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"Penny Gaines" wrote in message ... Donna wrote: The concept of "smart tie dye" is entirely new to me. waves to Penny Gaines Pretty isn't it? Oh yes, some of them are really lovely. I'm old enough to be aware of the hippy connection, but young enough to have missed out on hippy culture. Same here. Donna |
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On Sat, 25 Jun 2005 22:18:50 GMT, Clisby
wrote: My children have never been at schools that had parent-teachers conferences in the evening, but I'm getting the impression that's more common. Generally, the schools in my area in Illinois had one daytime and one evening set of conferences on a Thursday and Friday so that parents could sign up for an evening if they could not get off work and other parents who were at home or worked part time and had flexible schedules could sign up for the daytime conferences. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Stephanie wrote: I'm not L, but I will answer this one. No, it is not kind. Nor is it kind to make judgements about people who may not agree with or clued in to what *I* think is kind. Personally, I think the system that works the best is for everyone to try to give everyone else the benefit of the doubt, and also for everyone to try as hard as is practical not to need the benefit of the doubt. Everyone makes mistakes and it's a friendlier world if an occasional mistake doesn't result in social catastrophe. OTOH, for someone to count on the fact that the system has some slack in it to constantly make 'mistakes' and get tolerated kind of bugs me. I mean, if L showed up to an event I was giving dressed inappropriately, I *wouldn't* be getting the wrong impression if I concluded that it was because L doesn't give a rat's posterior about me or my feelings about clothes or the feelings of the other people there. Beth |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: I wasn't arguing the last point, but I do agree with it. Whether they are right or wrong -- capitalism will sort it all out. So only folks who have money to hand out in the form of salaries have any right to expectations, Private businesses (which preschools are, of course) have the right to set their own standard, assuming that there is no bias in them. I've never stated otherwise, despite some clearly lame attempts (by others, not you) to try to attach that notion to my posts. There are expectations in general society as well, but they are obviously a bit looser. That sounds contradictory to me. Can you clarify your argumentation? Basically, it seems to me that whenever I try to pin you down, you seem to slither I'm not "slithering" at all. I've been honest and up front, as best as possible, throughout this thread. around to a position of admitting that there *are* expectations, but they vary regionally and by specific context, with some expectations in some situations being looser than others. That sounds to me like you're arguing more about *where* the line should be drawn, rather than when there *is* a line. But then, when that proposition is put to you, you slither around to a position where you seem to be denying that there *should* be a line at all. So, I'm a bit confused by your argumentation and am unsure where you really stand on this. I already clarified this below. Slither down and find it. and accept whatever attire others choose, regardless of how offensive or inappropriate they might find it? It depends on what you mean by "accept". Happily live with it, no. Deal with the fact that others choose to live with it, yes. I know *I* have never suggested that anyone doesn't have to live in the real, messy world where they don't necessarily like what others have to say. I don't always like what others say verbally, and I don't always like what they have to say non-verbally either. Where did anyone get the notion that they get to live in a world where everything is to their liking? I don't know. I don't have that notion either. And when society as a whole finds such "messages" inappropriate, like nudity, or music at a certain volume, or advertisements in certain places, then they can (and do) make them illegal. Are you arguing that the only restraints on one's behavior that one needs to observe are those that are formally codified into law? No, I stated that in the private sphere, that is a different story. In the public sphere, law is what people *must* recognize. P. Tierney |
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wrote in message oups.com... I'm not Ericka, but yes, I think it's kind (and an essential part of living in a society) to take minor pains to keep people from feeling offended/deeply uncomfortable. I agree in some instances. But I also think that people need to take minor pains from *being* easily offended/deeply uncomfortable. If I heard that from the other side, with a slew of "but's" following it, I'd feel a bit better about this conversation. P. Tierney |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: That is significant. The receiver can choose to not make any conclusions at all. It is a choice, as I see it. You disagree. Correct. I would say that the receiver can choose not to *act* on his or her interpretation, but the receiver cannot choose not to *perceive* a message. And as has come up several times on my end: the perceiver can *choose* not to take such their reactions, which are grounded in their own preconceptions, as truth. I don't think I have touched on the issue of truth, either. "Truth" is a challenging subject when it comes to communication. What does "true" mean in this context? Are you asserting that there is objective truth which may be ascertained through communication, verbal or otherwise? I suppose "truth" in this case might be true with regards to accuracy of the wearer's intent. True with regards to whatever the dress is saying about his/her meaning, or conclusions that one would draw about the person. And you might state that if the perceiver(s) percept a certain message, then that is what matters and that the wearer should change if they do not wish to convey such a message. And round and round we go again! P. Tierney |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... P. Tierney wrote: One group on this thread is asking for a restraint of dress choices, at least in certain situations. Another group on this thread is asking for a restraint from judging and/or making conclusions based upon those dress choices. We all want restraint, but want it from different directions. And those two directions are not likely to ever meet. Whatever makes you think that? In my experience, they meet every day in a thousand different areas. In fact, nothing works well without *both* of them operating. The "we" in this case was the two (though there might be more) approaches to this issue in this thread. I got that part. There isn't any reconciling them. I disagree with that. My view isn't changing, and I'm surely not alone. I think it is perfectly possible and sensible to say that every individual has responsibility *both* for his or her presentation of self (in word and deed, including choice of clothing) *and* for how he or she chooses to act based on information. Those responsibilities exist with verbal communication *and* nonverbal communication. People deal with those responsibilities every day, most with a reasonable degree of success. To me, the responsibilities lay in refraining from any judgment or meaningful interpretation with regards to dress, with a few possible exceptions. We think differently on the matter, and will surely continue to do so. P. Tierney |
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P. Tierney wrote: SNIP Are you arguing that the only restraints on one's behavior that one needs to observe are those that are formally codified into law? No, I stated that in the private sphere, that is a different story. In the public sphere, law is what people *must* recognize. I'm trying to understand, since this is obviously quite foreign to me. Is what you're saying that in the *private* sphere, you recognize that people may impose limitations -- eg, you would respect an employer's dress code, or even an invitation to a private party that included a suggested level of attire? Would you also, eg, abide by a sign in the window of a restaurant that said *no shirt, no shoes, no service*? If there wasn't such a sign in the restaurant window(for example), would you recognize a norm in our society that other than at the beach or a pool, restaurant patrons are generally expected to wear shirts and shoes? Or would you say that's in the public sphere, and that the patrons should be free to wear what they want? The whole public and private thing is making my head spin since other than my home, most things are pretty well mixed for me. Is school public or private sphere? For example, let's say a parent worked as a stripper. Do you think it be incumbent upon a teacher who would be offended if that parent attended the 3d grade play in a g-string and pasties (assuming its legal to wear those in public; or let's say a very brief bikini, since that's more certain to be legal) to send a note home to all parents announcing that fact, since there's no law against it? Barbara |
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P. Tierney wrote: wrote in message oups.com... I'm not Ericka, but yes, I think it's kind (and an essential part of living in a society) to take minor pains to keep people from feeling offended/deeply uncomfortable. I agree in some instances. In what instances do you think its not appropriate for people to take minor pains to avoid offending others, or making others feel deeply uncomfortable? But I also think that people need to take minor pains from *being* easily offended/deeply uncomfortable. If I heard that from the other side, with a slew of "but's" following it, I'd feel a bit better about this conversation. No *buts* about it; I agree wholeheartedly, and I don't offend easily with regard to matters of dress. But I still people that the primary onus is on the communicator. Barbara |
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