47 -0400, Ericka Kammerer
wrote:

Denise~* wrote:


These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening? I know all kids
are different, but i'm just looking for opinions.

What do you mean by this? What I think of when you
say that started happening quite a bit earlier for mine,
but I might well be thinking of something different that
what you're thinking of.

Best wishes,
Ericka

I mean, when kids actually answer your question.

Do you want "insert question here"
Kid answers with a verbal "yes" or "no"


Denise, Brian & Wyatt (May 31, 02)

A good friend will come and bail you out of jail...
A true friend will be sitting next to you saying,
"Damn...that was fun!"

"Denise~*" wrote in message
...

These girls are already answering questions ("yes" & "no") probably
about 50 percent of the time. I tried asking the mom when it was
they started doing this, and she couldn't really remember, but just
remembered that she would purposely try to get an answer out of them
by asking them to answer.

Anybody know about the time this starts happening? I know all kids
are different, but i'm just looking for opinions.



My DD is 2.5. She started answering questions within the last 2 months.
She was driving me crazy, because if I asked if she wanted a banana, she'd
repeat "banana" back to me. This led me to think that, yes, she wanted one.
But, no, she didn't, she was just repeating me. This type of thing, 100
times a day, was making me nuts. I started making a big deal out of saying
to her "when someone asks you a question, you either say yes or you say no."
Then she answers and I tell her how nice it is when someone answers a
question. And she looks really proud of herself. I still have to remind
her to respond with a yes or a no after approximately 1/4 of my questions to
her, but with prompting, I almost always get an answer. If there's no
response to the question, I tell her that I assume her answer is a no. This
often prompts her to respond with a yes.

Nancy

"Sue" wrote in message
...
"Denise~*" wrote in message
Last night was a whirlwind of 2-1/2 year old temper tantrums.
I know this is par for course, but my boy doesn't have many tantrums
and gets overwhelmed by this & starts to misbehave more than normal.
This afternoon, we are back to are normal calm days. I dunno if being
by himself (no siblings) accounts for this, or not, but it's sure
nice!

IME, the terrible tantrums started when the girls turned 3 years old. When
the girls were 2 I didn't have many problems at all.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)


Yep. People tend to dismiss the Traumatic Threes. DD didn't seem to have
the Terrible Twos - absolutely no tantrums but she developed an attitude
when she was 3.

Jeanne