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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
In article sew1b.8744$Qy4.7324@fed1read05, Circe wrote:
What, you think your *child* can't tell you anything about these things? My child *did* complain to me that a particular part of his school day was boring and that he disliked it. Based on that complaint, I went and observed because I wanted to know whether his report was based on perception or reality. I am sorry to say it was based on reality. Unfortunately, at that point in the school year, changing teachers was not really an option, so we muddled through as best we could a less than ideal kindergarten year. But, by and large, my oldest can be pretty well relied upon to report accurately at to what's going on in his classroom. And I know what they are learning because it comes home as completed papers and in the homework. This varies a lot from child to child. Getting my son to tell me anything about school is like pulling teeth. No, I take that back---he likes going to the dentist and had no problem when two of his front teeth had to be pulled because they were still firmly in place even though the permanent teeth were fully erupted. When I have managed to get information from him, it was often surprising. At one point last year, I found out that his least favorite part of school was recess. It turned out that there was some minor bullying going on among the 1st-grade boys. I informed the teacher privately (who already knew who was involved and promised to put a stop to it). -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Computer Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Nan wrote:
So you're saying that this mass push for parental volunteers has been going strong since the 70s? Every state has suffered budget cuts. I don't buy it as a compelling reason. Noreen Cooper writes: You don't have to buy it. You can look up where California's public schools ranked before Proposition 13 in the 70's and where the state ranks today. Quite verifiable. I tend to agree with Nan here. While no one can doubt that Prop 13, along with other demographic changes, has crippled the California public schools, I think there's more to volunteerism in the schools than just budget issues. I think there's a genuine, if incremental, shift in thinking: there really is a realization that educating children in partnership with parents is a better approach than leaving parents out of the equation, under the misguided theory that "professionals" know best and parents have nothing really to contribute (which I really think was the attitude of many school administrators and teachers in the 60s and 70s). If, to some extent, bringing parents into the schools is a side effect of budget cuts and Prop 13, then it's perhaps the only good thing that's come out of that. David desJardins |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Robyn Kozierok wrote:
: Noreen Cooper wrote: : :Now if you do absolutely nothing to help out your local schools, then I :might judge you. ;-) : Surely it does not take much imagination to come up with scenarios : in which a person's resources (time, energy, money, etc.) are best : spent on things other than helping out their local schools. No, I think it's incredibly easy for anyone who has a child in public school to do something. That something doesn't need involve volunteering onsite five days a week. Banty said she did nothing for her son's school and then said she donated his old children's books. Sorry, but that is doing *something* for a local school. Judgemental I'll be. If you have a kid in school, there are a number of ways a parent can help out and usually parents end up doing something. That's all that matters. Noreen |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Circe wrote:
: Any number of government agencies are strapped for cash. Nonetheless, no one : seems to be suggesting that private citizens volunteer to take up a police : beat in order to ensure they have adequate police protection or put in a few : hours helping people register their cars and get driver licenses at the DMV : to reduce long lines and improve service for everyone. I am not completely : sure why parents are expected to fall over themselves volunteering to help : their kids' schools do what they are instituted and funded to do. : -- It takes a little more training to be a police officer than a parent volunteer in an elementary school, and especially in the early grades when many children can't even read, some don't even know their colors, and at my son's school, around a quarter can't even speak English. Noreen |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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Kevin Karplus wrote: In article qow1b.8745$Qy4.3473@fed1read05, Circe wrote: "Nan" wrote in message Any number of government agencies are strapped for cash. Nonetheless, no one seems to be suggesting that private citizens volunteer to take up a police beat in order to ensure they have adequate police protection or put in a few hours helping people register their cars and get driver licenses at the DMV to reduce long lines and improve service for everyone. I am not completely sure why parents are expected to fall over themselves volunteering to help their kids' schools do what they are instituted and funded to do. Actually, the police budget got cut this year in Santa Cruz, and the first thing to go were crossing guards (who were not police officers but were paid out of the police budget). You guessed it---they're hoping that parent volunteers will take over the crossing-guards' duties. Lots of towns have volunteer fire departments, and volunteer EMTs, etc. Neighborhood watch programs ask citizens to (informally) patrol their own neighborhoods. *Lots* of agencies that are strapped for cash look to qualified volunteers to fill the need. --Robyn |
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Volunteering in schools was Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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Noreen Cooper wrote: Rosalie B. wrote: This was in response to your question: the state is in an overload financial emergency right now; so what do you suggest be done other than volunteer to help out the schools under the circumstances? : I suggest : a) getting some political clout and reversing the financial emergency : situation if that is what appeals to you (run for governor or work for : someone who you think would do a good job). And like that really is going to make any difference in the short term. Who said anything about the short term? This is going to have to be a long term thing, which should have started before Prop. 13 was passed and should be a continuing on-going project. Now how would you go about getting some political clout to turn a financial emergency situation around by (say) by Tuesday when school starts. Sheez. Like I said - California voters (and others) put their heads in the sand like ostriches and then you throw up your hands and say - well how can I do anything by Tuesday. It's what should have been being done all along - maybe instead of volunteering in the schools. Two years ago, we wanted solar panels for the boat and couldn't get them because there was an energy crisis in California. -- this is NOT NEW. so the fix can NOT BE INSTANT. : b) home schooling (there's where a parent is really involved) or You asked me what I would suggest. Just because you don't want to do it doesn't mean it isn't a viable suggestion. Like that is really going to solve the public school crisis if all the involved parents homeschool their kids. I don't want to homeschool my son. As I said, I enjoy volunteering in the classroom even though my son is one grade ahead of most of his peers. I think if a significant number of parents home schooled, there would at least be less of a problem with class size. And you don't want to home school and you like to volunteer.- but this started because David said I don't understand how a parent would not *want* to participate. and you agreed with him did you not? (with some surprise IIRC) : c) making sure my own children have what they need to succeed in : school, checking to be sure they are getting appropriate skills, and : probably supplementing their education as Wendy is doing I think. That's already been done. I enjoy helping out the kids who are less fortunate, especially the ESL students who come from homes where English is not spoken at home. These children come in at a distinct disadvantage and I believe I've made a difference in a number of kids' lives by offering some extra help. : And stop complaining that other parents are not volunteering so that : must be why the schools are so bad. It's not. Where in the world are you getting the idea that *I* am complaining about other parents not volunteering at school? I specifically stated that It was YOUR suggestion that the OP talk to a 'parent who volunteers regularly' that set off the whole wild thread that diverged from the OP's request. Others said that they were looked down on because they can't or don't want to volunteer. You enjoy volunteering and you associated yourself with those who think volunteers are necessary and useful and you appear to be defending those people who think that everyone should volunteer. parents who don't want to be in the classroom should keep out. The schools are bad because of poor funding. Volunteers are helping a bit to alleviate the situation. If you want to extrapolate, that's your business but I never said anything of the sort. grandma Rosalie |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents (was: Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...)
"Cathy Kearns" wrote in message om...
"David desJardins" wrote in message ... Marjorie writes: Fourth, once your children reach middle school age, all of this is moot. They don't have parent volunteers in the middle school classrooms, thank goodness, and the parental competition dies on the vine. Now that you mention this, it certainly seems true that there's less volunteer help in the middle and high schools (although I don't agree there's none). I wonder why that is? My first thought is that, as children get older, they have less respect for any arbitrary adult, just because that person is an adult, and so it's harder for volunteers to come in and be treated with respect and to be effective. I wonder if that's the reason, or if there's some other reason. I think partly it's because the subjects have become too advanced to assume any volunteer can teach them. I think that this is indeed true, but I also think it has to do with the size of middle schools, the block system, and the impossibility of keeping track of parent volunteers in a large building where people are on the move every 50 minutes. Unlike elementary school, in middle school both kids AND teachers move about the building, and it can be a bit of a logistical nightmare. I don't know why parents aren't invited to volunteer in the classroom, but I'm happy they aren't. Parents can volunteer to do traffic duty, work in the cafeteria, help with after school programs, etc. There are things to do, just not in the classroom. Marjorie |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Bev Brandt writes:
I think that any parent that volunteers at the school during the day should do so because they can contribute to the (underfunded) workload, not to monitor classroom dynamics. I don't want any unpaid, non-professional - including myself, to some degree (I have obvious biases) - to evaluate my child's academic and social progress in the school. I have to say that this idea that parents aren't qualified to evaluate and teach and raise their children---that somehow the "professionals" know more about my own child than I do---I really thought was solely an invention of the educational establishment to keep parents from interfering in their world. I've never heard a parent buy into it to the degree that you seem to. It shouldn't have to be this way. We shouldn't have to rely upon non-professionals to give us a review of the classroom situation as it pertains to academics and social structure. Teachers should be more communicative with parents. Counselors and principals should be in the classroom more to make better judgement calls about those dynamics. This is not a SAH vs. WOH parent rivalry. It's too bad that you see it that way. If there is a "rivalry" it's between parents and our expectations and schools and their apparent lack of resources. There's certainly a big difference in our expectations. My expectation is that my own opinions and observations regarding my own child, whom I know better than anyone, are worth more than any number of "counselors and principals". (And certainly I know from my own experience in school that my parents' judgment about the school situations was a lot more cogent than that of the "paid professionals".) I daresay the person who originally made the suggestion also placed a whole lot more faith in their own judgment than you seem willing to put in yours. I think this is the fundamental difference here. David desJardins |
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