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When NO is funny.
Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said
sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? blacksalt |
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When NO is funny.
"blacksalt" wrote in message ... Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? Baby proof, distract from the "no" items, and make as much of the environment a "yes" as possible. Children this age may be able to differentiate the word "no" from other sounds, but they are not usually able to respond appropriately to the command. That will come later in the next year of life. In the mean time, say no as you remove the baby from the problem activity/item or redirect baby's attention, but don't make a huge deal out of it. In another year or so baby will be saying it back to you! -Aula --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.497 / Virus Database: 296 - Release Date: 7/4/03 |
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When NO is funny.
On Tue, 08 Jul 2003 13:09:32 -0700, blacksalt
wrote: Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? blacksalt Stop saying no. Tell him what he can do instead of what he cannot do. Distract him from things you don't want him to do with something that is more interesting. If you do say *no* make it for things involving safety. Say it ONCE, then act to pick him up and move him out of danger and supervise him closely enough that he cannot go back to the dangerous activity. I am a big believer in saving the words no and stop for situations where they are really important. Otherwise, I would allow the child to explore and to learn what happens from the natural consequences of his actions. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. Outer Limits |
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When NO is funny.
"blacksalt" wrote in message ... Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? blacksalt Don't say NO. We say "not for insert baby's name and remove the object. If it's a hitting thing we say "STOP, that hurts insert object or person's name...". Also, make most environments positive ones by ensuring there are less "NO" objects available. It works amazingly well and makes for more stress free days for everyone involved. theother Cheryl |
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When NO is funny.
blacksalt wrote:
Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? blacksalt ------------------------- Nothing. Just prevent danger, that's your job, not intimidate your child. Steve |
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When NO is funny.
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What would you do? blacksalt Saying no is strictly reserved for potentially harmful behaviour. First time I say 'no' in a clear voice, so he knows it is not just another word, and I try to distract him with something else. Second time I say 'no' sternly and take him away from the object. Third time I have to say 'no', I take the object out of the room. It has worked fine so far. I always tell him he is doing good when he takes up another toy or moves away from the 'forbidden' object, and often I go an play with him a little as a reward (and keep him distracted). And yes, you will have to keep an eye 24/7 and your furniture will be damaged, as will be other things. Food will end up on floor, wall and ceiling, and in places you never though existed. But as long as his behaviour doesn't pose a threat to him, we just ignore it and so far it has passed when he was satisfied with the discovery of wood and the force of gravity. -- -- Ilse mom to Olaf (07/15/2002) TTC #2 "What's the use of brains if you are a girl?" Aletta Jacobs, first Dutch woman to receive a PhD |
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When NO is funny.
same situation here, but the problem is biting.
When he bites, we grasp his shoulders firmly, look him directly in the eyes and say, "NO, we do not bite" then set him down and ignore him, giving attention to the person he bit. Sometimes he gets it, and sometimes it very funny. He is ten months old. "blacksalt" wrote in message ... Almost one year old baby gets the giggles over "no" even if said sternly, even if removed from the object. I cringe at seeing people swat babies hands. Ignoring doesn't work either...he just happily keeps at it, but he seems to take No as an extra special treat. In truth, he laughs over many things, so his response seems normal for his personality, and it ain't that he's being neglected and looking for attention. What would you do? blacksalt |
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When NO is funny.
On Wed, 09 Jul 2003 17:51:56 GMT, "jojo"
wrote: same situation here, but the problem is biting. When he bites, we grasp his shoulders firmly, look him directly in the eyes and say, "NO, we do not bite" then set him down and ignore him, giving attention to the person he bit. Sometimes he gets it, and sometimes it very funny. He is ten months old. At 10 months, I would suggest that he may also be teething. So, instead of just saying no, say *we bite apples* or *we bite teething rings* and give him one he can bite. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. Outer Limits |
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