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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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Noreen Cooper wrote: Bev Brandt wrote: : I think that any parent that volunteers at the school during the day : should do so because they can contribute to the (underfunded) : workload, not to monitor classroom dynamics. I don't want any unpaid, : non-professional - including myself, to some degree (I have obvious : biases) - to evaluate my child's academic and social progress in the : school. If I need to determine whether or not there is a personality : conflict between my child and his teacher/counselor, I can do that in : other ways besides being a volunteer. How your son performs on the soccer field is not the way your son will behave in a particular classroom with a defined factor of fellow students with the teacher who is chosen to instruct him for the year. I'm amazed how you readily discount verifiable data which can only be obtained by either being there first-hand or asking other parent volunteers. And how he performs with me in the room is different than how he performs with me not present (or at least, not visible). Sort of a Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle for social behavior. I find classroom volunteering rewarding and useful in learning "how things are done" at school, giving me more common ground to use to strike up a discussion with my children, etc. I don't find it useful in learning how my children react and behave in the classroom when I'm not present. I expect the teachers to report on this, though, not other parent volunteers. I've never been in a situation where I couldn't trust my child's teacher, though. I've been out of the classroom for 2 years now due to having a baby/toddler at home who would have been a distraction in the classroom. He'll be attending preschool a couple of mornings a week this year, and I look forward to having the opportunity to volunteer in the classroom again. (fwiw, I WOH as well, but part time and with a very flexible schedule. Best of both worlds, IMO.) --Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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MarjiG wrote: Rant away, you're right. You shouldn't have to volunteer to get a solution for your child. That said, a fair number of companies offer paid time for volunteering... I'm allowed 2 hours per week. Many companies that offer this do not include volunteering in one's own child's school as an acceptable use of this time. --Robyn |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Robyn Kozierok wrote:
: And how he performs with me in the room is different than how he performs : with me not present (or at least, not visible). Sort of a Heisenberg : Uncertainty Principle for social behavior. Granted. But the advantages to a drop-in when your child is hating school for whatever reason is the chance to observe firsthand the teacher's style, how the children interact with each other and how the teacher disciplines poor behavior. In my opinion, having this amount of information can narrow down the causes of what's not working for a particular student. : I find classroom volunteering rewarding and useful in learning "how things : are done" at school, giving me more common ground to use to strike up a : discussion with my children, etc. I don't find it useful in learning : how my children react and behave in the classroom when I'm not present. : I expect the teachers to report on this, though, not other parent volunteers. And as I said to Bev, sure in an ideal world where all teachers report on poor behavior in the class immediately to a parent. However, I have found that by the time a teacher sits down to have a parent-teacher conference about a child's poor behavior, the chance to turn things around is less likely because usually the entrenched dynamics have been going on for too long. Noreen |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents (was: Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...)
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chiam margalit wrote: Parent volunteering is, imo, really more about the social aspects of parenting school age children than it is about helping to teach. I'd have to disagree with this, for myself anyhow. I've pretty much never volunteered in a way that involved other volunteers at the same time, so it wasn't social for me at all. I don't have a problem with this, I think it's probably a much better idea than allowing parents access to graded projects, tests, etc. The lack of knowledge about what is and should be going on in a classroom needs to be recognized for what it is: goodhearted and well meaning parents who want to make the classroom a better environment for their children. That's not a bad thing at all, it's commendable at all levels. But putting education of children other than your own into a volunteer's hands is definately a bad thing in my opinion. YMMV. I guess I would have to say that my mileage does indeed vary. Although I am not a trained teacher, I have "helped teach" in several instances where I believe the children were better off having me there than not. Increasing the number of adults in the classroom enables the trained teacher(s) to spend more one-on-one and small group time with various kids, which I think we all agree benefits the kids, so long as nothing the other adults are doing is harmful. I, for one, have done numerous things including (as another parent on this ng has done) offering math enrichment to a handful of students who did not need the review that was going on in the rest of the class at that time. The kids I was working with had a good time, got to explore some interesting/difficult mathematical concepts/puzzles/games while the kids remaining in the classroom got a little more attention to helping them master the basic math curriculum. (I do have a math degree, fwiw.) I did this semi-selfishly because my own child really needed this enrichment and there wasn't anyone available within the school to do it. There is a program where volunteers are taught to do hands-on science activities in elementary classrooms. Again, I think adding something like this to the existing curriculum could only help. I don't think allowing a teacher to have volunteers "help teach" is as dangerous as you seem to be suggesting. Certainly, some parents might not be qualified to teach, and letting them do so to the exclusion of other instruction would be harmful. It is the teacher's responsibility to evaluate parent volunteers and engage them in a way that enhances students' education. Sometimes this will include asking/allowing them to help teach in an area where they are competent. Other times, it may be limited to things like providing crowd control. IMO, a teacher should use his/her judgement and make the best use of all the resources available to him/her, including parent volunteers. Our current (underfunded) private school relies heavily on parent volunteers, both in and out of the classroom. All parents are expected to contribute in some way. Many do volunteer in the classroom. It is up to the teachers and principal to decide who does what and to ensure that the volunteers' strengths are tapped to the advantage of the school and its students. This works out beautifully, and has for many, many years at this school and others like it. I would much rather put my children's education in the hands of such caring volunteers, under the watchful eye of the school's teachers and principal, than have them get that much less individual attention while a single teacher tries to divide her limited class time among all the students in the class. --Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents (was: Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...)
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Rosalie B. wrote: So do the parents grading the homework not have the correct answers on an answer sheet? I would say that for elementary school work, usually not. Often answer sheets do not exist, and it is assumed that a parent can figure out elementary curriculum without one. When I volunteered in the classroom in 1st and 2nd grades, I often corrected papers for students as they completed them. I never had an answer sheet to refer to. This wasn't for "grades" -- if there were incorrect answers I'd point them out and either help the student figure them out, or send them off to try again if they didn't seem to really need help with it. When they paper was completed successfully, I'd sign off on the appropriate square in their work chart. There were usually multiple adults in the room doing this, and kids chose who to bring their work to, so kids who wanted to only have their work seen by the teacher had this option. When I was in college, I graded papers as part of the requirements of my scholarship. In grad school, I was a teaching assistant some terms to cover my tuition and stipend, which again included grading papers. As often as not, we were not given correct solutions to work from. We were expected to be able to figure them out ourselves. Of course, if a substantial number of students came to a different solution than I did, I would re-examine my work. And if we ever did make mistakes grading, students certainly had the opportunity to point out grading errors either directly to the TAs or to the professor. Another poster worried about confidentiality with teachers "farming out" grading duties. Certainly it is the responsibility of the teacher/professor to make appropriate confidentiality restrictions clear to the graders before engaging them, but I find it unreasonable to demand that no one but the classroom teacher may ever grade a student's work. And in college, it definitely isn't going to happen that way. --Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Karen G writes:
We had a local kindergarten teacher do a presentation on "school readiness" a few years ago. She said that she makes a firm rule with the parents of her students to leave the kids at the door for the first two weeks. It can seem pretty strict, but she needed the kids to respect her ability to take care of them and that meant that the parents really couldn't help. Personally, I'd take this as a sign that I need to find a new school. She sounds like a control freak. My children are not school age yet, but you see this at all levels of child care and education, not just kindergarten. There are preschools that strongly discourage parents from being present in the classroom, because they want to control the experience and they don't want the parents interfering with their concept. And there are preschools that insist that all of the parents participate in the classroom, because they don't want this artificial divide between school and family life. The latter makes a lot more sense to me. David desJardins |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
In article , H Schinske says...
wrote: Time for my annual plug for "Spellabration" easy, cost effective, high-profit. Kids get pledges based on the number of points they will earn on a spelling test... I *hate* these things, and the box tops, grocery receipts, etc. Why in heck can't the businesses just DONATE already? Why do we have to jump through these stupid little hoops? :::clapping and cheering:::: (Of course, what I'd *really* like is a sensible tax structure, but in the absence of that.) --Helen (who just sends a goshdarned check to the school every year) Hear hear! Banty (OK - yeah - that's a "mee too" post :-) |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
In article , Noreen Cooper says...
Banty wrote: : Nope. Don't do the school fundraisers - frankly, I think they're a : crock. I do give new books directly to the library, though. But I : certainly don't get with the program of the wrapper-buying, PTA-committe : attending, classroom-cookie baking mommie. Oh, so you *do* something for the school, after all. Donating books to the library is helping out the school. I said I'd only judge you if you did *nothing* to help out your local school. But it seems you needed to go out of your way to make sure I knew you weren't one of "them." Okay, so you're not. BTW, I know a few AH classroom-cookie baking daddies, too. Sorry, couldn't resist. Noreen - you don't seem to get the point - this isn't a question of whether or not you approve - that's a non issue for me either way. It's that I'm not obliged, nor should be expected, to donate the books to begin with! Nor is any other parent. Banty |
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