Child Support increased?

"Krista" wrote in message
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When I left my ex he was making a bit over $32,500/year gross. He also
had
a side business that I helped him start and partially funded, but whenever
I
asked him about it, he was always "about to shut it down." When our
divorce
became final he was ordered to keep our daughter on his insurance, so his
child support was lowered for that (as it should have been), and our
daughter was awarded $435.69/month. Fast forward to about a month ago.
He
was supposed to come visit her, but the night before he was to pick her
up,
his girlfriend totaled his car. Just randomly websurfing I came upon his
blog that said he'd gotten a promotion and 15% raise in October 2003.
He'd
just gotten done telling me (while we were on the phone talking about his
car) that he'd only gotten 1.5% COL increases each year since I'd left
him.
Then a few days ago I check out his side business' website, as I
periodically do, and come to find out, he's doing a bang up business over
there. Of course, this is far from doing so poorly it's about to "shut
down" and in addition to the 15% raise, he's making a tidy sum that's not
calculated in his child support. I realize that because the business
wasn't
mentioned in the divorce decree (because of his lies), I can't claim any
right to profits from it, but I *can* take him back to court to have his
child support increased, no? By my calculations, he should be paying me
around $100-200/month more than he is right now but isn't because he
didn't
report the side business' income and because he recently got a 15% raise.
I'm sure that's exactly the reason he didn't tell me about either, but I
still think it's a sh*tty thing to do. I understand about the raise, and
if
it was just that, I wouldn't worry about it, but I feel that he totally
gypped me on the side business because I helped him start it and run it
and
I funded the project, and he led me to believe it was as good as defunct
when it was far from it, just so he could keep from giving me my share of
the profits. I guess my questions a

1. I'm sure it varies from state to state, but in general, should I be
able
to take him back to court for a child support increase? It's been 2.5
years
since our divorce was final.

2. Should I take him back to court on this issue, or just let it go?

3. Why does he bother to lie to me when he posts the stuff in a public
forum (on the Internet) where I can find it any time?

4. How can he "not afford" to see her more than once per month when he's
making twice what we make and pays the same rent (although his is all
bills
paid, we have to pay bills, too), and we're supporting ourselves and two
kids and he's supporting himself and perhaps partially his live-in
girlfriend? Remember that we're not using her current child support to
fund
our living expenses, only her college fund, so I'm not counting that as
income, and I *am* taking it away from his income, he brought home (before
the raise and without any added in for the side business) $1857/month when
I
lived with him, then he got the raise, and he's got side work, so I figure
that even after child support he's making only a little less than that,
about $1600/month. I just don't get it. And that's even without getting
into his whole tax-withholding scheme. He still has his W-4 saying three
exemptions, so he gets more in his check, but has to pay every year at tax
time. And he still can't afford to pay $40 for two weekends instead of
$20
for one? That's the approximate cost of gas for one trip, according to
him.

That last question is kinda paradoxical because I don't *want* him to see
her more, but it still irks me that his lame @ss excuse is that he can't
afford it when I know what he makes and that he *could* afford it if he
wanted to. I just don't get him. I never really have. He always casts
aspersions on me, looking at me as a mirror of him, always playing like he
thinks I'll do what *he* would do in the same situation, which I would
not.
I'm not him, I've never been, but he never took the time to find that out,
I
guess. Like this threatening letter he sent me once, about calling CPS on
me and having my family "ripped apart." Those are the words he used. He
was trying to scare me, because in that same situation he would have
complied with anything I wanted to avoid the call to CPS, he expected me
to
do the same. I didn't. I called CPS myself and asked them if they would
take my kids away for the reasons he was citing. They said no way, that
he
was full of it. And I told him so. He had no response to that. But the
point is he expected me to react as he would have, and I didn't. He
always
expects me to react as he would... You'd think he'd learn.

Well, now that I got all long and rambley, I think I'll go to bed. Thanks
for reading if you got this far.

--
Krista Young
Devoted wife, loving mother


You left him, right? Why don't you get off his ass and let him live his new
life? HE is the one who busts his hump for is paycheck, not YOU. All YOU
did was spread your legs and get pregnant. You are so typical of 95% of the
divorced females w/ kids out there.

YOU made the decision to end the marriage and rob him of the opportunity to
be with his kids on a daily basis. But now YOU expect HIM to finance your
decision to break up the family.

**** off ****.

"Some Guy" wrote...
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Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?

"Some Guy" wrote...
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Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?

"Some Guy" wrote...
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Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?

As soon as that order is 36 months old, petition the court for a
review/modification - increase based on material change of circumstance
and/or the age of the order. Do this every three years to make sure the
order is within guidelines in your state. And enjoy your 'broken family
lifestyle.'

As soon as that order is 36 months old, petition the court for a
review/modification - increase based on material change of circumstance
and/or the age of the order. Do this every three years to make sure the
order is within guidelines in your state. And enjoy your 'broken family
lifestyle.'

As soon as that order is 36 months old, petition the court for a
review/modification - increase based on material change of circumstance
and/or the age of the order. Do this every three years to make sure the
order is within guidelines in your state. And enjoy your 'broken family
lifestyle.'

Roger B. said...
"Some Guy" wrote...
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Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?


He is a charmer, isn't he?

I'm guessing he hasn't been real successful in relationships... with
women at least.



Casey

Roger B. said...
"Some Guy" wrote...
snip

Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?


He is a charmer, isn't he?

I'm guessing he hasn't been real successful in relationships... with
women at least.



Casey

Roger B. said...
"Some Guy" wrote...
snip

Which rock did this roach crawl out from under?


He is a charmer, isn't he?

I'm guessing he hasn't been real successful in relationships... with
women at least.



Casey