If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
No, nothing to do with baby. She's doing great.
I've wanted throughout this pregnancy to deliver naturally, no drugs. I do understand that I might change my mind in the middle of it; and I know that sometimes medical conditions present themselves that make more rigorous interventions necessary. I trust my midwives, and if they tell me that my baby needs to be induced or removed surgically, I won't hesitate. Like each of us, what I want most out of all of this is a healthy child. But, wow, I don't know ANYBODY who's given birth naturally. The most recent births here at my office are one coworker whose wife had an unexpected c- section, and a woman who was induced at 42 weeks. Every woman I've talked to has had scheduled sections, or inductions with epidurals. And every situation is different, and I don't know enough details about ANY of their stories to even hazard a guess about what the reasons were. Like I said, I don't know what's going to happen with us. We're doing what we can - I'm working to urge her into a good birth position, I'm doing my kegels, DH is reviewing all of our baby class materials. I've also got a birth plan that covers contingencies such as potential cesarean. I know that plans and realities often differ, and I think I'm prepared psychologically for that possibility. I just have NOBODY to talk to who's been able to do it the way I'd like to. I got the old "You don't get a medal for suffering" line when I mentioned I hadn't already requested an epidural. I don't want to "suffer," I just want to have my baby safely, and as naturally as possible. Sorry to rant. I guess I'm just feeling sort of isolated. Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
#2
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
"Elizabeth H Bonesteel" wrote in message ... No, nothing to do with baby. She's doing great. I just have NOBODY to talk to who's been able to do it the way I'd like to. I got the old "You don't get a medal for suffering" line when I mentioned I hadn't already requested an epidural. I don't want to "suffer," I just want to have my baby safely, and as naturally as possible. Sorry to rant. I guess I'm just feeling sort of isolated. Liz Have you been to a LaLecheLeague meeting? They welcome moms-to-be to come to a meeting before giving birth to make connections, etc. Anyway, practically everyone I had met there gave birth unmedicated. Meanwhile, my 2 best friends who have had children have done it unmedicated, and each of their experiences are extremely different. I tried really hard but medical complications made it impossible (in my opinion, of course). I feel like such a quitter. Nancy EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
My first child, my lovely daughter was a "natural" childbirth. They are
right, it's not called labour without reason, I wanted to die LOL Just over 4 hours from start to finish, I had my sister and husband (now ex) with me as well as the midwives. Chances are you'll go into labour "naturally," and God and doctors willing, without any more interferance than absolutely necessary. Don't be daunted by others' experiences, mine was NOTHING like I thought, or like anyone elses I knew, I doubt this baby's birth will resemble the last either. Make sure you have your husband be your advocate too, mine was a little weak to be in that position, so I brought along my sister who doesn't go backwards in coming forwards if you know what I mean. I couldn't respect her more for being there, and making sure that no-one overstepped my plans. I've noticed that a lot of the women that get caught up in "failure to progress," leading to LOTS of interferance, let them rupture their water, perhaps you could look into that and decide if you want to decline that if it's offered. Having said that, I'd gotten to the stage of like near complete dialation and mine hadn't ruptured so I let them do it. Now as for the medal for suffering *growls* I was given the "would you refuse anasthesia for a filling in your tooth? there's no reason for the suffering" crap... I've never added to, or endangered the health of my family by going to the dentist, and I've never had a headache for months, nor have I had the inability to walk after a filling. I understand your stand, but also understand that it gets WAY unbearable, and you might want to take the edge off which is totally understandable too. Another point to mention, I've watched birth stories on TV, and watched how women effortlessly give birth with an epidural, and enjoy the whole thing. When my daughter was born, I was still reeling in pain with stitches being sewn and had to hand her to my sister and couldn't feed until they had finished up which then hurt because you contract when you feed. So, there IS something to be said about medicated, and unmedicated births... it's all about the tolerance I guess you have for pain? I certainly didn't feel like I won something because I did it drug free, but I did keep any drugs from her system which was what my intent was, for that I was proud of myself for getting through it, no medal involved, did it for the baby. No-one that feels they have hit their limit should ever be made to feel like they lost something, because they haven't. Natural is in the eye of the beholder I think, the baby came from you, that's natural to me. Now on the other hand, I can't remember the lady who had the toddler not too long ago but if that was my case, I'd want every anesthetic known to man! Either way, you get the baby at the end, you don't have long to go either :-) Nic EDD 23 Aug 04 Elizabeth H Bonesteel wrote: No, nothing to do with baby. She's doing great. I've wanted throughout this pregnancy to deliver naturally, no drugs. I do understand that I might change my mind in the middle of it; and I know that sometimes medical conditions present themselves that make more rigorous interventions necessary. I trust my midwives, and if they tell me that my baby needs to be induced or removed surgically, I won't hesitate. Like each of us, what I want most out of all of this is a healthy child. But, wow, I don't know ANYBODY who's given birth naturally. The most recent births here at my office are one coworker whose wife had an unexpected c- section, and a woman who was induced at 42 weeks. Every woman I've talked to has had scheduled sections, or inductions with epidurals. And every situation is different, and I don't know enough details about ANY of their stories to even hazard a guess about what the reasons were. Like I said, I don't know what's going to happen with us. We're doing what we can - I'm working to urge her into a good birth position, I'm doing my kegels, DH is reviewing all of our baby class materials. I've also got a birth plan that covers contingencies such as potential cesarean. I know that plans and realities often differ, and I think I'm prepared psychologically for that possibility. I just have NOBODY to talk to who's been able to do it the way I'd like to. I got the old "You don't get a medal for suffering" line when I mentioned I hadn't already requested an epidural. I don't want to "suffer," I just want to have my baby safely, and as naturally as possible. Sorry to rant. I guess I'm just feeling sort of isolated. Liz EDD 5/22/04 |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
I know just how you feel.
I've just began researching on the net about natural child birth and what you can do to help the bodies own pain killers help you. Try this website. I haven't read any of the links yet but it looks promising... http://bonni.net/birth/labor/index.html Good luck Camille --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.659 / Virus Database: 423 - Release Date: 15/04/2004 |
#5
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
removed surgically
Wow, I've never thought of my children as being "removed surgically" when they were born - lol! Interesting way of looking at it. But, wow, I don't know ANYBODY who's given birth naturally. I wonder if it's cos everyone's definition of "natural" seems to be different. To me it means spontaneous, vaginal, no epidural. My sister had her first that way, and he was 9 lbs 6 :0 My friend had both her children that way (the most recent only 2 weeks ago). And I know many more who have done that too. I can't say I'd really worry though about how everyone else gave birth. Sophie #4 due 7/7/04 - 4th "surgical removal" :P (and yes, I'm just kidding before someone thinks I'm being mean or something). |
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
Don't be discouraged, Liz. I am the only one within my group of friends that
had a natural birth. Went through 13 hours of labour and no drugs, no epidural. I actully didn't even think about using epidural during the whole process, I guess I just can't stand the thought of having a long needle poke in through my spine. I also think it's nice to know that your baby is awake and alert when he or she comes out. All my friends had "surgically removed" their babies. Two of the went through a 36 hour labour and then the doctors decided it was safer to just have a c-section. Some of my friends had c-section for both their babies. They just don't really like the idea of going through hours of labour. They all have healthy babies, but the only set back about c-section is the recovery time and breast feeding, since milk tends to come a lot slower. One of my friends is having her second child (had c-section for her first), she's due next week. Her babies are about 18 months apart and she said when she started to show, she felt some pulling down at where she had her c-section. I guess she's just scared that it might "burst" open, but the chances of that happening is very slim nowadays because the way they "cut". Don't worry too much about it because you won't know what's going to happen. My baby was breached until a week before he was born, I thought I was going to need a c-section. So just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! Bessie "Elizabeth H Bonesteel" wrote in message ... No, nothing to do with baby. She's doing great. I've wanted throughout this pregnancy to deliver naturally, no drugs. I do understand that I might change my mind in the middle of it; and I know that sometimes medical conditions present themselves that make more rigorous interventions necessary. I trust my midwives, and if they tell me that my baby needs to be induced or removed surgically, I won't hesitate. Like each of us, what I want most out of all of this is a healthy child. But, wow, I don't know ANYBODY who's given birth naturally. The most recent births here at my office are one coworker whose wife had an unexpected c- section, and a woman who was induced at 42 weeks. Every woman I've talked to has had scheduled sections, or inductions with epidurals. And every situation is different, and I don't know enough details about ANY of their stories to even hazard a guess about what the reasons were. Like I said, I don't know what's going to happen with us. We're doing what we can - I'm working to urge her into a good birth position, I'm doing my kegels, DH is reviewing all of our baby class materials. I've also got a birth plan that covers contingencies such as potential cesarean. I know that plans and realities often differ, and I think I'm prepared psychologically for that possibility. I just have NOBODY to talk to who's been able to do it the way I'd like to. I got the old "You don't get a medal for suffering" line when I mentioned I hadn't already requested an epidural. I don't want to "suffer," I just want to have my baby safely, and as naturally as possible. Sorry to rant. I guess I'm just feeling sort of isolated. Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
#7
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
Elizabeth H Bonesteel wrote:
I just have NOBODY to talk to who's been able to do it the way I'd like to. I got the old "You don't get a medal for suffering" line when I mentioned I hadn't already requested an epidural. I don't want to "suffer," I just want to have my baby safely, and as naturally as possible. Sorry to rant. I guess I'm just feeling sort of isolated. Hang tough. Just realize that the significant majority of women don't even *attempt* or *want* to go unmedicated, and of the rest, most don't have an effective plan for doing so (not that that's all their fault in many cases). It's not surprising that few women end up going unmedicated. You are doing what you can to prepare and you will do just fine. You will either succeed at going unmedicated or you will determine that doing something different is the right thing for you at the time. It will all work out in the end. Best wishes, Ericka |
#8
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
Cam & Shane spake thusly
I know just how you feel. I've just began researching on the net about natural child birth and what you can do to help the bodies own pain killers help you. Try this website. I haven't read any of the links yet but it looks promising... http://bonni.net/birth/labor/index.html Thanks for that - had a quick look at a few of them and hope I get a chance to read more today. Last night I was getting contractions about 5 minutes apart, for about 40 secs a time (yay for Contraction Timer! ). Went to bed and got about 6 hours sleep and they seem to have gone now, but I guess things might actually happen this weekend! -- Maggie EDD 28 April |
#9
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
In article ,
Nancy P wrote: Have you been to a LaLecheLeague meeting? They welcome moms-to-be to come to a meeting before giving birth to make connections, etc. Anyway, practically everyone I had met there gave birth unmedicated. I'll find out where they meet locally. Thanks. :-) Meanwhile, my 2 best friends who have had children have done it unmedicated, and each of their experiences are extremely different. I tried really hard but medical complications made it impossible (in my opinion, of course). Yours is the only opinion that matters, you know. I feel like such a quitter. :-( I'm sorry about that. IMHO, it shouldn't be a martyrdom thing - that's part of why I'm trying to have well-developed contingency plans. Who knows how I'll feel in the moment, or what will be necessary? You took care of yourself and your baby. That's not quitting; that's being smart. Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
#10
|
|||
|
|||
Discouraging
In article ,
Nic H wrote: [snip lots of good stuff] Natural is in the eye of the beholder I think, the baby came from you, that's natural to me. That's a really, really good point, and one I will remember. I think a lot of my desire has to do with listening to my mother's experience, which was in the early 60s. She was quite unhappy with how it was handled and how she was treated. That (even though I recognize things have changed a bit in 40 years!), combined with an unhelpful early interaction with my now-ex-OB, has made me incredibly wary of any medicalization of the process. I try to learn what I can so I'll know what questions to ask if something comes up - and when it makes sense to say NO. Most of this is just my head filling up time between now and the baby's arrival, I know. Sigh. Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|