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"deja.blues" wrote in message news:fLx6h.956$672.495@trndny01... I'm bemused that in a breastfeeding newsgroup, noone seems to be aware that the very hormones that sustain breastfeeding also put a huge damper on female sexual response. Breastfeeding lowers levels of estradiol (the hormone responsible for keeping the urogenital tract lubricated and supple) and raises the prolactin hormone, which suppresses sexual desire and lowers testosterone - the hormone in both genders that stokes desire. If you are breastfeeding for a year or more, not having sex can become a way of life. Not to mention that after having a baby hanging off of you all day (and night) the last thing you want is a full-grown man doing the same thing. Hormones rule us as switches that go on and off. Many (most) women have no interest in sex until they stop breastfeeding. This is so common as to be ubiquitous. |
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determined wrote:
My only real drive to "change it" comes from guilt more than anything. Yeah. I've told DH he can go find some young chickee if he wants to. -- Anita -- |
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"Irrational Number" wrote in message
Yeah. I've told DH he can go find some young chickee if he wants to. That's sad. Not a good way to continue a solid marriage. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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deja.blues wrote: "determined" wrote in message . .. I know this is going to sound just awful, but my daughter is 11 months old now, and my husband and I have only had sex about 6 times since she was born... I feel really horrible, but at first I was so exhausted I couldn't care less, and now, I've been bleeding and cramping since August when I got my mirena put in. My doc says it can take up to 6 months for that to stop, or I can just have it taken out and go with another form of bc. I really like not having to think about bc, and I've made it this far, hoping things will get better soon. Something else doesn't seem to be quite right either - I just don't want it. Like there is zero "urge". I'm beginning to feel defective. What is wrong with me? I feel like a horrible wife. My husband is very supportive, but I know he misses the intimacy. I'm not sure what to do. "Just do it"? I'm bemused that in a breastfeeding newsgroup, noone seems to be aware that the very hormones that sustains breastfeeding also puts a huge damper on female sexual response. Breastfeeding lowers levels of estradiol (the hormone responsible for keeping the urogenital tract lubricated and supple) and raises the prolactin hormone, which suppresses sexual desire and lowers testosterone - the hormone in both genders that stokes desire. If you are breastfeeding for a year or more, not having sex can become a way of life. Not to mention that after having a baby hanging off of you all day (and night) the last thing you want is a full-grown man doing the same thing. Ok, that solidifies it. My hormones are all out of whack. I *want* that! The nipples themselves are off limits (at least they were, now it doesn't bother me), but I'm quite anxious for it and complaining there's not enough. |
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"Sue" wrote in message news:KvWdnZ85i4D2a8fYnZ2dnUVZ_tidnZ2d@wideopenwest .com... "Irrational Number" wrote in message Yeah. I've told DH he can go find some young chickee if he wants to. That's sad. Not a good way to continue a solid marriage. Um, I'm sure it's a JOKE. I joke with my husband like that too. It just depends on your relationship and sense of humor. |
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"deja.blues" wrote in message news:2hy6h.1263$8u1.741@trndny04... edited for grammar "deja.blues" wrote in message news:fLx6h.956$672.495@trndny01... I'm bemused that in a breastfeeding newsgroup, noone seems to be aware that the very hormones that sustain breastfeeding also put a huge damper on female sexual response. Breastfeeding lowers levels of estradiol (the hormone responsible for keeping the urogenital tract lubricated and supple) and raises the prolactin hormone, which suppresses sexual desire and lowers testosterone - the hormone in both genders that stokes desire. If you are breastfeeding for a year or more, not having sex can become a way of life. Not to mention that after having a baby hanging off of you all day (and night) the last thing you want is a full-grown man doing the same thing. Hormones rule us as switches that go on and off. Many (most) women have no interest in sex until they stop breastfeeding. This is so common as to be ubiquitous. Well, I haven't been breastfeeding for over 6 months. |
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determined wrote:
"Sue" wrote in message news:KvWdnZ85i4D2a8fYnZ2dnUVZ_tidnZ2d@wideopenwest .com... "Irrational Number" wrote in message Yeah. I've told DH he can go find some young chickee if he wants to. That's sad. Not a good way to continue a solid marriage. Um, I'm sure it's a JOKE. I joke with my husband like that too. It just depends on your relationship and sense of humor. Thank you, determined! I did put a smiley there... -- Anita -- |
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"Irrational Number" wrote in message
Thank you, determined! I did put a smiley there... I knew you were kidding. I saw the smiley face. However, the fact remains that many women once they become mothers is to forget about their husbands and their relationship. Many mothers put so much time and energy into the kids that they forget that they are separate from their kids and lose sight of themselves. I think the best gift parents can give to their children, is a healthy loving relationship and showing them that their marriage is important to them. Face it, motherhood can suck the life out of us women and it's better to create a balance than to forget about your life. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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On Nov 16, 6:48 am, "Sue" wrote:
"Irrational Number" wrote in message Thank you, determined! I did put a smiley there...I knew you were kidding. I saw the smiley face. However, the fact remains that many women once they become mothers is to forget about their husbands and their relationship. I agree with Sue... It's not like I have a fantastic sex drive (ha). I didn't even have a fantastic sex drive *before* I had Micah. But I do believe that not only is having sex is an important part of your relationship with your partner, but that it's not healthy for the relationship *not* to have sex. And sometimes that means doing it even if it's not the top of your priority list. Obviously I don't think people should pressure/guilt their breastfeeding/exhausted partners into having sex. And obviously there are ways partners can take some of the burden off mothers so we're not so exhausted. But I think relationships are a two-way street, and those of us who don't necessarily want to jump in the sack all the time need to make more of an effort. (dang, DH would be calling me miss-preachy-no-action if he read this post...) Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 |
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emilymr skrev:
Obviously I don't think people should pressure/guilt their breastfeeding/exhausted partners into having sex. And obviously there are ways partners can take some of the burden off mothers so we're not so exhausted. But I think relationships are a two-way street, and those of us who don't necessarily want to jump in the sack all the time need to make more of an effort. (dang, DH would be calling me miss-preachy-no-action if he read this post...) Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 In Denmark is was once said that the best way for a man of obtaining sex in a marriage is to grab a vacuum cleaner and do the dishes (not WITH the VC, though) It's not like something for something, but if you've sat on the sofa knitting for an hour while your hubby does some of the necessary work you'd have more energy at bedtime to think about other things than sleep. Tine, Denmark |
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