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Bitter rant
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... Andrew wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Andrew wrote in message ... Just a bitter rant. Tonight I went on a binge (solo) as tomorrow my daughter is due back with her mother and I am just hoping and praying she comes back from Sweden. I think she will but I don't know. The bitter rant part is that people left because it was too hard the life we had and to try to let people relax the year someone left they had one holiday in St Lucia, three holidays in Zambia where they eventually settled and numerous nights out with old school friends suddenly discovered from back in 79 all in the one year. Also they only worked part time to make life easier. Muggins just worked, looked after kid and hoped other party would be able to relax after all the work they had put in looking after the house etc and had no holidays. sorry guys and I fully expect to be flamed. I am bitter. Right now I am bloody bitter. (also a bit drunk) I think I gave everything. For three years I took no break no holiday no weekend etc and now for the past year I have the same but I am also mummy, daddy, breadwinner, there are no weekend breaks due to the country boundaries I am doing it 24/7 365 but it was 'hard' for other people???? I really thought I was doing the best for my family. In hindsight I probably should have stepped back and looked at human issues but you want to give everything you can and the best you can etc etc etc. If you want me to slow down then tell me FFS! I am not a mind reader! I now do the dad, the mum, the work,the kids play, I attend every performance of every school play she is in, I pay the school fees, the housing costs, I talk to the teachers when I think there are issues, do the cooking, pick up, transport, minding and I don't ask a thing from anyone. I am human too, its tough.I could use help. This Xmas only two people remembered me and sent me cards, my mother and my accountant. I gotta tell you it hurts. when you marry you lose the single friends, when you get a kid you tend to lose the ones without, when you split you are just a pariah. well, stuff the lot of you world. when i get back on top .... that boot you see in your face is gonna be mine!!! I want to offer you some kind words but first I have no idea what you are talking about in your first paragraph. Nothing like posting while intoxicated. I have long learned not to email or post. Of course I have not had a drink in months so that is easy. I think it is harder for parents who use to be with the partner and then the other leaves. I have always been a single parent so I know no different. Vent and get it out of your system. Don't worry about everyone else in the world, the only ones that should matter in your world is you and your kid. The only people that matter in my world is me and my kid. Call it selfish...... hell, maybe it is. Mostly though Andrew..... you are tough and kind. Don't get are stressed out thinking you have to be the perfect parent to make up for the absent parent. It just isn't going to happen. You can't me MOM and DAD. You are Dad. If you could use help..... have you asked for it? Tiff Hi Tiff, Good old intoxication. Sorry, quick bit of background. My wife left the country Oct 2002 so no visitations or anything and her request to come and take our daughter to spend Xmas with my wifes dad in Sweden was the first 'visitation' type thing since then hence my worries. Happy New Year, Andrew Let us know when your daughter arrives home safely. T T Thanks for concern. She got home 5 Jan. All happy and excited to be back. Andrew |
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