i pay support, what if i pass away? what happens to my family?

I am paid a salary of 50k a year.
I have arranged with my ex to pay her $1200 a month.
We have two babies.
That's the set arrangement. In the last 7 months I've sent her over $10k.
It's still not the best- it's hard to work when you are the sole provider
for 2 infants.
I used to be all whiny about paying- that it was too high- that
it was impossible. And it is. I work long hours. But my ex works longer
hours.
I think when we realize this is about the kids- and not the ex- things can
become more clear- you can let go of resentment.

Recently a friend's friend's ex.. passed away. And the guy was paying
support. It brought to my mind a question..

What would be their situation if something were to happen to me?
Would wellfare/fed support them? Fill in a gap?

"harcrelc" wrote in

Recently a friend's friend's ex.. passed away. And the guy was paying
support. It brought to my mind a question..

What would be their situation if something were to happen to me?
Would wellfare/fed support them? Fill in a gap?


Duh, life insurance!

"harcrelc" wrote in message
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I am paid a salary of 50k a year.
I have arranged with my ex to pay her $1200 a month.
We have two babies.
That's the set arrangement. In the last 7 months I've sent her over $10k.


1200 a month? And she puts forward her 1200 a month to the kids too right?
2400 a month for two kids. Wish I ws those kids, I'd be living large!

"harcrelc" wrote
I am paid a salary of 50k a year.
I have arranged with my ex to pay her $1200 a month.
We have two babies.
That's the set arrangement. In the last 7 months I've sent her over $10k.
It's still not the best- it's hard to work when you are the sole provider
for 2 infants.
I used to be all whiny about paying- that it was too high- that
it was impossible. And it is. I work long hours. But my ex works longer
hours.
I think when we realize this is about the kids- and not the ex- things can
become more clear- you can let go of resentment.

Recently a friend's friend's ex.. passed away. And the guy was paying
support. It brought to my mind a question..

What would be their situation if something were to happen to me?
Would wellfare/fed support them? Fill in a gap?
==
Some states allow judges discretion to order life insurance to secure
support.
You could surely do this without a court order. BTW, that is a lot of
support
for a 50k salary. Still, it is refreshing to hear of parents who are able to
put aside their
emotions and focus on the kids' needs. My ex and I had no CS or custody
orders because
we found it unacceptable/odd to turn control of our kids over to the state.
I still can't fathom that.
Our kids are now mid/late 20s and my ex and I still communicate about
whatever kid issues arise.

They would draw social security death benefits. I doubt it would be
$1200.00 a month.

In all honesty, I can't fathom paying $1200.00 support for 2 children,
we pay $570.00 for two children and make near what you do.

If I was you, I would pay the amount the court has ordered and put the
remainder in a savings account with their names on it and yours. It will
be a nice nest egg for them when they start out in the world.

"Laura" wrote in

It will be a nice nest egg for them when they start out in the world.

My parents provided a good home and great life, but a nest egg to move out
with, not bloody likely.

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"Laura" wrote in

It will be a nice nest egg for them when they start out in the world.

My parents provided a good home and great life, but a nest egg to move out
with, not bloody likely.


What ever happened to going out and work for it, otherwise known as earning
a living?

"Laura" wrote in message
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They would draw social security death benefits. I doubt it would be
$1200.00 a month.

In all honesty, I can't fathom paying $1200.00 support for 2 children,
we pay $570.00 for two children and make near what you do.

If I was you, I would pay the amount the court has ordered and put the
remainder in a savings account with their names on it and yours. It will
be a nice nest egg for them when they start out in the world.

Not sure what "remainder" you are speaking of. He's already paying the
mother an ungodly sum of cash sufficient to build such "nest egg". If the
mother chooses to not put it away for her children, oh well.............

On Apr 26, 3:30?pm, "Gini" wrote:
"harcrelc" wrote



I am paid a salary of 50k a year.
I have arranged with my ex to pay her $1200 a month.
We have two babies.
That's the set arrangement. In the last 7 months I've sent her over $10k.
It's still not the best- it's hard to work when you are the sole provider
for 2 infants.
I used to be all whiny about paying- that it was too high- that
it was impossible. And it is. I work long hours. But my ex works longer
hours.
I think when we realize this is about the kids- and not the ex- things can
become more clear- you can let go of resentment.

Recently a friend's friend's ex.. passed away. And the guy was paying
support. It brought to my mind a question..

What would be their situation if something were to happen to me?
Would wellfare/fed support them? Fill in a gap?

==
Some states allow judges discretion to order life insurance to secure
support.
You could surely do this without a court order. BTW, that is a lot of
support
for a 50k salary. Still, it is refreshing to hear of parents who are able to
put aside their
emotions and focus on the kids' needs. My ex and I had no CS or custody
orders because
we found it unacceptable/odd to turn control of our kids over to the state.
I still can't fathom that.
Our kids are now mid/late 20s and my ex and I still communicate about
whatever kid issues arise.- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

I have to have a life insurance policy. It's court ordered.

"Relayer" wrote in message
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On Apr 26, 3:30?pm, "Gini" wrote:
"harcrelc" wrote



I am paid a salary of 50k a year.
I have arranged with my ex to pay her $1200 a month.
We have two babies.
That's the set arrangement. In the last 7 months I've sent her over
$10k.
It's still not the best- it's hard to work when you are the sole
provider
for 2 infants.
I used to be all whiny about paying- that it was too high- that
it was impossible. And it is. I work long hours. But my ex works
longer
hours.
I think when we realize this is about the kids- and not the ex- things
can
become more clear- you can let go of resentment.

Recently a friend's friend's ex.. passed away. And the guy was paying
support. It brought to my mind a question..

What would be their situation if something were to happen to me?
Would wellfare/fed support them? Fill in a gap?

==
Some states allow judges discretion to order life insurance to secure
support.
You could surely do this without a court order. BTW, that is a lot of
support
for a 50k salary. Still, it is refreshing to hear of parents who are
able to
put aside their
emotions and focus on the kids' needs. My ex and I had no CS or custody
orders because
we found it unacceptable/odd to turn control of our kids over to the
state.
I still can't fathom that.
Our kids are now mid/late 20s and my ex and I still communicate about
whatever kid issues arise.- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

I have to have a life insurance policy. It's court ordered.

My state has a law allowing judges to order life insurance in divorce
decrees to guarantee future payments when CS is ordered. The appeals court
ruled the courts have no authority to tell a life insurance holder who they
can designate as their beneficiaries. So the judges get around the appeals
court ruling by giving the obligor the option of providing life insurance in
the amount set by the court, or the court will reserve the right to create
an irrevocable trust against assets in the event of the obligor's death.

When you think about it, these types of court orders are designed to punish
a father for remarrying. The children from a marriage are given
preferential treatment over a subsequent wife. In essence, a subsequent
wife has her claim to a fathers assets reduced by the amount of CS guarantee
set by the court.