items to cover in parenting plan?

On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 12:10:05 -0500, DrLith
wrote:

Gini wrote:
"Paula" wrote

(3) both provide health insurance unless private purchase is required
(unless both of us don't have work-related access to it and then of
course one of us will have to provide it if at all possible),

This seems like a waste of money unless you are both already paying for
full family coverage. And even if that's the case, it seems like an
invitation for headaches; your medical providers are not going to want
to have to be dealing with going back and forth between two different
insurers for your accounts, and insurance companies are notorious for
trying to get out of paying anything at all when there's a coinsurance
situation. Why not just have one party carry the insurance and the other
party reimburse for half the increase in premiums, if any?

I already pay for her coverage ... but adding her to his won't cost
them any money. It just seems like a no-brainer given that. But you
might be right if there are going to be headaches with dual-coverage.

From my perspective, it's either add her to his or he reimburses for
half of the difference between coverage for my emp+child(ren) and just
employee.

Paula
--
"We're sculpted from youth, the chipping away makes me weary
And as for the truth it seems like we just pick a theory"
Deconstruction - Indigo Girls

On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 11:12:44 -0600, Beverly
wrote:

On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 09:37:13 -0600, Paula
wrote:


I'm wondering if anyone can give me ideas as to items that are
generally covered in a parenting plan. Our DD is 4yo.

So far I've got:
(1) a decently outlined schedule for day-to-day (with provisions for
normal deviations - sick, work, etc.) and for holiday split,
(2) 50/50 split of out-of-pocket medical over $150.00,
(3) both provide health insurance unless private purchase is required
(unless both of us don't have work-related access to it and then of
course one of us will have to provide it if at all possible),
(4) minimum of quarterly scheduled meeting of parents (bio and step)
to keep communication lines open with a plan for calling an
'emergency' meeting,
(5) everyone is invited and welcome at holiday programs,
extracurricular activities, etc.,
(6) mediation before attorneys in case of disagreement,
(7) ... ??? ... ???

It seems (and I know) there is so much that should be covered, but I
am at a loss in coming up with a list that feels anywhere near
complete.

Any assistance is greatly appreciated!!
Paula

You will want to address how to split the income tax dependency. Bear
in mind that medical expenses (item 2 above) cannot be deducted on
your return or legally reimbursed from a cafeteria plan without tax
consequences if the child is not your dependent on your federal
return.

I currently have sole legal and physical custody ... hopefully we can
talk about moving to joint either in the about-to-occur discussions or
relatively soon after.

Without him/them stepping up and being more actively involved parents,
I don't know that I'm willing to share the tax deduction ... I'm open
to ideas, though, so I'll have to see how things go.

Paula

--
"We're sculpted from youth, the chipping away makes me weary
And as for the truth it seems like we just pick a theory"
Deconstruction - Indigo Girls

On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 13:00:04 -0500, Animal05
wrote:

DrLith wrote:

Gini wrote:

"Paula" wrote


(3) both provide health insurance unless private purchase is required
(unless both of us don't have work-related access to it and then of
course one of us will have to provide it if at all possible),


This seems like a waste of money unless you are both already paying for
full family coverage. And even if that's the case, it seems like an
invitation for headaches; your medical providers are not going to want
to have to be dealing with going back and forth between two different
insurers for your accounts, and insurance companies are notorious for
trying to get out of paying anything at all when there's a coinsurance
situation. Why not just have one party carry the insurance and the other
party reimburse for half the increase in premiums, if any?

If there is duplicate insurance, the party whose birthday comes first in
the calendar year is the #1 insurance.

Good to know as his is first. Thanks!

Paula

--
"We're sculpted from youth, the chipping away makes me weary
And as for the truth it seems like we just pick a theory"
Deconstruction - Indigo Girls

On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 13:02:10 -0500, Animal05
wrote:

Paula wrote:

I'm wondering if anyone can give me ideas as to items that are
generally covered in a parenting plan. Our DD is 4yo.

So far I've got:
(1) a decently outlined schedule for day-to-day (with provisions for
normal deviations - sick, work, etc.) and for holiday split,
(2) 50/50 split of out-of-pocket medical over $150.00,
(3) both provide health insurance unless private purchase is required
(unless both of us don't have work-related access to it and then of
course one of us will have to provide it if at all possible),
(4) minimum of quarterly scheduled meeting of parents (bio and step)
to keep communication lines open with a plan for calling an
'emergency' meeting,

No reason for any steps to be involved.

Ours is a bit of an un-orthodox situation. I'm open to steps being
involved and don't see where the harm is in including all the adults
.... and I will expect that my own SO/spouse will be included in
decisions that affect him if/when he enters the picture, so I cannot
in good conscience shut her out ... and don't want to.

In fact, she reached out to me to begin the current dialog, and I
think she'll be a necessary part of the equation for he and I to get
some good communication channels open again.

Paula

--
"We're sculpted from youth, the chipping away makes me weary
And as for the truth it seems like we just pick a theory"
Deconstruction - Indigo Girls

On Sat, 3 Mar 2007 10:35:18 -0800, "Bob Whiteside"
wrote:
Here is a link to a suggested format for a Parenting Plan in Oregon. You
might want to check your state's CS administration site for what your state
law says about how these plans are approved and implemented.

http://www.ojd.state.or.us/osca/cpsd...w/documents/Pa
cketParentingPlanVer03_6-07-06.pdf

That is GREAT ... Thanks, Bob!!

--
"We're sculpted from youth, the chipping away makes me weary
And as for the truth it seems like we just pick a theory"
Deconstruction - Indigo Girls

Replying to myself ... forgive, please ...

On Mar 3, 1:39 pm, Paula wrote:
On Sat, 03 Mar 2007 13:02:10 -0500, Animal05

wrote:
Paula wrote:

I'm wondering if anyone can give me ideas as to items that are
generally covered in a parenting plan. Our DD is 4yo.

So far I've got:
..snip..
(4) minimum of quarterly scheduled meeting of parents (bio and step)
to keep communication lines open with a plan for calling an
'emergency' meeting,

No reason for any steps to be involved.

Ours is a bit of an un-orthodox situation. I'm open to steps being
involved and don't see where the harm is in including all the adults
... and I will expect that my own SO/spouse will be included in
decisions that affect him if/when he enters the picture, so I cannot
in good conscience shut her out ... and don't want to.

I should say though, that I also think that in the case of
disagreement the ultimate decision lies with the two of us as her bio-
parents.

50/50 time split, preferably alternating weeks,50/50 all med not covered by
insurance,alt years for tax deduction, no child support since each bears
expenses of child equally.
"Paula" wrote in message
...

I'm wondering if anyone can give me ideas as to items that are
generally covered in a parenting plan. Our DD is 4yo.

So far I've got:
(1) a decently outlined schedule for day-to-day (with provisions for
normal deviations - sick, work, etc.) and for holiday split,
(2) 50/50 split of out-of-pocket medical over $150.00,
(3) both provide health insurance unless private purchase is required
(unless both of us don't have work-related access to it and then of
course one of us will have to provide it if at all possible),
(4) minimum of quarterly scheduled meeting of parents (bio and step)
to keep communication lines open with a plan for calling an
'emergency' meeting,
(5) everyone is invited and welcome at holiday programs,
extracurricular activities, etc.,
(6) mediation before attorneys in case of disagreement,
(7) ... ??? ... ???

It seems (and I know) there is so much that should be covered, but I
am at a loss in coming up with a list that feels anywhere near
complete.

Any assistance is greatly appreciated!!
Paula