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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Sweetheart, I'm gonna top post for this one. Accidents happen, even yucky
horrible ones like making a bad driving decision and causing an accident. However, they are still just accidents. His wounds will heal and heal and he wont' remember much of this in the years to come. Give his as much love and affection as you can muster and continue being the good mother we all know you are. Much love sweets, *b "©kat©" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Hey Kat if you are still looking for feedback, JUDGMENTAL BITCH here (I like
that title) sez, give yourself a break, but you are wise to hope that Children's Services never hears about it. Those people can turn accidents into a nightmare, while really abused children are ignored... Joelle |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
steveb wrote in message ... "Dennis Here" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: From my observations over the years, unruly children invariably have one or two unruly parents. Sometimes ... but ADHD is a recognised condition too But is it a valid excuse for unruly behaviour? In GB and Ireland the incidence of ADHD is only 1% of children whereas in the USA it is 5% to 7% (depending on the source) Perhaps it is influenced by the environment as well as the parents? Dennis |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Dennis Here" youreply
lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: But is it a valid excuse for unruly behaviour? Well it is certainly a valid "reason" for such behaviour. Behaviour which needs appropriate treatment and managing, of course. steveb |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Dennis Here" youreply wrote in message ... steveb wrote in message ... "Dennis Here" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: From my observations over the years, unruly children invariably have one or two unruly parents. Sometimes ... but ADHD is a recognised condition too But is it a valid excuse for unruly behaviour? In GB and Ireland the incidence of ADHD is only 1% of children whereas in the USA it is 5% to 7% (depending on the source) Perhaps it is influenced by the environment as well as the parents? Or perhaps it is simple overmedicating for docility (sp?) Dennis |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Dennis Here youreply wrote in message ... steveb wrote in message ... "Dennis Here" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: From my observations over the years, unruly children invariably have one or two unruly parents. Sometimes ... but ADHD is a recognised condition too But is it a valid excuse for unruly behaviour? In GB and Ireland the incidence of ADHD is only 1% of children whereas in the USA it is 5% to 7% (depending on the source) Perhaps it is influenced by the environment as well as the parents? Dennis Possibly that in the USA, people are very much looking for the quick fix..... doctors give that with meds. Diagnose the child with ADD/ADHD and you get meds. That stat of 5-7 percent seems pretty low to me actually. I will add also, that in the US, the typical diet is not a healthy one and can contribute to hyperactivity and other issues. It is definitely influenced by the environment also. Just my opinion. T |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Paul Fritz wrote in message ... "Dennis Here" youreply wrote in message ... steveb wrote in message ... "Dennis Here" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: From my observations over the years, unruly children invariably have one or two unruly parents. Sometimes ... but ADHD is a recognised condition too But is it a valid excuse for unruly behaviour? In GB and Ireland the incidence of ADHD is only 1% of children whereas in the USA it is 5% to 7% (depending on the source) Perhaps it is influenced by the environment as well as the parents? Or perhaps it is simple overmedicating for docility (sp?) Yeppers..... kids can be much easier to handle on meds. That is not to say that meds don't benefit some kids. (political disclaimer) T |
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