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Help with a camp activity
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beeswing wrote: The *point* of my post was the part you snipped: that there is an easy way out of it. Simply give the names to *all* the kids verbally. Then no one feels singled out. I don't like being quoted out of context, though I'm the first one to acknowledge that I have no control over it in this environment. This is not simple to implement. Every kid would have to have every other kid's tag whispered to them. Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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"Robyn Kozierok" wrote in message news In article , beeswing wrote: The *point* of my post was the part you snipped: that there is an easy way out of it. Simply give the names to *all* the kids verbally. Then no one feels singled out. I don't like being quoted out of context, though I'm the first one to acknowledge that I have no control over it in this environment. This is not simple to implement. Every kid would have to have every other kid's tag whispered to them. Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) Actually, I was thinking more along the lines of using verbal instructions instead of the tags. beeswing |
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"Beeswing" wrote in message news:...
"Robyn Kozierok" wrote in message news In article , beeswing wrote: The *point* of my post was the part you snipped: that there is an easy way out of it. Simply give the names to *all* the kids verbally. Then no one feels singled out. I don't like being quoted out of context, though I'm the first one to acknowledge that I have no control over it in this environment. This is not simple to implement. Every kid would have to have every other kid's tag whispered to them. Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) Actually, I was thinking more along the lines of using verbal instructions instead of the tags. Never mind. I just realized that I'd misunderstood the game. Please just hold onto the concept that I was aiming to be inclusive and dismiss everything else I wrote. beeswing |
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Help with a camp activity
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"Jeff" wrote: "Claire Petersky" wrote in message news:tdfqc.17724$gr.1470367@attbi_s52... (...) Doesn't know Moses? The Buddha? You've never discussed these with her? How about Jesus? Man, my kids were asking me about Jesus by preschool, because they met junior evangelists on the playground. But I can't imagine having religious figures as a part of a guessing game. It's just too easy to cause offence. You *might* be able to get away with Santa Claus. This is a YMCA camp. The C is for Christian. I think Mose, Christ and Santa Claus are fair game. Jeff Except that, while "Y"s may have "Christian" in their name, they do not insist that people using their facilities BE Christian. They are open to everyone, without discrimination. Around here, a "Y" program is very likely to include kids who are from a wide variety of religions, including Hindu, Buddhist, Jewish, as well as those who are completely "unchurched" or come from families that are adamantly opposed to organized religion. Even for kids who are nominally Christian (ie, their parents would identify that as their religion) the kids may not know any of the stories or people; some receive NO religious education. I'd think that some of the cultural figures -- Santa Claus, the tooth fairy, the Easter Bunny -- might be safe, at least if none of the kids are recent immigrants. meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Luna wrote in message .. .
Pointing out that some 6 year old kids can't read yet (which is a really atrocious indictment of public school systems, imo) is great advice. To me, what you're doing here is the typed equivalent of an eyeroll. If you're going to automatically assume that all 6 year olds can read and that if they can't, it's because of something as politically charged as their school system AND if you're going to assume that everyone will simply *play* a game, no balking, no shy kids holding back...well, it is my humble (and public-school-educated) opinion that you are in for a long, long summer. So are the kids in your charge. You need some additional advice: First and foremost, you need to come up with a little sympathy for the shy kids. You also need to put aside your pigeon-holing. "Atrocious indictment of public schools" indeed. More advice - don't say those sorts of things in front of the kids' parents. You will find that children are far more intuitive that you likely think. There will probably be a shy, lone, public-school-educated 6 year old who may be just out of kindergarten and may be struggling to read, like many *average* kids, public *or* privately schooled. You will force him to play a game that shakes his self-esteem to the very core. He'll pick up on your feelings about him, his required participation, and his educational level in a nano-second. It will be horrible for him. I suggest you do whatever you can to set your feelings aside for the summer. If you are becoming a camp counselor because you want to persue a career in childcare or education, these are things you need to think very seriously about. If you just want a summer job that sounds kinda fun, maybe you can be a lifeguard at the camp or something that doesn't require you to wrangle kids of different ages and abilities on a daily basis. Or we could do a variation with pictures of fruits, foods, animals, or plants, maybe with the words typed under the picture. This is a great idea. It equalizes the readers with the non-readers without being obvious. It also affords the less than stellar readers the opportunity to *learn* while they're playing. Shhhh...don't tell 'em that! I do have a problem with eliminating an entire part of summer camp, which IS getting to know other kids, or with letting kids sit out because they think it's "lame." So what *are* you going to do with a kid who balks or even cries when you require him to play? Do you have a plan for that? My YMCA does say that they reserve the right to send kids home if they're not abiding by the camp rules. I'd be sorely peeved and I'd have a long chat with the camp director if they sent my kid home because they couldn't force him to play a "getting to know you" game. We were and are fortunate in that the YMCA camp my kids attend is apparently a little more lax in what "required" means. One counselor figured out my oldest within days - this was my son's summer after kindy. My son is bright enough, but a little shy in groups. The empathetic counselor picked up on this, befriended my son and eventually taught him that participating in some of these games would be okay. However, the counselor didn't force my son to play any of the games in which my son seemed uncomfortable. Think about what you will do if you have a kid who doesn't want to play. "This is lame" may be a euphanism for "I'm shy," or "I'm scared." How to handle that sort of thing should *really* be a part of your training, I think. For example, there's another game we played at training where we had to get in a group of fifteen, and we had a rope. The person in charge called out a shape we had to make with the rope, a triangle or a rectangle, and we had to make that shape. Then, we had to do it with our eyes closed. Then, we had to do it with our eyes open but no talking. I thought it was lame, but I still had to do it. I could give at least 5 more examples of games like that. I had to play all of them, and it didn't hurt me one bit. That actually sounds like a fun game. A game my kids would love. Proof that "lame" is in the eye of the beholder. Also, you're an adult, I assume. At least you're old enough not to be considered a "camper." You know that sometimes you gotta do what you don't wanna do and you know that if you whine and say: "This is laaaame!" that people are going to think you're *such* a pain. So you do it anyway and no, it doesn't hurt. Kids - especially the younger ones - don't know that. Don't care, either. They just know that they don't want to play and thinking about it makes their stomach hurt, so they sit down. Kids are self-centered. Not in a bad way, just in a kid way. You have to learn to handle that somehow. And you have to learn to handle it in some way other than just repeating the mantra: "It's required." - Bev |
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"Scott" wrote in message
... beeswing wrote: Jeff wrote: This is a YMCA camp. The C is for Christian. I think Mose, Christ and Santa Claus are fair game. I believe YMCA activities are open to folks/kids of all ethnicities and religious backgrounds. [snip] That's probably true. But I don't think anyone should be surprised if a YMCA/YWCA camp activity assumed a knowledge of Moses, or Christ. I don't think surprise has anything to do with it -- at least, for me. I'd want keep things open to as many kids as possible, that's all. If the camp is open to all, why make kids who aren't Christian feel like outsiders? (Oh, and isn't Moses the one that had something to do with a burning bush?) beeswing |
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Scott wrote: beeswing wrote: Jeff wrote: This is a YMCA camp. The C is for Christian. I think Mose, Christ and Santa Claus are fair game. I believe YMCA activities are open to folks/kids of all ethnicities and religious backgrounds. [snip] That's probably true. But I don't think anyone should be surprised if a YMCA/YWCA camp activity assumed a knowledge of Moses, or Christ. Scott, DD 10.9 and DS 2.3 I would. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Beeswing wrote:
"Scott" wrote in message ... beeswing wrote: Jeff wrote: This is a YMCA camp. The C is for Christian. I think Mose, Christ and Santa Claus are fair game. I believe YMCA activities are open to folks/kids of all ethnicities and religious backgrounds. [snip] That's probably true. But I don't think anyone should be surprised if a YMCA/YWCA camp activity assumed a knowledge of Moses, or Christ. I don't think surprise has anything to do with it -- at least, for me. I'd want keep things open to as many kids as possible, that's all. If the camp is open to all, why make kids who aren't Christian feel like outsiders? (Oh, and isn't Moses the one that had something to do with a burning bush?) I guess a question might be: what's wrong with feeling like an outsider? Do you expect a child to be a non- outsider their entire life? I think learning to deal with being un-in is a pretty handy skill, and the earlier learned the better. If DD/DS had experienced something in a camp that they didn't understand, I would treat it as a learning opportunity and we would look it up. I might also prepare them with a brief 'you may not understand everything at this camp...I'll ask you tonight and help you understand things that confuse you' kind of talk. Alternatively, I could respond to their confusion with rage at the person causing the confusion. My opinion is the former course of action is to be preferred. If I send my child to a camp that is affiliated with some religion, I will prep them in advance that there may be some things about that religion that they don't know that may come up. And if they do come up, we'll look them up, or they should ask the counselor. Presumably, the kids in the know are not actively jeering those who are ignorant. (If they are, I'd have to ask myself how the heck I agreed to send my kids there!) Scott DD 10.9 and DS 8.4 |
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"Scott" wrote in message
... Beeswing wrote: I guess a question might be: what's wrong with feeling like an outsider? Do you expect a child to be a non- outsider their entire life? I think learning to deal with being un-in is a pretty handy skill, and the earlier learned the better. I guess my answer would be: It depends. It depends largely on how the "outsider" is made to feel. In my experience, attitudes to outsiders can run from open acceptance to outright hostility. If I were in a game where I was just beginning to get to know folks, I *personally* wouldn't want to start out from the position of being put on the defensive. Once I knew people better, I'd be more open to discussing the differences between myself and the other folks present. I guess part of what I'd like to ask you is: What do you see as the point of the game in this particular setting? To have the kids get to know each other better? To get them feeling comfortable with each other as a group? Or to teach them a lesson about the differences in people -- even if that means that the kids who are different in certain ways might feel some distress? beeswing |
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dealing with recalcitrant child (was Help with a camp activity)
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, Luna wrote: In article , Kevin Karplus wrote: I'm sure glad I'm not sending my 8-year-old son to your summer camp! Being forced to play a lame game like that one would result in even more stubborn fits than school does. He might CHOOSE to play such a game, but being given no options is almost certain to result in massive disobedience. Getting him to go back the second day would probably be nearly impossible. ... Hopefully we will have enough variety that everyone will have fun at some point, but there is no way to be 100% sure that 100% of the kids enjoy 100% of the activities. And having "everyone just do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it" simply would not work, unless we had enough money for each kid to have his or her own individual counsellor to follow them around to the pool, the soccer field, the arts and crafts area, etc. Actually it would have to be two counsellors per kid since regulations forbid any counsellor to be alone with a kid. I think a later message from Luna indicated that she hoped to have some variety available at any time. That is a more reasonable goal than either extreme (every kid does his own thing or everyone must do exactly the same thing). Oh, and as for your child having fits when told to do something by an authority figure, how does he handle having to do homework? Or take a test? Or be quiet in class during lessons? If his reaction to being told what to do by an authority figure is to have a fit, then I'm glad he's not coming to our camp either. Getting him to do homework is difficult if he decides he doesn't want to do it. He generally likes tests, though he hasn't had many so far. The "stubborn fit" generally manifests as a shutdown---unwilling to do anything, rather than as out-of-control behavior. We would not send him to a structured summer camp that offered him few choices (unless he had chosen to go), because it would be unfair both to him and to the counselors. (We certainly wouldn't send him to a sports camp, as he has absolutely no interest in sports.) He did very well last year at a science camp run by the Long Marine Lab, and we expect him to do well at the one-week theater day camp he's going to this year. In both cases, he had bought into the goals of the camp ahead of time, and wanted what they had to offer. He's generally better with real work than with busywork. Being quiet in class is no problem---he just reads a book. The problems come when they want him to STOP reading---particularly when they want him to write. We have worked out different strategies with different teachers to get him to do his work without causing a fuss. No technique is foolproof, but here are some of what we found helped: Physical preconditions: Make sure he has had enough sleep the night before. Make sure he has eaten in the last 2-4 hours. Make sure he has peed in the last 4 hours. Mental preconditions: Make assignments be fun activities. Offer choices whenever possible---he's much more willing to work hard on things he has chosen. Explain what the purpose of an assignment is---what is to be learned or accomplished. He's more willing to do something if he sees the point to doing it. Find out what his objection is, and see if he can propose a compromise (sometimes his objections are to some trivial or stupid part of an assignment that can be skipped or replaced). He's often willing to do something more difficult, if he sees it as more fun. Desperation measures: Negotiate a "deal"---what does he want in return for doing what you want? Often the deals he proposes are quite reasonable. Offer bribes (like getting to read ahead in the story if he answers the questions, or extra screen time if the homework is done early). Use "natural consequence" threats (like no computer time until the homework is done). Some of the standard bribes and threats teachers use (like staying in during recess or going to the principal's office) are ineffective with him---he'd rather stay in and read a book, and he likes the principal better than he likes his teacher (in Santa Cruz---he doesn't know the principal well in Seattle). -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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