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NIP in church? Appropriate?
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"cjra" wrote: I was shocked when I read on another chat board a woman - a young woman, in her 20s, who says she NIPs herself - stated that it was inappropriate in church and was offended when a woman did. And what's more, many people agreed it was the one place where it wasn't appropriate. How bizarre. I'm a Sydney Anglican so we don't perceive our church building as a temple (ie to us it isn't a sacred space; it keeps the rain off). For those who do see their church as a temple, perhaps it is a bit different, but still: (a) the only Person whose opinion really counts was breastfed Himself; (b) members of the congregation should be concentrating on the service, not gawking at the people around them -- especially if they are watching someone closely enough to *tell* that breastfeeding is going on! (c) breastfeeding a baby is, as a rule, a quiet and unobtrusive activity -- much less disruptive than not-feeding the baby (!) or even removing yourself and bubs from the service. It's never occurred to me that it wasn't appropriate! -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
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"KR" wrote: Jesus also ate breakfast every day, but I wouldn't sit in church and eat my bagel and coffee... I'm not against nursing in church, but the reason I wouldn't do it is because then I couldn't stand up for the psalms and such and the rest of the congregation would. I suppose it depends how important bodily positioning is in your church, but I woud count BFing in the 'infirmity' category. I am sure there are elderly people in your church who are unable to stand (or to stand up quickly), plus the occasional person with a sprained ankle or whatever, and nobody would consider their inability to stand to be irreverent. The attitude of heart is what counts. -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
KR wrote:
Jesus also ate breakfast every day, but I wouldn't sit in church and eat my bagel and coffee... I'm not against nursing in church, but the reason I wouldn't do it is because then I couldn't stand up for the psalms and such and the rest of the congregation would. When I've had to breastfeed during a service I would go to the nursery and do so. It is just a personal preference, I nip anywhere else. Well, I don't go to church. But surely, in most cases, getting up and leaving during a service is going to be more disruptive than just fiddling about with your clothes a bit and then nursing right there? All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
If you think it's appropriate to give a baby a bottle in your church, then
it's appropriate to nurse a baby. That is the way that baby eats. They can't wait, and the mother shouldn't be expected to miss the service by leaving or not attending. NIP should be as discrete as possible in this case. interesting, I would say the same, though I really can't think of an instance where I've seen a women bottle feed in the main part of church at the church I went to in England, but many many women would breastfeed. In part it may be that if the bottle needed warming, or mixing, or whatever that they would have to go out to do that, then not come back in. It might also be an issue of scheduling, that a bottle fed babies feeds are often more timed, so they may have planned it around church. Cheers Anne |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
It's never occurred to me that it wasn't appropriate!
I think that this may be a difference between the US and other places, I've just moved from the UK to the US, in my church in the UK, most people breastfed in the main part of church and when they didn't, it was mainly because the baby was already in creche or something and they'd just settle down there, but I've just moved to the US and I've already noticed differences, today I went to a morning group and a women at my table asked all our permissions before she nursed and then did so with a blanket, which of course meant everyone noticed, when had she not asked some people may not have done and I think in the end I saw just as much as I would have done without a blanket, I looked round and only saw people nursing with a blanket, not without, what I saw today may not be a decent assessment, but it felt as if people were apologising for nursing and questioning every location. Anne |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
Anne Rogers wrote: It's never occurred to me that it wasn't appropriate! I think that this may be a difference between the US and other places, I've just moved from the UK to the US, in my church in the UK, most people breastfed in the main part of church and when they didn't, it was mainly because the baby was already in creche or something and they'd just settle down there, but I've just moved to the US and I've already noticed differences, today I went to a morning group and a women at my table asked all our permissions before she nursed and then did so with a blanket, which of course meant everyone noticed, when had she not asked some people may not have done and I think in the end I saw just as much as I would have done without a blanket, I looked round and only saw people nursing with a blanket, not without, what I saw today may not be a decent assessment, but it felt as if people were apologising for nursing and questioning every location. Anne I've done it in church, and I've seen at least one other mom do so, although I often will go to the nursery. By the time he's hungry enough to tell me, my boy is crying and making a spectacle of himself so it's better that we remove ourselves as to not disrupt the service. I wouldn't have done it early on in my breastfeeding days, I just wasn't comfortable NIP anywhere in the open really when we first started. But now that my son and I are both breastfeeding pros, we can accomplish a feed without anybody really realizing - and without either of us really caring if someone DOES figure it out. KD & G |
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NIP in church? Appropriate?
Anne Rogers wrote: It's never occurred to me that it wasn't appropriate! I think that this may be a difference between the US and other places, I've just moved from the UK to the US, in my church in the UK, most people breastfed in the main part of church and when they didn't, it was mainly because the baby was already in creche or something and they'd just settle down there, but I've just moved to the US and I've already noticed differences, today I went to a morning group and a women at my table asked all our permissions before she nursed and then did so with a blanket, which of course meant everyone noticed, when had she not asked some people may not have done and I think in the end I saw just as much as I would have done without a blanket, I looked round and only saw people nursing with a blanket, not without, what I saw today may not be a decent assessment, but it felt as if people were apologising for nursing and questioning every location. Sounds familiar. You're far more likely to notice with the blanket than without. I never use one but that's because it's so dang hot here! Sometimes I ask, if it's a smallish group with new people, but usually not. I might turn to the side to get it going. We were out at a pub the other day (sitting outside) and I tried to latch her on discreetly whilst sitting with about 20 people, mostly men, but she was too distracted and a spectacle was on the verge. So I moved away to a quiet spot. |
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