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Old February 6th 04, 03:53 AM
badgirl
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wrote in message ...
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean

her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little

girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup

and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave

in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and

how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't

have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her

again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor,

Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up

and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think

you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby

must be
so confused.

Manda


Poor baby ;( Too bad in cases like that people aren't required to get
a license to parent because women like that would fail the test.

Jen
*feeling really bitchy tonight*


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Old February 6th 04, 04:03 AM
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"Smart Lady" wrote in message
om...
The mother will be feeling the effects of this cold turkey thing
pretty quickly too you know... I don't want to be in her shoes in the
next few days when she develops one nasty breast infection!

Don't get me wrong, that baby is suffering both physically and
emotionally! There will be reprecutions for years on this one...


I don't agree with cold turkey weaning because it's so cruel to a child who
couldn't possibly understand what's going on. OTOH, I don't think the one
incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. What will cause
everlasting trauma is the parenting philosophy behind it and the precedence
it sets for future parenting decisions. I believe how we treat our babies
will often be reflected in a lifelong pattern of parenting. If a mother
doesn't respect her child's emotions as an infant, they often don't respect
their child's emotions as a teen or an adult. That is only my experience,
but it seems to bear true.


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Old February 6th 04, 04:15 AM
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toypup wrote:

OTOH, I don't think the one
incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma.


I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a
year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not nurse
without her brother starting the let-down. When he self-weaned, she was
forced to wean but was not ready. Her personality suffered a dramatic
change. To this day she gropes and nuzzles me.

--
Brigitte aa #2145
edd #3 February 15, 2004
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/

"Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare."
~ Harriet Martineau

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Old February 6th 04, 05:17 AM
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DeliciousTruffles wrote:
toypup wrote:

OTOH, I don't think the one
incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma.


I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a
year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not
nurse without her brother starting the let-down. When he
self-weaned, she was forced to wean but was not ready. Her
personality suffered a dramatic change. To this day she gropes and
nuzzles me.


Ugh. I weaned Luke before he was ready. He is just obsessed with his
num-nums. I'm currently weaning him of that too and he doesn't want to let
go. I hope this is the end of the whole weaning/nursing/breast thing. We
had a pretty awful biting phase as well. He had a history of that but it
just went through the roof about 2 months after he weaned. It is hard to
always do the right thing for everyone :-(


--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)


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Old February 6th 04, 06:27 AM
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wrote:

A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda

This makes me frothing mad. I am definitely an AP, and therefore tend
to be more inclined to think about things from the child's point of
view. Can you imagine how that would affect us? If we had something
that we took for granted as a normal, loving, vital thing and it was
taken away without telling us when, how, why... And then the mother has
the gall to say that her child is STUBBORN!!!!
AAAAAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! VERY ANGRY! I don't have any respect for
women who think of their children as pets, or objects to be controlled
and manipulated.
-Alicia

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Old February 6th 04, 06:27 AM
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Ugh. I weaned Luke before he was ready. He is just obsessed with his
num-nums. I'm currently weaning him of that too and he doesn't want to let
go.


That's interesting. I didn't exactly force Jake to wean but I did discourage
nursing and was pretty resentful of nursing and showed it (I had been nursing
non-stop for three years, two of them tandemming). After he stopped nursing he
kept on with that whole hands down my shirt thing for quite a long time. It
will be interesting to see if William does it after he weans, since the current
plan is to let him wean when he wants to.

Leslie
 




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