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Sibling Rivalry
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Can anyone advise me on how to deal with a jelous 6 year old. The twins are now 19 months old and his behaviour has just got worse since they were born. He's really cheaky, won't go to bed all the usual stuff I suppose. I have always been very good at routine but he seams to be very good at messing things up. I've tried different approaches, being upset, being quiet, shouting, smacking, taking things off him.... nothing works, he is really quite good with the twins and they love him! Everyone he spends time with.... without us, says what a good boy he is, school is very pleased with him - who is this boy? I would like to see him once in a while. I know this is probably normal but is there anything new to try and how long will it last??? Luckily the babies are quite good, they sleep well - at least 12 hours a night and they only fall out with eachother a little bit. Anyone any suggestions, it would be really appreciated!!! Tanya Notts - England |
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Sibling Rivalry
Our 6 year olds do not have jealousy over their sister ... but we are
definitely going through a challenging time of not wanting to listen or cooperate *at home* while perfect or near-perfect everywhere else. No suggestions, we are floundering too, but wanted to LYK you are not alone. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Tanya Makins" wrote in message ... Hi, Can anyone advise me on how to deal with a jelous 6 year old. The twins are now 19 months old and his behaviour has just got worse since they were born. He's really cheaky, won't go to bed all the usual stuff I suppose. I have always been very good at routine but he seams to be very good at messing things up. I've tried different approaches, being upset, being quiet, shouting, smacking, taking things off him.... nothing works, he is really quite good with the twins and they love him! Everyone he spends time with.... without us, says what a good boy he is, school is very pleased with him - who is this boy? I would like to see him once in a while. I know this is probably normal but is there anything new to try and how long will it last??? Luckily the babies are quite good, they sleep well - at least 12 hours a night and they only fall out with eachother a little bit. Anyone any suggestions, it would be really appreciated!!! Tanya Notts - England |
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Sibling Rivalry
Is it contagious in this ng or what? We're having the same problems with our
four-year-olds, though they seem to be tag-teaming. Ashlyn started with the really "fresh" mouth a month or so ago (telling us "no" when we told her to do something, telling us she wished she didn't have a mommy/daddy, deliberately disobeying right after we told her not to do something, etc.) and it has gradually gotten better over the past week or so-- after many trips to her room to sit by herself and do nothing and removal of priveledges like tv, computer time, playing outside. But, Allyson has been driving me nuts the past few days with the same sort of behaviors, so here we go again. She pushed me today until she lost all of her tv time-- which meant no peace and quiet for me and an hour of her crying. Maybe it made an impression or at least I can hope. We have the new baby thing going on and I think that might be part of it. They start preschool next week which I think will help-- might curtail some boredom which I think may be part of the problem also. Anyway, I'm not much help, but you're really not alone! -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) ... but we are definitely going through a challenging time of not wanting to listen or cooperate *at home* while perfect or near-perfect everywhere else. No suggestions, we are floundering too, but wanted to LYK you are not alone. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) |
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Right before the two went to school the bad behavior escalated to the top,
totally out of control no matter what we did, lots and I mean lots of fighting between the two. Lots of button pushing for the parents too. We tried to make sure they went out daily, swimming, park, etc, but starting school has certainly helped a bit. Although the book by Eng and Ames says 8 year olds don't get along with siblings (oh boy am I in trouble), no matter if older or younger and it's their final push before they become introverted and pulling away from parents and family at 9. It's also a point in time they need mom totally and inhale her - again before they go away but I can tell you it's like a dog I used to own, always, and I mean always underfoot, always fighting for attention and louder and more articulate than 4. Good luck all of you. Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 "Cindy Senger" wrote in message ... Is it contagious in this ng or what? We're having the same problems with our four-year-olds, though they seem to be tag-teaming. Ashlyn started with the really "fresh" mouth a month or so ago (telling us "no" when we told her to do something, telling us she wished she didn't have a mommy/daddy, deliberately disobeying right after we told her not to do something, etc.) and it has gradually gotten better over the past week or so-- after many trips to her room to sit by herself and do nothing and removal of priveledges like tv, computer time, playing outside. But, Allyson has been driving me nuts the past few days with the same sort of behaviors, so here we go again. She pushed me today until she lost all of her tv time-- which meant no peace and quiet for me and an hour of her crying. Maybe it made an impression or at least I can hope. We have the new baby thing going on and I think that might be part of it. They start preschool next week which I think will help-- might curtail some boredom which I think may be part of the problem also. Anyway, I'm not much help, but you're really not alone! -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) ... but we are definitely going through a challenging time of not wanting to listen or cooperate *at home* while perfect or near-perfect everywhere else. No suggestions, we are floundering too, but wanted to LYK you are not alone. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) |
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