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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
Hi, I dont know anywhere else but here to post this and I'm hoping
someone here can help me. My son is 14 months old and HAS to be rocked to go to sleep. It all started when he came off the bottle @ 9 months--this was his way of going to sleep so once he got off the bottle we started rocking him, PLUS his been so sick laltey with ear infections LITERALLY every other week that we had to rock him to soothe him. Now his 14 months and 25lbs and getting to heavy for me to rock for 25 mins every night/nap. I tried tonight to put him to bed with a fav toy and some lullabyes but after 25 mins he STILL was crying--and had himself coughing as if to throw-up. So of course I went in and got him---which at this time he cuddled into my shoulder and fell asleep within 5 mins--BUT I REALLY need him to start going to bed on his own for 2 reasons. #1 his starting at daycare soon and needs to get use to it and #2 I physically cant do it anymore. The worst part of it all is that you have to pace the floor while rocking/bouncing him to sleep. Anyone who can help I will be forever in debt LOL! PLEASE SOMEONE ANYONE HELP ME! TIA |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
Hi, I dont know anywhere else but here to post this and I'm hoping someone here can help me. My son is 14 months old and HAS to be rocked to go to sleep. It all started when he came off the bottle @ 9 months--this was his way of going to sleep so once he got off the bottle we started rocking him, PLUS his been so sick laltey with ear infections LITERALLY every other week that we had to rock him to soothe him. Now his 14 months and 25lbs and getting to heavy for me to rock for 25 mins every night/nap. I tried tonight to put him to bed with a fav toy and some lullabyes but after 25 mins he STILL was crying--and had himself coughing as if to throw-up. So of course I went in and got him---which at this time he cuddled into my shoulder and fell asleep within 5 mins--BUT I REALLY need him to start going to bed on his own for 2 reasons. #1 his starting at daycare soon and needs to get use to it and #2 I physically cant do it anymore. The worst part of it all is that you have to pace the floor while rocking/bouncing him to sleep. Anyone who can help I will be forever in debt LOL! PLEASE SOMEONE ANYONE HELP ME! TIA There is no easy solution to this problem. It's something that you should have been working on well before you were incapable of holding him any more. What you are going to have to do is start putting him down when he is drowsy but not out. Of course, he'll wake up and cry. Wait a few minutes before picking him back up, and repeat. Put him down drowsy but not out. Rinse and repeat. It's going to be a long night, and probably take a few nights, so you may need to have your mom or hubby get off work and come help out during the day, so you can nap and recharge. But after a few days, he should learn the new routine. Once he is able to lay by himself drowsy without pitching a fit, you should be able to rock him less and less. Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
I'm the 1st one to admit I should of worked this out b4 it got to the
stage of not being able to rock him anymore...BUT WITH THAT SAID.....please put yourself in my shoes---you have a sick baby whos sick every wk of every month for the past 6 months, you would do whatever you could to ease there pain and make them feel better. Jamie Clark wrote: Blue Eyes Blue wrote: Hi, I dont know anywhere else but here to post this and I'm hoping someone here can help me. My son is 14 months old and HAS to be rocked to go to sleep. It all started when he came off the bottle @ 9 months--this was his way of going to sleep so once he got off the bottle we started rocking him, PLUS his been so sick laltey with ear infections LITERALLY every other week that we had to rock him to soothe him. Now his 14 months and 25lbs and getting to heavy for me to rock for 25 mins every night/nap. I tried tonight to put him to bed with a fav toy and some lullabyes but after 25 mins he STILL was crying--and had himself coughing as if to throw-up. So of course I went in and got him---which at this time he cuddled into my shoulder and fell asleep within 5 mins--BUT I REALLY need him to start going to bed on his own for 2 reasons. #1 his starting at daycare soon and needs to get use to it and #2 I physically cant do it anymore. The worst part of it all is that you have to pace the floor while rocking/bouncing him to sleep. Anyone who can help I will be forever in debt LOL! PLEASE SOMEONE ANYONE HELP ME! TIA There is no easy solution to this problem. It's something that you should have been working on well before you were incapable of holding him any more. What you are going to have to do is start putting him down when he is drowsy but not out. Of course, he'll wake up and cry. Wait a few minutes before picking him back up, and repeat. Put him down drowsy but not out. Rinse and repeat. It's going to be a long night, and probably take a few nights, so you may need to have your mom or hubby get off work and come help out during the day, so you can nap and recharge. But after a few days, he should learn the new routine. Once he is able to lay by himself drowsy without pitching a fit, you should be able to rock him less and less. Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
I'm the 1st one to admit I should of worked this out b4 it got to the stage of not being able to rock him anymore...BUT WITH THAT SAID.....please put yourself in my shoes---you have a sick baby whos sick every wk of every month for the past 6 months, you would do whatever you could to ease there pain and make them feel better. It doesn't really change the outcome though does it? The easiest solution to "right nows" problem often isn't the same one that you want for the long term. It is hard when baby is sick, but even when baby was well, you were rocking him to sleep. This is the culmination of a long history of bedtime routines, not just this last few weeks during illness. I do have a daughter who is sick all the time, and I still don't rock her to sleep. I never really started down that path, so I didn't get stuck on it. My daughter Addie seems to always be teething, or have an ear infection. She's often cranky and whining and saying "owie." There are other ways to sooth a child, but you have to break him of this habit first. It's not going to be easy, and if every time it gets hard you give in and rock him "to make him feel better" then you are never going to win this battle. Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
I posted on here for helpfull suggestions from understanding mothers in
the same or similar situaions....The only feedback I have received is neg. I KNOW I CASUED THIS ROCKING SITUATION MYSELF....if you read my post carefully you can see that---I HAVE REALIZED THAT AND I AM NOW ASKING FOR HELP---not ppl to razz my parenting skills. And weither you, tom, dick or harry agree with me rocking my child to sleep to ease his pain I AGREE with it and thats the choise I as his mother made. If anyone has any helpfull and NON-JUDGEMENTAL suggestions thank you very much for your time. Jamie Clark wrote: Blue Eyes Blue wrote: I'm the 1st one to admit I should of worked this out b4 it got to the stage of not being able to rock him anymore...BUT WITH THAT SAID.....please put yourself in my shoes---you have a sick baby whos sick every wk of every month for the past 6 months, you would do whatever you could to ease there pain and make them feel better. It doesn't really change the outcome though does it? The easiest solution to "right nows" problem often isn't the same one that you want for the long term. It is hard when baby is sick, but even when baby was well, you were rocking him to sleep. This is the culmination of a long history of bedtime routines, not just this last few weeks during illness. I do have a daughter who is sick all the time, and I still don't rock her to sleep. I never really started down that path, so I didn't get stuck on it. My daughter Addie seems to always be teething, or have an ear infection. She's often cranky and whining and saying "owie." There are other ways to sooth a child, but you have to break him of this habit first. It's not going to be easy, and if every time it gets hard you give in and rock him "to make him feel better" then you are never going to win this battle. Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
We co-sleep but I wonder if you could move him to a bed where you can lay
down with him. Rock him for five minutes and then lay down next to him and just be there with him. He may cry but it's not the kind of crying they do when they are alone. He won't be scared. |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
and FYI for whos concerned: my child was NEVER rocked b4 the illness
started or when teething etc....andhis ear infections are more than the typical ear infections theres more to it than that...its an underlying condition more than the usual "ear infection". Thanks Jamie Clark wrote: Blue Eyes Blue wrote: I'm the 1st one to admit I should of worked this out b4 it got to the stage of not being able to rock him anymore...BUT WITH THAT SAID.....please put yourself in my shoes---you have a sick baby whos sick every wk of every month for the past 6 months, you would do whatever you could to ease there pain and make them feel better. It doesn't really change the outcome though does it? The easiest solution to "right nows" problem often isn't the same one that you want for the long term. It is hard when baby is sick, but even when baby was well, you were rocking him to sleep. This is the culmination of a long history of bedtime routines, not just this last few weeks during illness. I do have a daughter who is sick all the time, and I still don't rock her to sleep. I never really started down that path, so I didn't get stuck on it. My daughter Addie seems to always be teething, or have an ear infection. She's often cranky and whining and saying "owie." There are other ways to sooth a child, but you have to break him of this habit first. It's not going to be easy, and if every time it gets hard you give in and rock him "to make him feel better" then you are never going to win this battle. Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
"Blue Eyes Blue" wrote in message ups.com... and FYI for whos concerned: my child was NEVER rocked b4 the illness started or when teething etc....andhis ear infections are more than the typical ear infections theres more to it than that...its an underlying condition more than the usual "ear infection". Thanks I would never judge you ... I still rock my 2.5 year old to sleep sometimes and my 17 month old son nurses to sleep for many naps. It's voluntary at this point to nurse or rock to sleep, but something we didn't transition to until I thought they were "old enough." |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
I posted on here for helpfull suggestions from understanding mothers in the same or similar situaions....The only feedback I have received is neg. I KNOW I CASUED THIS ROCKING SITUATION MYSELF....if you read my post carefully you can see that---I HAVE REALIZED THAT AND I AM NOW ASKING FOR HELP---not ppl to razz my parenting skills. And weither you, tom, dick or harry agree with me rocking my child to sleep to ease his pain I AGREE with it and thats the choise I as his mother made. If anyone has any helpfull and NON-JUDGEMENTAL suggestions thank you very much for your time. Jamie Clark wrote: Blue Eyes Blue wrote: I'm the 1st one to admit I should of worked this out b4 it got to the stage of not being able to rock him anymore...BUT WITH THAT SAID.....please put yourself in my shoes---you have a sick baby whos sick every wk of every month for the past 6 months, you would do whatever you could to ease there pain and make them feel better. It doesn't really change the outcome though does it? The easiest solution to "right nows" problem often isn't the same one that you want for the long term. It is hard when baby is sick, but even when baby was well, you were rocking him to sleep. This is the culmination of a long history of bedtime routines, not just this last few weeks during illness. I do have a daughter who is sick all the time, and I still don't rock her to sleep. I never really started down that path, so I didn't get stuck on it. My daughter Addie seems to always be teething, or have an ear infection. She's often cranky and whining and saying "owie." There are other ways to sooth a child, but you have to break him of this habit first. It's not going to be easy, and if every time it gets hard you give in and rock him "to make him feel better" then you are never going to win this battle. Good luck. If you reread my original post, I did give you concrete advice on what to do to solve this problem. I just stated a fact that it's not going to be easy. Not much in parenting is. Breaking habits like this are tough, especially at this age. Toddlers get very set in their ways. As I've said from the beginning, good luck. And I don't mean that sarcastically. I really wish you well. It's going to be tough, but you can do it! -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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14 Month Old Wont Go To Sleep Without Being Rocked!
Thanks dagny I will try that Good idea, he just got a toddler bed
for his birthday. Dagny wrote: We co-sleep but I wonder if you could move him to a bed where you can lay down with him. Rock him for five minutes and then lay down next to him and just be there with him. He may cry but it's not the kind of crying they do when they are alone. He won't be scared. |
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