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Nevermind wrote: Dawn Lawson wrote in message ... Nevermind wrote: "Tine Andersen" wrote Still, your poor MIL. I would never "forbid" my MIL or mother from doing something as harmless as using a baby-cute word for something, not even a body part. I mean, I have confidence that I am a greater influence on my kids' vocabulary than their grannies, and, besides, I respect the two women too much. I pray that when I become a grandmother, my son's wife doesn't "forbid" me from being myself around my grandkids. That paragraph just made me sad. PFt. You oughta meet my mom if the idea of forbiding something makes you sad. I have *finally* learned that I *MUST* forbid some behaviours and comments if I am to be "allowed" to mother my own child. But that isn't at *all* the situation when a MIL simply wants to talk babytalk to a baby. It's not safety related and it's not hostile and it isn't getting in the way of a mother mothering her child in the way she wants. Ok, yes, I definately see your point. It's bloody annoying, but perhaps not worth the fight. I guess we mostly agree. And I agree that unless the gparent spends significant time with the child such that their babytalk may be a problem, it's likely that the parents' careful use of language will hold far more influence than the horrible use of language that abounds ;-) Again, these are safety and respect *to you* issues. These are important enough to be worth confronting grandparents about. I appreciate that you respected my position on this. Thanks very sincerely. (it's been a really tough year wrt gparents) I see how you've differentiated and given somewhat less "other stuff" with the various g'mas, I may feel similarly. Sadly, I think the overall lack of respect for me and DS has hardened me and made me somewhat bitter towards the women. Confronting has proved horrendous and uesful only as a means of attempting to find some peace for myself. in the midst of what seems like insanity all around. Dawn |
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Dawn Lawson wrote:
snip Ok, yes, I definately see your point. It's bloody annoying, but perhaps not worth the fight. I guess we mostly agree. And I agree that unless the gparent spends significant time with the child such that their babytalk may be a problem, it's likely that the parents' careful use of language will hold far more influence than the horrible use of language that abounds ;-) snip Oh, I dunno. We all know how the one time you use a word around a child, *that* is the word they pick up and continue on with. I needed no further proof that I could never swear around my son than the day when I heard him say, "fecking dannit!" after I'd said mumble something similar once. Okay, maybe twice ;-) But if my MIL started saying "boob" around my kids, I would not be happy, and would probably ask her to stop. I remember her saying "boobies" once when Noah was getting a bit too familiar with her, and I interjected, "Noah, the only nummies you can touch are mama's nummies." I think she got the hint. I think it's a parent's perogative to request or even insist that a grandparent not use a certain word if they find it offensive or inappropriate. Emily, with a daughter who calls Gramma Hah-hah and Nana Nunh-uh, but we still use the correct words when talking to her... |
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On Fri, 05 Sep 2003 06:04:50 GMT, Emily Roysdon
wrote: Oh, I dunno. We all know how the one time you use a word around a child, *that* is the word they pick up and continue on with. I needed no further proof that I could never swear around my son than the day when I heard him say, "fecking dannit!" after I'd said mumble something similar once. Okay, maybe twice ;-) DH and I stopped using the F word after DD said it after me. Something spilled on the floor just as I was trying to leave. As I walked to get a towel, I muttered, "F***! F***! F***!" DD then said chanting, "Buck! Buck! Buck!" It was not my proudest moment. -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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"Daye" wrote in message
... DH and I stopped using the F word after DD said it after me. Something spilled on the floor just as I was trying to leave. As I walked to get a towel, I muttered, "F***! F***! F***!" DD then said chanting, "Buck! Buck! Buck!" It was not my proudest moment. My DH was not so pleased about my not so pure language when we met so I tried very hard to weed out most of the nasty stuff. It was quite nice when we had kids that I didn't have to do it then. My Mother - on the other hand - she has trouble. We ask her - kindly - to moderate her language in front of the kids. Sometime she has to answer to a kid: Granma, you are not allowed to say that word! Luckily she meekly says: Your'e right - I'll try not to. Tine, Denmark |
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Semantics and spelling [was: What I Saw in Target Today]
"Beth" wrote in message . ..
"New York Jen" wrote in message . net... Oh, what's worse is than/then, it's/its, you're/your, etc. I cringe to myself every time I see that! For me, there is nothing like lay/lie and loose/lose for irritating me. Beth All of these mentioned already bother me (maybe my nazi is trying to get out) but also: "here, here!" used for "hear, hear". What's worse is that it causes me to lose respect for the folks making these errors (unless I know they are not native English speakers, then I cut them more slack). Kristi (maybe an INT*J* after all) |
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"Emily Roysdon" skrev i en meddelelse
m... Karen wrote: Cathy Weeks wrote: Well, she's started to talk, and her word for it is "deess." We think it came from "drink" but we're not sure. However, she's been patting my chest and saying "boo-boo" and I suspect she's remembering Chris calling them "boobs". She nods to either "do you want to deess?" or "do you want to nurse?" so she understands both. I was amused that even though Chris quit using "boobs" in nursing context that she still remembered it, and might be using it. I know you won't believe it but I know a couple little girls who also called it "deess". The older one started it and mom continued using the term with #2. And "dees" was our family word for breasts! I had totally forgotten about it until I read that post. How odd... Could it be from: do you want these? Tine |
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The Huwe Family wrote: "Dawn Lawson" wrote in message ... I think Booby is fine. I can't imagine a child saying "I want your tit". People would definitely stare. All my kids call it a booby or bubby to the baby. It's just like saying poopy, or pee pee for penis, or chi chi for pacifier, or nuny for night night. The are all more appropriate for kids. Kris Mind your attributions, I didn't write the above quote. Dawn |
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Tine Andersen wrote:
"Emily Roysdon" skrev i en meddelelse And "dees" was our family word for breasts! I had totally forgotten about it until I read that post. How odd... Could it be from: do you want these? Well, I wasn't nursed, nor was my sister, so I doubt my mom was making that offer, lol ;-) Maybe it was "what are these?"? I dunno... Emily, not about to ask my mom ;-) |
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