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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
I know this has been discussed on here a few times, but it's my turn to
whine now. DS's nighttime sleeping habits have regressed to about where he was at 5 weeks - maybe even worse than that. He had been sleeping through the night, every night. He's 4 1/2 months right now. Around the 4 month mark, he started waking every night. His current pattern is to go to sleep around 8 (sometimes 7 if he's really sleepy, sometimes 9 if he's not), then wake around 2ish. I feed him and then I put him back in bed. He seems sound asleep, but wakes up crying in a few minutes. He usually wakes up every 15 minutes or so for an hour and then goes back to sleep (finally) for an hour or so. If we're lucky, he'll stay asleep until I get up at 5:30 to feed him before heading off to day care. Usually though, he wakes again at 4 and then goes back to sleep and won't eat at 5:30 before going to day care. I've tried sending DH in to comfort him back to sleep thinking that maybe he isn't really hungry. DH will get him back to sleep, but he wakes up again minutes after he lays him down in the crib. After a couple of times of this, I give up and go feed him. I really don't think that's the problem though, since he wakes back up after I feed him, too. Another reason that I don't think it's hunger thing is because when he does on days that I don't work, he eats at 2ish and 4ish (while he's basically asleep) and then doesn't eat again until 10. Over the holidays, I tried bringing him into our bed. We had tried cosleeping when he was tiny, but it didn't work because he'd immediately spit-up all over me if I nursed him lying down and he'd wake if anything in the bed came near him. His spit-up problem is under control now, so after he woke the first time, I just brought him in the with me and fed him. We both slept very fitfully because we kept waking each other up. He doesn't comfort nurse because I have a strong letdown and he learned early that he didn't like that. He sucks his thumb instead. Several times, I heard him start enthusiastically sucking his thumb to soothe himself back to sleep. However, when that didn't work, he just starts screaming and the only way to get him back to sleep is to stand up and walk him around the room or go to his room and rock in the glider. So, that didn't really help much. I don't know what else to do. I'm not really willing to let him cry. I tried leaving in his crib and comforting him (patting his back and talking softly). He quieted, but didn't go back to sleep. My arm went numb from rubbing his back, but as soon as I'd stop, he's start crying. So, there's my whine for the day. He just seems to have lost his ability to self-soothe. We used to here him wake all the time and he'd make a little noise and then you'd hear him sucking his thumb and he'd go back to sleep. I don't know how to re-teach that since I didn't teach him in the first place. Manda |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
I don't have any advice, and this might not help any at all. But it is
normal for babies to go from sleeping through the night until about 4-6 months, and then start waking up. He may be starting to teeth, even if he has no outward signs. And that's pretty painful, so it could be why he's crying more at night. (I just recently found out why babies cry when they teeth... I've got a tooth coming through, probably a wisdom tooth... and boy does it HURT.) It's usually linked to reaching new milestones or teething... and from the experience I've had with other moms, I don't think theres much you can do to fix it. But I'm sure someone out there will have SOME advice for you other than crying it out. Cadie wrote in message ... I know this has been discussed on here a few times, but it's my turn to whine now. DS's nighttime sleeping habits have regressed to about where he was at 5 weeks - maybe even worse than that. He had been sleeping through the night, every night. He's 4 1/2 months right now. Around the 4 month mark, he started waking every night. His current pattern is to go to sleep around 8 (sometimes 7 if he's really sleepy, sometimes 9 if he's not), then wake around 2ish. I feed him and then I put him back in bed. He seems sound asleep, but wakes up crying in a few minutes. He usually wakes up every 15 minutes or so for an hour and then goes back to sleep (finally) for an hour or so. If we're lucky, he'll stay asleep until I get up at 5:30 to feed him before heading off to day care. Usually though, he wakes again at 4 and then goes back to sleep and won't eat at 5:30 before going to day care. I've tried sending DH in to comfort him back to sleep thinking that maybe he isn't really hungry. DH will get him back to sleep, but he wakes up again minutes after he lays him down in the crib. After a couple of times of this, I give up and go feed him. I really don't think that's the problem though, since he wakes back up after I feed him, too. Another reason that I don't think it's hunger thing is because when he does on days that I don't work, he eats at 2ish and 4ish (while he's basically asleep) and then doesn't eat again until 10. Over the holidays, I tried bringing him into our bed. We had tried cosleeping when he was tiny, but it didn't work because he'd immediately spit-up all over me if I nursed him lying down and he'd wake if anything in the bed came near him. His spit-up problem is under control now, so after he woke the first time, I just brought him in the with me and fed him. We both slept very fitfully because we kept waking each other up. He doesn't comfort nurse because I have a strong letdown and he learned early that he didn't like that. He sucks his thumb instead. Several times, I heard him start enthusiastically sucking his thumb to soothe himself back to sleep. However, when that didn't work, he just starts screaming and the only way to get him back to sleep is to stand up and walk him around the room or go to his room and rock in the glider. So, that didn't really help much. I don't know what else to do. I'm not really willing to let him cry. I tried leaving in his crib and comforting him (patting his back and talking softly). He quieted, but didn't go back to sleep. My arm went numb from rubbing his back, but as soon as I'd stop, he's start crying. So, there's my whine for the day. He just seems to have lost his ability to self-soothe. We used to here him wake all the time and he'd make a little noise and then you'd hear him sucking his thumb and he'd go back to sleep. I don't know how to re-teach that since I didn't teach him in the first place. Manda |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
wrote in message ... I know this has been discussed on here a few times, but it's my turn to whine now. DS's nighttime sleeping habits have regressed to about where he was at 5 weeks - maybe even worse than that. He had been sleeping through the night, every night. He's 4 1/2 months right now. Around the 4 month mark, he started waking every night. His current pattern is to go to sleep around 8 (sometimes 7 if he's really sleepy, sometimes 9 if he's not), then wake around 2ish. I feed him and then I put him back in bed. He seems sound asleep, but wakes up crying in a few minutes. He usually wakes up every 15 minutes or so for an hour and then goes back to sleep (finally) for an hour or so. If we're lucky, he'll stay asleep until I get up at 5:30 to feed him before heading off to day care. Usually though, he wakes again at 4 and then goes back to sleep and won't eat at 5:30 before going to day care. I've tried sending DH in to comfort him back to sleep thinking that maybe he isn't really hungry. DH will get him back to sleep, but he wakes up again minutes after he lays him down in the crib. After a couple of times of this, I give up and go feed him. I really don't think that's the problem though, since he wakes back up after I feed him, too. Another reason that I don't think it's hunger thing is because when he does on days that I don't work, he eats at 2ish and 4ish (while he's basically asleep) and then doesn't eat again until 10. Over the holidays, I tried bringing him into our bed. We had tried cosleeping when he was tiny, but it didn't work because he'd immediately spit-up all over me if I nursed him lying down and he'd wake if anything in the bed came near him. His spit-up problem is under control now, so after he woke the first time, I just brought him in the with me and fed him. We both slept very fitfully because we kept waking each other up. He doesn't comfort nurse because I have a strong letdown and he learned early that he didn't like that. He sucks his thumb instead. Several times, I heard him start enthusiastically sucking his thumb to soothe himself back to sleep. However, when that didn't work, he just starts screaming and the only way to get him back to sleep is to stand up and walk him around the room or go to his room and rock in the glider. So, that didn't really help much. I don't know what else to do. I'm not really willing to let him cry. I tried leaving in his crib and comforting him (patting his back and talking softly). He quieted, but didn't go back to sleep. My arm went numb from rubbing his back, but as soon as I'd stop, he's start crying. So, there's my whine for the day. He just seems to have lost his ability to self-soothe. We used to here him wake all the time and he'd make a little noise and then you'd hear him sucking his thumb and he'd go back to sleep. I don't know how to re-teach that since I didn't teach him in the first place. a great book to try is "no cry sleep solution" by elizabeth pantley. it worked well for us. see http://tinyurl.com/2d2b4 -- elizabeth (in australia) DS - born 20-aug-02 |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
In article F_%Hb.70361$VB2.137486@attbi_s51,
"Mom2Aries" wrote: I don't have any advice, and this might not help any at all. But it is normal for babies to go from sleeping through the night until about 4-6 months, and then start waking up. It is. I am another person it happened to. The hardest part is getting used to waking up *again* -- it's a killer! I don't know how helpful my experience is, because DS always went back to sleep when bfed. Still, I expect that you will find that while his sleep pattern is disorganised now, it will improve -- DS developed a long-term pattern of bfing at bedtime, then waking for a feed at midnight and then at 4am. When the pattern is consistent, it is easier for you to live with. WRT the repeated waking/crying, maybe try swaddling again? or a lovey? -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Jeez; if only those Ancient Greek storytellers had known about the astonishing creature that is the *Usenet hydra*: you cut off one head, and *a stupider one* grows back..." -- MJ, cam.misc |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
Chookie wrote:
In article F_%Hb.70361$VB2.137486@attbi_s51, "Mom2Aries" wrote: I don't have any advice, and this might not help any at all. But it is normal for babies to go from sleeping through the night until about 4-6 months, and then start waking up. It is. I am another person it happened to. The hardest part is getting used to waking up *again* -- it's a killer! I don't know how helpful my experience is, because DS always went back to sleep when bfed. Still, I expect that you will find that while his sleep pattern is disorganised now, it will improve -- DS developed a long-term pattern of bfing at bedtime, then waking for a feed at midnight and then at 4am. When the pattern is consistent, it is easier for you to live with. WRT the repeated waking/crying, maybe try swaddling again? or a lovey? Last night we decided not to feed him if he woke up since it seemed obvious that he didn't need it the last few nights and it didn't help anything except keep us all up longer. So, he wakes at 12:45. DH tries to put him back down twice with no success. I rock him into a deep slumber, but he wakes up immediately after I lay him down. We try soothing him while leaving him in the crib, shaking the crib (they do that at day care and it works), and talking softly. Nothing works and I just feed him after an hour of this. Of course, the little snot eats happily and falls back asleep for the rest of the night *sigh*! Some predictability would be nice. So, our new strategy for tomorrow night is that I'll feed him the first time he wakes up and put him back down. DH handles any other awakenings. Manda |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
My boy is a little over 4 months and his sleeping pattern has changed as well.
Just when he had finally fallen into a fairly predictable (and decent) schedule of sleeping at night it changed. He was going to bed around 7:30, waking exactly one hour later for another feed, then sleeping until 12AM or 1AM, feeding, sleeping until 5AM, feeding, and waking up for the day around 7 or 7:30. We co-sleep, and I was in heaven with this schedule! Now, all of a sudden, at night we do our usual bedtime routine of bath, rocking and singing, and then lay down to breastfeed in bed. It seems that everything is right on track but then he finishes eating, unlatches himself, and begins to fuss , escalating into a cry. Picking him up and trying to rock to sleep would only make the crying worse.... After a few night of close observation I realized that he is only trying to get himself to sleep, and this night time cry is very different than a normal cry. It is hard to lay next to a crying baby but it truly seems this is his way of getting himself to sleep. After only a few minutes he nods off. The concept of crying it out truly horrifies me but I don't feel this is what I am doing. As I lay next to him and whisper shhh shhh he is perfectly aware that I am there and his cries never escalate to screams of bloody murder. Picking him up seems to disturb him more. Throughout the night he is waking more frequently and its sometimes every hour or two. He roots around looking to nurse himself back to sleep. I am currently reading The No Cry Sleep Solution, and using her suggestions for solving this problem. Its hard on those groggy sleepless nights to keep at it, and then actually remember it the morning, but it does seem to be working. Thanks for letting me unload....... Good luck to you! ~Tracy |
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My turn ... 4 month old stopped sleeping
Just adding my own personal data points: two of my 3 kids' sleeping
patterns went to hell at about 4 months. (The other kid had a hellish sleeping pattern from day 1 LOL) My pediatrician says it's the age when they start having dreams and the brief wakings that we all experience. Plus, there's usually teething. My first (who is now 8 YO) spontaneously reverted to sleeping through the night within a month or two of beginning to wake up. Maybe yours will, too! The other, who is now 12 MO, has continued to be an inconsistent sleeper since 4 months, with some periods of nightmarish nights. (We did let her cry a bit at 9 months and this bought us about 6 weeks of good nights, but then it went to hell again.) You seem to have good instincts about how to deal. I agree that your child's too young to let cry. I also agree that if feeding him doesn't help, that you should avoid feeding him. But if a feeding does buy you a decent amount of time, then do it. Remember (I mention this because I myself have trouble with it) that how you handle these wakings need not become permanent. This baby is very very young, and you need to do what you can to get all of you as much sleep as is feasible--preferably good sleep, not constantly interrupted or disturbed sleep. But it may be a rough few months. |
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