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A disconnect at camp
In article , Nan says...
On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! Exactly. The only advantage to a cell phone is immediacy. And it's the perceived need for immediacy that I question. Banty -- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/5222154.stm |
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Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara |
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A disconnect at camp
On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, Barbara wrote:
Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. Are you honestly asserting that, presuming a payphone is there, that the child will have the same access and availability to it as they would to a cell phone? Come on, be serious. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. It's a safe bet that if there isn't a payphone, then at least there's an office phone for the staff. So unless you're going to assert that the *entire* camp staff is going to actively prevent a child from using the phone, when they truly need it, well, that reasoning just won't fly. - Rich -- Catapultam habeo. Nisi pecuniam omnem mihi dabis, ad caput tuum saxum immane mittam. http://www/mulveyfamily.com/kids |
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A disconnect at camp
the issue with this while what he did was wrong, and you reacted normaly, the councelors just saw a homesick girl that for some reason wasn't joining in. They are not trained to be psychologists. If you had explained this right away I am sure you would have been allowed to call. If you had told right away it would have saved you weeks of suffering. What did you trust about the other kids that you did not trust about the councelors? Would you have told them if they asked? Tori You want a real story? I'll give you one. When I was 16, I went on a 6 week school-sponsored trip abroad. In the first week, I was molested by a tour guide (not one of our tour leaders). I spent the rest of the summer upset, withdrawn, fearful and crying. The group leaders never once asked me what was wrong; if they had, I would have told them. Instead, they threatened me -- if you don't buck up, we'll send you home alone, in shame; at the time, that seemed like an awful option. I didn't feel comfortable telling the group leaders. Within 2 weeks, virtually every kid in the group knew why I was so upset, but no one told the leaders. I begged to call my parents, but the *rules* were no calls. I wish I'd had a cell phone. it would have saved me weeks -- hell, years -- of pain. Really, this is all about the Invisible Electronic Umbilical Chord, and Momma-Bears and Papa-Bears pinning that Concerned Parent Merit Badge on their aprons and suits. Do you *really* think that it advances your argument to belittle and insult people who hold differing opinions? Or do you write in this manner to disguise the fact that you lack a single logical argument in favor of your position? I think it may also be that Ubiquitous Cell Phone Culture, where every "do you want skirt steak or london broil tonight" or "well, look in your sock drawer for them - did you ask your dad where you left them" question HAS to be asked and answered IMMEDIATELY or Life Falls Apart. I don't believe that cell phones are *necessary* for all kids who goes to overnight camp. Indeed, there's probably a lot to be said for cutting that cord. OTOH, I don't think that Lyn's position is out of line, overprotective, or otherwise ridiculous. IIRC, her son is now about 2 years old, so I don't think that overnight camp is imminent. However, whomever said that when the time comes -- if it comes -- she should seek out a camp that permits cell phones (and they do exist) is correct; that's what I would do. Naw, it's a silly position, no surprise from the author. Mamma Bear Supreme. Well, since I am the one espousing the position, I'll proudly bear the name. And why wouldn't I want to be known as someone who looks out for her child's best interests and tries to protect him? I put these objections into the same category as the complaints from speeding drivers "but whattif I had my laboring wife about to have a baby". It's unlikely, and silly anysay (pros should be transporting). I've never heard a speeder say that. I have, however, heard people lament today's safety devices while refusing to use them. *I'm a good driver. I've never been in an accident. I never wore seatbelts when I was a kid. There's no reason for my kid to be in a carseat* *Oh, c'mon. No one wore bike helmets when we were kids* Ad infinitum. Come to think of it, they're right. Most trips don't result in accidents; its probably 1 in a million for any given car trip that a baby will need the protection of a carseat. Same for bike helmets, using power mowers. I don't see the cell phone as being any different. The reason why cell phones are often banned is because it impacts the camp environment and atmosphere to have kids IMing and yammering at each other across the camp. As well as needing to cut that invisible umbilical chord for some little time - it's called growing up! Since I grew up just fine without ever going to overnight camp, I imagine that kids will grow up just fine with cell phones at camp. Its simply not an unreasonable thing to have, if the camp allows it. Although an *alternate* policy is "no cell phones visibie". That is, the child can have a cell for calling home in true emergencies, or after camp, or in case there is a need to shut down the camp early. So - they can carry the cell, but if it's out (and there's no accepted reason for it to be out; if it's out, it's assumed that it's out for use), it gets confiscated. No, not just for the day. That's what my son's daycamp, and his school district, has. So, would a policy like that make folks feel more comfortable? We've made a decision that for us, the risks of not having a phone at school -- at a point when One is still taking the school bus -- or day camp are minimal. He comes home at the end of the day and can report any problems or incidents to us, or we can observe behavioral changes and look into why they're occurring. Its different if the kid is away for 8 weeks. It will also be different for me when One starts taking public transit to and from school, and otherwise going places without parental supervision. What would be the advantage of allowing a child to have a phone, but not letting him use it? It seems rather silly to me. Barbara |
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On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, "Barbara"
wrote: Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara I will grant that payphones aren't as abundant as they used to be. However, a camp would make sure a phone is available for staff, and for the campers to contact their parents, if necessary. Nan |
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Nan wrote:
On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara I will grant that payphones aren't as abundant as they used to be. However, a camp would make sure a phone is available for staff, and for the campers to contact their parents, if necessary. Nan Its really difficult to respond when everyone here keeps changing their positions. It started out as *anyone who would send a cell phone to camp with their kids is a horrible parent intent upon keeping their kids too close.* Lyn's response -- sometimes bad things happen at camp and kids need to contact their parents Response -- Noooooooo. WE'VE been to camp, and nothing awful never happens there. My response -- sure it does. Here's some examples. Response -- well, of COURSE those things can happen, and kids can go to their counselors or write My response -- maybe not. Here are some examples. [Alternate response -- well, a *good* parent would screen for those things, and that would *never* happen. My response -- you can try, but don't expect to always succeed.] Response -- well, OF COURSE there may be situations such as that. They can CALL! its perfectly reasonable and responsible parenting to expect that your child will be able to use PAY phone if there's an emergency. But if a parent provides a CELL phone for that same emergency, well, then, that parent is a terrible parent, deserving of insults of the type that are practically Banty's trademark. Sorry, I don't buy it. If there are times when a TELEPHONE is needed for emergencies, then it is not inherently unreasonable for parents to provide a CELL PHONE for those emergencies. (And surely you know that you can disable text messaging, and even program certain phones to only call certain emergency numbers.) Barbara |
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In article .com, Barbara
says... Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara I will grant that payphones aren't as abundant as they used to be. However, a camp would make sure a phone is available for staff, and for the campers to contact their parents, if necessary. Nan Its really difficult to respond when everyone here keeps changing their positions. It started out as *anyone who would send a cell phone to camp with their kids is a horrible parent intent upon keeping their kids too close.* Lyn's response -- sometimes bad things happen at camp and kids need to contact their parents Response -- Noooooooo. WE'VE been to camp, and nothing awful never happens there. My response -- sure it does. Here's some examples. Response -- well, of COURSE those things can happen, and kids can go to their counselors or write My response -- maybe not. Here are some examples. [Alternate response -- well, a *good* parent would screen for those things, and that would *never* happen. My response -- you can try, but don't expect to always succeed.] Response -- well, OF COURSE there may be situations such as that. They can CALL! its perfectly reasonable and responsible parenting to expect that your child will be able to use PAY phone if there's an emergency. But if a parent provides a CELL phone for that same emergency, well, then, that parent is a terrible parent, deserving of insults of the type that are practically Banty's trademark. Sorry, I don't buy it. If there are times when a TELEPHONE is needed for emergencies, then it is not inherently unreasonable for parents to provide a CELL PHONE for those emergencies. (And surely you know that you can disable text messaging, and even program certain phones to only call certain emergency numbers.) ::boggle:: Truly, the only phones you know about are cellphones and payphones? Banty (TM) -- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/5222154.stm |
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"Barbara" wrote in message oups.com... Its really difficult to respond when everyone here keeps changing their positions. I haven't given my position yet, but I am also in the "no cell phone" camp. If there were no downsides, then I'd say, "Sure, let 'em have 'em." But there are. There is a discipline issue of kids using them when they're not supposed to. There is the problem of parents or friends calling the camper. There is the possibility of losing the thing in the woods. There is the fact that many of the cabins/tents the kids stay in have no electricity to charge the darn things. There is the "haves vs. have nots" dynamic set up. Sure the camp might be able to work with or around all these things, but I don't blame the camp if they don't want to. It wouldn't make me suspicious that there were things going on that they didn't want reported. Of course you and Lyn don't have to send your kid to camp if you don't agree with their policies. I wouldn't want to send mine to a camp where all parental contact was forbidden. But if there were two similar camps and one allowed cell phones and the other didn't, I'd send mine to the "no cell phones" camp. Bizby |
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Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara I will grant that payphones aren't as abundant as they used to be. However, a camp would make sure a phone is available for staff, and for the campers to contact their parents, if necessary. Nan Our G/S camp in town no longer has a payphone. But on another topic entirely, when was the last time you *saw* a payphone in an urban environment? For me, it was '92 (Boston's Chinatown/Combat Zone)....haven't seen one of those things in years. Caledonia |
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Banty wrote: In article .com, Barbara says... Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 12:02:00 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: Nan wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 10:47:09 -0700, "Barbara" wrote: IF the child feels comfortable speaking to the counselor. IF the counselor gives a fl***g f***, as opposed to being some teenager who really just wants to get through the summer the easiest way and collect his tips at the end. IF its not the counselor who is the problem. IF the situation is not one that needs immediate attention. But I'm glad to see that you admit that reporting a problem to mom and dad is a viable option. The cell phone is simply a faster means that a letter that's going to take several days to reach the parents. And honestly, Banty, no one expects the kid to call while an incident is occurring. They would call in a private moment, later on. IME, there was always a phone available in the camp office, or a pay phone outside. We were able to use it if we needed to. Nobody was prevented from using it, if they felt it was necessary. Believe it or not, we were able to communicate problems to our parents before cell phones were invented! But Nan, the argument began with the statement that kids should NOT be able to call their parents at will while at summer camp. *We need to cut that cord* the battlecry went. Ergo, no cell phone. If kids are able to call home at will using a landline, how could it *possibly* change the entire nature of the experience to permit them to use a cell phone for the same purpose? You can't have it both ways. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. Moreover, payphones are not as available today as they were even 5 years ago. I would never count on one being available if I needed it. Barbara I will grant that payphones aren't as abundant as they used to be. However, a camp would make sure a phone is available for staff, and for the campers to contact their parents, if necessary. Nan Its really difficult to respond when everyone here keeps changing their positions. It started out as *anyone who would send a cell phone to camp with their kids is a horrible parent intent upon keeping their kids too close.* Lyn's response -- sometimes bad things happen at camp and kids need to contact their parents Response -- Noooooooo. WE'VE been to camp, and nothing awful never happens there. My response -- sure it does. Here's some examples. Response -- well, of COURSE those things can happen, and kids can go to their counselors or write My response -- maybe not. Here are some examples. [Alternate response -- well, a *good* parent would screen for those things, and that would *never* happen. My response -- you can try, but don't expect to always succeed.] Response -- well, OF COURSE there may be situations such as that. They can CALL! its perfectly reasonable and responsible parenting to expect that your child will be able to use PAY phone if there's an emergency. But if a parent provides a CELL phone for that same emergency, well, then, that parent is a terrible parent, deserving of insults of the type that are practically Banty's trademark. Sorry, I don't buy it. If there are times when a TELEPHONE is needed for emergencies, then it is not inherently unreasonable for parents to provide a CELL PHONE for those emergencies. (And surely you know that you can disable text messaging, and even program certain phones to only call certain emergency numbers.) ::boggle:: Truly, the only phones you know about are cellphones and payphones? Banty (TM) BOGGLE is right! How about a substantive response to my points? Barbara |
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