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On Wed, 23 Feb 2005 21:20:24 -0600, toto
wrote: Any anecdotes? Divorces. During a parent teacher conference, a child's father showed up with his wife. He introduced her to me as his wife and the child was with them and this was my first time meeting the parents, so I assumed that these are the parents.....mom and dad. We start conferencing and then 5 minutes later, the biological mother (ex-wife) comes into the room and sees the new wife and demands that she leave the room because she is not the biological parent and therefore has no right to be there. The mother/ex-wife also claims that the father is delinquent in his child support and shouldn't have a right to be there either. They all start arguing with one another over who has the right to conference with me as the teacher. Needless to say, the child and I were both mortified. Eventually, I was able to get them to calm down and I met with them all together.....but that family gave me tons of grief all year long with their constant in-fighting. The worst example of said grief....they were never consistant about who would pick the child up on any given day. Some days all 3 would show up (...and argue w/ one another in the school yard). Some days no one would show up. All three were listed w/ the school as authorized but sometimes Mom would become angry w/ Dad if she found out that he sent step-mom instead of coming himself. Sometimes Mom would get so mad that she would deny Dad visitation and he would try to get around her by picking the child up from school early without the mother's knowledge. Sometimes Dad would also violate visitation by not returning the child home when he was supposed to. She got hip to it and would come early too just to confront him at the school in the middle of dismissal and I think you can just imagine the ugly scenes that ensued. Twice, school security had to intervene. This went on all year long. It was horrible. -=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=--=-=- Mochaspresso |
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Our guideline is 5 minutes per grade, 3x week (for K-6). However, this does
NOT include reading at home. We do the AR program, and while students have time to read at school, some of the teachers have more required points than others and use AR more aggressively in the grade, and if a child reads slowly, it can take a long time to read enough books to get the required points. And technically, a child isn't supposed to have books read aloud or via books on tape past 2nd grade unless they have a documented LD (although I'd be very tempted to suggest this to my child if they were struggling to get the books read). -- Donna DeVore Metler Orff Music Specialist/Band/Choir Mother to Angel Brian Anthony 1/1/2002, 22 weeks, severe PE/HELLP And Allison Joy, 11/26/04 (35 weeks, PIH, Pre-term labor) |
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"Rosalie B." wrote in message ... The special subject teachers rarely assigned any homework AFAIK. All teachers, including the PE teachers, music teachers and art teachers, guidance, etc. taught one reading period a day - the whole school did reading at the same time. I don't remember assigning any reading homework. As a music teacher, the only homework I have in my classes is practice for students in instrumental classes (and for 4th grade, if the student wants to take their recorder home). I don't have a minimum amount, although I do have a maximum at one time, because young wind players can easily exhaust their embouchure and start developing bad habits due to fatigue if they play too long without resting. What I do have is leveled songs, with the goal being to pass the levels at your own speed. This is for recorder, band, and guitar classes. The grade report lists the child's current level, as opposed to a letter grade, and the only long-term consequence is that a child in band or guitar must have made it to a specific level to move from beginning to intermediate classes. I tell my parents that practice is their child's responsibility as to whether they do it or not. What I do ask is for the parents to listen to their child play when the child wants to show off, and applaud their efforts. Most of my students make it farther and are more proficent in the same time using mastery goals than I've seen from teachers who mandate 30 minutes a day or 2 hours a week or whatever, in the same amount of time. |
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"Circe" wrote in message news:XHxTd.81308$Yu.59656@fed1read01... Well, frankly, I don't think that second graders have the first idea what a "diorama" is, let alone how to build one. Having read the directions for that particular project, I think it is entirely safe to say that NONE of the kids in the class did it on their own nor was their any expectation on the part of the teacher that they *would* do it alone. The information sheet describing the project was quite clearly addressed to the PARENTS, not to the kids. Hmmm... DD (second grade) asked one day for a shoe box so I found a box for her (or she found it and asked me if she could have it). I hadn't a clue why she wanted one. When I asked, she said something about a diorama showing a walking stick in a tree - she apparently knew what one was and vaguely how to construct one. I cut the flaps off the box but other than that I offered absolutely no help (knowing nothing about walking sticks). Now, the resulting diorama wouldn't win any prizes - it was all made of the cardboard so the insect blended very well in its surroundings (which may have been the point...). A diorama like the one required for this project is more like something I'd expect a fourth grader to be able to accomplish with minimal parent intervention and supervision. It was completely beyond the abilities of all but the most unusually talented second graders. Trust me, DD is not among the most unusually talented. Bright and curious but not one of the GT. What I've found is that every time I get a parents' note about a project, it's like pulling teeth to get DD to do it. She claims not to be able to complete the task, she doesn't understand, how could she possibly do it, she's just a child, etc. But like the above example, when I don't get a note, she's shown herself to be quite capable. Jeanne |
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dragonlady wrote: It can also be a problem if the teacher has to approve the book -- and doesn't approve of your child's taste in books. DS loves to read, and reads well. However, his middle school teacher (7th grade, as I recall) would NOT approve any of the books he brought in, because she considered them inappropriate for a child. He was heavily into Stephen King and Michael Crichton at the time, and she just did not approve. This meant he had to spend time reading stuff he didn't enjoy -- most of it well below his reading level -- before he could get to the reading he DID enjoy. Now that is just whacked!!! I don't care what my kids are reading, as long as they are reading. We keep a book shelf and the kids choose what they want to read. They are welcome to read my books if they're interested. With that said, last year DD10's teacher did make recommendations. Note, DD spent two years in special classes to help her reading, with which she struggled early on. They took her out of class a few times a week and gave her intense, one-on-one help. The teacher was concerned that DD was trying to read at a level too high for her abilities. She said it's common, especially for those with older siblings, to want to over-reach. She was worried this was not helping DD. She showed me how they teach the kids to read the first page, counting how many words they don't understand. Too many, and the book is not appropriate. Based on the teacher's recommendations of books that were appropriate for DD at that time, I went out and bought a bunch of books and then left them around. I stopped short of forcing DD to read these books instead of Harry Potter, etc. I just left them out in the book shelf, so they were an option if she was interested. DD started reading them on her own accord. She went through a long Sharon Creech period last year. This year, she has finally caught up to her class, and not only that, is starting to exceed her grade level. Something just clicked in with her this year. Reading and writing are now her best subjects. I can't tell you how amazing that is for all of us! I suspect next she will start excelling in math; she's always had a natural aptitude for it, but her reading issues tended to hold her back (hard to do math if you can't read the questions). However, I do sometimes wonder if it was all the intense help she got, or whether she just caught up when she was ready to catch up. Who can tell? jen |
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Banty wrote: Not everyone finds reading relaxing. Even those that do, don't necessarily find reading what someone *else* wants them to read relaxing. Oh - our school requires a certain amount of reading every night, but the book is the child's choice. They are free to read comic books (DD12 is into Japanese comics right now), or the back of a cereal box, for all the teachers care! In the younger grades, an adult reading to the child counts, too. By 6th grade, they are required to read a certain amount of minutes each week. It doesn't matter when - they can do all the minutes in one chunk on the weekend if they choose, or spread it out over the week 30 minutes each day. jen |
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Banty wrote:
In article , The Ranger says... Beta's 2nd grade teacher expected them to put together a diorama -- probably not one as complex as your child's teacher but very complex. She sent home the instructions and on the bottom added, "Any dioramas that come back clearly beyond your second grader's ability will be returned ungraded. Think about it before you do it." Two were sent back home three times before the children's fathers got the hint. (I loved it! I just wish this would happen in other classes...) ::clapping and cheering:: Although.... there is the danger of dismissing a very talented kids' work as a parent's. Yeah, a good friend of mine had a jr. high science fair project disqualified because the judges didn't believe he was capable of having done it on his own, even though he did do it (and neither of his parents were capable of doing it ;-) Needless to say, he was a most frustrated camper. Best wishes, Ericka |
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shinypenny wrote:
However, I do sometimes wonder if it was all the intense help she got, or whether she just caught up when she was ready to catch up. Who can tell? How old is she? My experience has been that a lot of late bloomer readers really hit a bit surge around 3rd grade. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Ericka Kammerer wrote: How old is she? My experience has been that a lot of late bloomer readers really hit a bit surge around 3rd grade. She's now 10 and in 5th grade. The surge hit only in the past few months. At the beginning of this school year, she was still behind her classmates and reading at 4th grade level. Something kicked in and now she is reading at nearly 6th grade level. They identified in 1st grade that she was struggling. I was concerned, because dyslexia runs in our family, but it's not dyslexia. All throughout 2nd and 3rd she received special reading help. Last year, she did not get pulled out of the class, but they continued to work with her within the class. This year, she's not receiving any extra assistance. Her spelling still lags a little behind, but a great passion for writing has suddenly emerged. She used to *hate* writing. Suddenly this year she is journaling and writing poetry in her spare time, and saying that maybe someday she'll be a writer by trade. Whatever the reasons for this sudden turn, we couldn't be more thrilled! I was especially tickled to read on her report card that one area she needs to work on is learning to put her book away in class - apparently, she's had to be reprimanded for reading *too* much, during inappropriate times. The report card said she's "always got her nose in a book." jen |
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In article , Ericka Kammerer says...
Banty wrote: In article , The Ranger says... Beta's 2nd grade teacher expected them to put together a diorama -- probably not one as complex as your child's teacher but very complex. She sent home the instructions and on the bottom added, "Any dioramas that come back clearly beyond your second grader's ability will be returned ungraded. Think about it before you do it." Two were sent back home three times before the children's fathers got the hint. (I loved it! I just wish this would happen in other classes...) ::clapping and cheering:: Although.... there is the danger of dismissing a very talented kids' work as a parent's. Yeah, a good friend of mine had a jr. high science fair project disqualified because the judges didn't believe he was capable of having done it on his own, even though he did do it (and neither of his parents were capable of doing it ;-) Needless to say, he was a most frustrated camper. OK. But what should be done? There sure are frustrated campers who have their stuff overshadowed by 80% of the other entries being at an adult level. And, no, 'teach him to value his own work and not be fazed by Johnny's Dad's project getting an A' does not quite cut it. There needs to be some justice, and not this choice between having my son's work be overwelmed by adult work when he shows it in class, and 'join 'em if I can't beat 'em' and giving in and doing his stuff myself. Banty |
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