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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Banty writes:
But why do you? You see your child in a school, perhaps another child in a school, and you as a parent in relation to that, and the other child's parent in relation to all that - do you think "in this setting everyone should be working"? Or - "I'm working here that parent should be working too", or more likely probably it's "there is work I see that is to be done here - everybody I see should be doing the work I see here"? No, none of these. I tried to explain it. I guess the best I can explain it is that I assume anyone who would have children is interested in educating and raising their children, and it would seem really odd to me to want to ship your child off to school for many hours every day and not be part of what's going on there. It would be like having children and then hiring someone to raise them while you go live somewhere else, and have no contact with your hired parent-substitutes. It just seems really odd, to me. The natural (in my view) wish to participate in the process by which my children are educated is totally independent of the needs or requirements of the school. Some people probably can't participate in the schools (for example, have a job which makes it impossible for them to do so), and I could understand why they might not participate, but I don't understand how a parent would not *want* to participate. The public schools are an institution with professional personnel trained to educate our children - they set (at least in detail) the agenda, goals, and methodology. Are you implying that you think the schools have a better idea of how to educate my kids than I do? I certainly don't agree with that! And I think one of the main benefits of volunteerism is precisely that the schools can't boss around volunteers or control them in the same way that they would employees. So the volunteers have more of an opportunity (relative to the amount of their participation) to have a positive effect, through the contribution of their own perspective and attitudes. You have no right or standing or even information to expect otherwise. Well, I think that, as an individual, I have "standing" to expect whatever I want. I'm using "expect" in the sense of "I expect an apology [for some infraction]"; it's what I think a reasonable person would do, and what I hope everyone would do, although I'm aware, as a matter of fact, that some people won't. And, to be honest, I don't really want everyone to volunteer: if someone really doesn't want to participate in the schools, then I don't want them there either. David desJardins |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Bev Brandt writes:
I've never had one single room parent tell me anything of value. And yes, I've talked with them. They all say my son is "fine." Bev Brandt also writes: Okay. What *do* you think of a parent who does not volunteer and who has not relied upon information from volunteer parents? I have a son with problems at school. I don't go to the school regularly. I don't ask the room parents about my son. Don't these two statements directly contradict each other? David desJardins |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Bev Brandt wrote:
: The volunteers at your school must do more than the volunteers at : mine. I don't see how helping the kids line up for recess and lunch : gives them any sort of data on my child. They are not the ones that : are there to evaluate his academic and social progress. I've never had : one single room parent tell me anything of value. And yes, I've talked : with them. They all say my son is "fine." Yes, the volunteers at my son's school do more than yard duty work, so in that case, no, my suggestion to ask a parent volunteer isn't going to help you out one bit. When I volunteer in the class, I'm providing direct assistance to the students. I'm either teaching them how to use a computer or else I'm helping them with reading or math in learning centers. I sit with kids who are having trouble reading and follow along as they read a book to me. I'm not expected to discipline the students, that is the job of the teacher. Usually I'm the only parent volunteer in the class for that given day, and while the teacher is providing more individual attention to a rotating group of students, I'm busy supervising and answering questions of the remaining three-quarters of the class while they work on assigned projects. Where I believe Marjorie gets the idea we parent volunteers are there for socializing is that class parties and field trips can be a social occasion for parent volunteers. However, those parties happen ony a handful of times out of the year. Otherwise, we're there to help the students with academics and allow for the teacher to give small groups more focused attention. Now were your son in the class I volunteer, I could tell you quite a bit about how he's doing, both academically and socially. Whether you want to respect my opinion or not is up to you and I'd give you the names of three other parent volunteers to get their opinions as well. : Okay. What *do* you think of a parent who does not volunteer and who : has not relied upon information from volunteer parents? I have a son : with problems at school. I don't go to the school regularly. I don't : ask the room parents about my son. Implicit in your posts is that I'm : not doing enough - but then, you don't know what I *am* doing. : Volunteering or asking the room parent about a child was your *first* : suggestion to the OP. I think it should be much further down the list. : Much. Since your school does not allow parents to help out with academics in the classroom, I can't equate our situations. I don't know what I'd do in your situation. Your son is having trouble in school but you can't get off work. Neither you or your husband particularly want to help out in the classroom. Your plan to be more aggressive on improving communication between you, the teacher, and the school principal sounds like the only way to go under the circumstances. Noreen |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Nan wrote:
: So what is it about today's teachers that requires all this : volunteerism??? I don't know about your state but in California it's called Proposition 13 from the 70's which took away millions of dollars from schools and universities. Noreen |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Robyn Kozierok wrote:
: It sounds like you've maybe had a bad experience with a teacher in the : past, but really, most kindergarten teachers have lots of experience : with separation issues and are more than willing to help. No, not at all. My son's kindergarten teacher was a reading specialist and she had everyone either at grade level or beyond by the end of the year. But no "perfect" teacher exists and she did fall down in a few of areas, IMO, and especially when she was overloaded with five very active boys in one classroom. I don't believe she dealt well with one active boy in particular and could see if the parent had been involved earlier, everyone would have been better served. By the time she brought in the mother, half the year had passed -- the mother was defensive -- and things went from bad to worse. Noreen |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents (was: Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...)
x-no-archive:yes David desJardins wrote:
Marjorie writes: Fourth, once your children reach middle school age, all of this is moot. They don't have parent volunteers in the middle school classrooms, thank goodness, and the parental competition dies on the vine. Now that you mention this, it certainly seems true that there's less volunteer help in the middle and high schools (although I don't agree there's none). I wonder why that is? My first thought is that, as children get older, they have less respect for any arbitrary adult, just because that person is an adult, and so it's harder for volunteers to come in and be treated with respect and to be effective. I wonder if that's the reason, or if there's some other reason. No I think the reason is that the children go from teacher to teacher - so they don't have one teacher all the time. There are occasional parent volunteers (or at least were when I was teaching) but they mostly helped in special ed or in the library or the office or somewhere like that. It's just way harder to coordinate it than in elementary school where one teacher has one class all the time. Also, a teacher does more or less (depending on the kind of teacher it is) the same lesson 4 or 5 times a day in middle school, and maybe two or three lessons a couple of times a day in high school. I was a student teacher where the 9th grade science teacher taught exactly the same lesson 5 times a day. Since I was forced to student teach outside of my field, he taught the first lesson of the day, and then I did the other 4 lessons repeating what he said. It just isn't the same kind of thing that an elementary teacher does with multiple subjects each day. As Robin has pointed out - in the beginning grades the parent is expected to be able to figure out the answers. There is not always that expectation in the upper grades and hs. grandma Rosalie |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
David desJardins wrote:
: Well, I think that, as an individual, I have "standing" to expect : whatever I want. I'm using "expect" in the sense of "I expect an : apology [for some infraction]"; it's what I think a reasonable person : would do, and what I hope everyone would do, although I'm aware, as a : matter of fact, that some people won't. And, to be honest, I don't : really want everyone to volunteer: if someone really doesn't want to : participate in the schools, then I don't want them there either. David, I'm all a'glow. We usually find ourselves on opposite ends of an argument so I'm reveling in the accord right now. :-) Noreen (ain't that a fancy way to say "Me, too) |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
"Noreen Cooper" wrote in message
... Well, in an ideal world....but....who is living in an ideal world? If the system isn't ideal, though, I'd still suggest getting data firsthand in a scouting mission rather than continue to allow your child to fail because the system is failing to communicate the problems to you in a timely manner. I agree. But I think a good first step is to ask the teacher, fercryinoutloud. When my daughter spent some time freaking out before kindergarten, she was always fine five minutes after I left. She was responding to *my* ambivalence about her growing up. Pulling out all stops, rearranging schedules, and looking for "scout" parents might be necessary 2nd, 3rd, etc. steps if the problem doesn't resolve in a couple of weeks. But I don't think they need to be at the top of the list. And school just started. Just my .02, Ann |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents (was: Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...)
"David desJardins" wrote in message ... Marjorie writes: Fourth, once your children reach middle school age, all of this is moot. They don't have parent volunteers in the middle school classrooms, thank goodness, and the parental competition dies on the vine. Now that you mention this, it certainly seems true that there's less volunteer help in the middle and high schools (although I don't agree there's none). I wonder why that is? My first thought is that, as children get older, they have less respect for any arbitrary adult, just because that person is an adult, and so it's harder for volunteers to come in and be treated with respect and to be effective. I wonder if that's the reason, or if there's some other reason. I think partly it's because the subjects have become too advanced to assume any volunteer can teach them. I know in junior high the masses could volunteer for some things, serving hot lunch, or bringing snacks for various teacher events. But by junior high they know the volunteers they want. If they need math experts, they find the math experts. If they need engineers, they know who's an engineer. So they get recruit volunteers on a case by case basis. But also they need many, many less volunteers. I think this might be because junior high seems to be when tracking kicks in. In elementary school it's great to have some one doing math enrichment while the other kids are working on reviewing basics, or having some one do the chapter reading group while others are working on short stories, and others are on picture books. But when all the kids in the class are ready for math enrichment, or reviewing basics, less "teachers" are required. Also, as the kids get older their attention spans lengthen, and teachers can deal with more students at the same time. When working in groups they eventually don't need supervision in each group. At our elementary schools the volunteers lessen every year. The difference in volunteer classroom hours between 6th grade parents (last year of elementary) and 7th grade parents (first year of junior high) is pretty much a wash. But by high school the parents are invited back in force, but not in classrooms, in tutoring centers. Where parents can help kids catch up in 1st and 2nd grade classrooms, by high school pulling kids out of class to tutor makes no sense. But parents still tutor, it just doesn't look like classroom volunteering. |
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