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"Jeanne" wrote in message ... Well, if your family's weird then so am I and the rest of my family. I think it's not only totally okay to have a "family" party with aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents without a dozen little friends running around but much more preferable. Most of DD and DS' cousins are much older and both grandmothers are elderly, so a noisy kids' place just wouldn't be right for my family either. I think it's totally okay, too, but I was answering the question why we don't have the family at the children's venue. |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... When did kid birthdays get to be an extended family bonding ritual? OK, the *first* birthday is a big deal (at least lately), but what happened to the immediate family (meaning, the household) serving the cake and singing 'happy birhday' after dinner? Even the kid birthday parties used to be something more or less special, not held every single year. For my side of the family, my kids are the only grandkids. We are not terribly close. It is the only time we all get together. What should be a simple and sentimental little celebration has turned into a quasi-obligatory set of public entertainments, where the *whole class* gets invited, then all the extended family gets invited (hope the two sides get along - would it have to be *three* celebrations if they don't?). With hired clowns and magicians. It's escalated into silliness. The whole class is not getting invited, hence my post. All extended family is not invited. My brother and my mom and dad and DH's family is invited. That's a rather small "all the extended family." We do usually have one celebration for my side and one for DH's side, since his parents are not usually in town for the birthday. Immediate family and the kids' real friends (in which case the parents should already know the other parents, therefore already have their addresses). Period. Don't know why you're so upset. Even if we wanted all the extended family up to great-aunts and the whole class, you wouldn't have to go, so why be upset? |
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In article , Ericka Kammerer
says... Banty wrote: When did kid birthdays get to be an extended family bonding ritual? OK, the *first* birthday is a big deal (at least lately), but what happened to the immediate family (meaning, the household) serving the cake and singing 'happy birhday' after dinner? Well, I don't actually have any heartburn over using a family birthday (kid or adult) as an excuse to get the troops together and have a good time. It's just a problem if it's too burdensome for the hosts but they feel they can't "let everyone down" by not hosting another one this year. Sure, I don't have any heartburn either over someone wanting to throw a party for *any* excuse. Nothing inherently wrong with a big bash! But perhaps some folks have gotten little spoiled about the possibility of a big bash - toypup referred to having a family party because her family would be "dissapointed". That's quite a different thing, and goes into the realm of what you described in your last sentence. What should be a simple and sentimental little celebration has turned into a quasi-obligatory set of public entertainments, where the *whole class* gets invited, then all the extended family gets invited (hope the two sides get along - would it have to be *three* celebrations if they don't?). With hired clowns and magicians. It's escalated into silliness. Sure. Again, I've got no issue with those who want to make a big deal of a birthday, but it is a problem if people are feeling obligated to outdo themselves year after year (or keep up with the Joneses). Sometimes we do a big to-do and sometimes we don't, depending on what we feel like doing. I think this year we'll do a big to-do for G.'s birthday because it'll be a good excuse to do a big 4th of July BBQ in our new back yard. Might even buy a grill ;-) Next year, maybe no party at all, unless I'm feeling festive, ya know. But then again, any excuse is good for a party in my book. I'm already laying plans for a bit New Year's Eve to-do (haven't done one since 1999/2000, so I'm getting the urge again...). Ah - I got to buy a grill, or at least figure out what dimensions I should plan for, for the alcove in my new deck Banty -- NewsGuy.Com 30Gb $9.95 Carry Forward and On Demand Bandwidth |
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In article , Sue says...
"cjra" wrote in message Why would you have to have a separate party for kids at a venue??? Can the classmate friends not also come to the family party? How about because the older relatives (grandpa, etc) don't really like all the noise and little kids running around. If I am having a party at a Ceaserland or something similar, the older relatives don't come. However, if I am just having dinner with cake and ice cream and not inviting other kids, then my dad comes. The older relatives are sensitive with noises and not used to having kids around anymore. And it's less stressful to have the parties separated. Heck - when I was in my thirties and a parent of a young kid, I couldn't stand the kid-party places. Banty -- NewsGuy.Com 30Gb $9.95 Carry Forward and On Demand Bandwidth |
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In article , toypup says...
"Banty" wrote in message ... When did kid birthdays get to be an extended family bonding ritual? OK, the *first* birthday is a big deal (at least lately), but what happened to the immediate family (meaning, the household) serving the cake and singing 'happy birhday' after dinner? Even the kid birthday parties used to be something more or less special, not held every single year. For my side of the family, my kids are the only grandkids. We are not terribly close. It is the only time we all get together. Then you're holding it because *you* want to hold it, and not because "they'll be dissapointed". (or not - worth thinking about...) What should be a simple and sentimental little celebration has turned into a quasi-obligatory set of public entertainments, where the *whole class* gets invited, then all the extended family gets invited (hope the two sides get along - would it have to be *three* celebrations if they don't?). With hired clowns and magicians. It's escalated into silliness. The whole class is not getting invited, hence my post. All extended family is not invited. My brother and my mom and dad and DH's family is invited. That's a rather small "all the extended family." We do usually have one celebration for my side and one for DH's side, since his parents are not usually in town for the birthday. OK, I know that - I wasn't specifically describing your party either - it was more of a general rant. But still, you are inviting kids you hardly know or don't know at all, right? Else you wouldn't have this invite problem. I'm just advocating for considering birthday parties that are more relaxed and intimate. Yes, I understand with little kids they're just now making their friends... Immediate family and the kids' real friends (in which case the parents should already know the other parents, therefore already have their addresses). Period. Don't know why you're so upset. Even if we wanted all the extended family up to great-aunts and the whole class, you wouldn't have to go, so why be upset? ?? You're taking this much too heavily. Banty -- NewsGuy.Com 30Gb $9.95 Carry Forward and On Demand Bandwidth |
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Banty wrote: In article , toypup says... "Banty" wrote in message ... LOL! Did she volunteeer to hold the family party? No. I was wondering aloud what to do about my side of the family. They'd be disappointed if we only had a kids party and I was wondering how to make it a kids and family party. She suggested celebrating separately. When did kid birthdays get to be an extended family bonding ritual? OK, the *first* birthday is a big deal (at least lately), but what happened to the immediate family (meaning, the household) serving the cake and singing 'happy birhday' after dinner? Even the kid birthday parties used to be something more or less special, not held every single year. What should be a simple and sentimental little celebration has turned into a quasi-obligatory set of public entertainments, where the *whole class* gets invited, then all the extended family gets invited (hope the two sides get along - would it have to be *three* celebrations if they don't?). With hired clowns and magicians. It's escalated into silliness. Some families actually *like* getting together and having a party. Your's doesn't, that's cool. Others do. Not a difficult concept, really. |
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toypup wrote: "cjra" wrote in message oups.com... Why would you have to have a separate party for kids at a venue??? Can the classmate friends not also come to the family party? My family's weird. They would rather not go to a kids oriented party at a kids place. They have all been too long without kids or have never had kids. I can't get my mom and dad to go to Disneyland with us and I've offered to buy them season passes so they could hang out for an hour or two one weekend a month maybe. They refuse, because they don't care for Disneyland and they don't care to do it just to be around the kids. Oh, I'd have no desire to go to a kids' oriented place myself! I guess I was thinking why it was necessary for a kids' birthday to be celebrated at a place such as that, as opposed to a party at home or maybe a park. But that's 'cause no one I know does those sorts of parties. Kids birthday parties have all been at someone's house or at a park with a playground. I can fully appreciate the adults having no desire to hang out at Chuck E Cheese (or Disneyland). |
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toypup wrote: "Jeanne" wrote in message ... Well, if your family's weird then so am I and the rest of my family. I think it's not only totally okay to have a "family" party with aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents without a dozen little friends running around but much more preferable. Most of DD and DS' cousins are much older and both grandmothers are elderly, so a noisy kids' place just wouldn't be right for my family either. I think it's totally okay, too, but I was answering the question why we don't have the family at the children's venue. Actually, the question was why not have the kids at the family venue? I didn't realise having a kid's birthday at a kid's establishment was mandatory. |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... OK, I know that - I wasn't specifically describing your party either - it was more of a general rant. But still, you are inviting kids you hardly know or don't know at all, right? Else you wouldn't have this invite problem. I'm just advocating for considering birthday parties that are more relaxed and intimate. Yes, I understand with little kids they're just now making their friends... I don't know them, but DS does. It's his party. I want him to have friends over that he knows. |
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"cjra" wrote in message oups.com... toypup wrote: "Jeanne" wrote in message ... Well, if your family's weird then so am I and the rest of my family. I think it's not only totally okay to have a "family" party with aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents without a dozen little friends running around but much more preferable. Most of DD and DS' cousins are much older and both grandmothers are elderly, so a noisy kids' place just wouldn't be right for my family either. I think it's totally okay, too, but I was answering the question why we don't have the family at the children's venue. Actually, the question was why not have the kids at the family venue? Okay, I'll have to go back and read where we got lost in the thread. We are having the kids over at our house. What's the question? |
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