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On Sun, 20 Jul 2003 23:35:31 -0400, "CBI"
wrote: "PF Riley" wrote in message ... It sounds like you are a wimpy, immature parent who is afraid to apply any discipline to his children but rationalizes his inaction with the false notion that he is teaching them "independence" or "responsibility." Loser. Insecurity explains much of his behavior. Hmm... I wonder why. Imagine Roger meeting Freud for a session of psychoanalysis. "Tell me about your mother..." PF |
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"Roger Schlafly" wrote in message . ..
"Wendy Marsden" wrote I've even heard of parents who resent picky eaters LYING to children about peanuts thinking the kid just doesn't LIKE them and they will like them if they try them. No doubt some parents also do the reverse -- tell the kid that some dessert has peanuts in it just to deter the kid from wanting the dessert. I just tell the kid the truth. Even a 3-year-old can understand it. This goes a long way towards explaining why you think the dangers posed by hot dogs are trivial. Compared to the danger in allowing an allergic 3-year-old to make her own food decisions, hot dogs *are* a trivial issue. Beth |
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Elizabeth Reid wrote:
"Roger Schlafly" wrote in message . .. I just tell the kid the truth. Even a 3-year-old can understand it. This goes a long way towards explaining why you think the dangers posed by hot dogs are trivial. Compared to the danger in allowing an allergic 3-year-old to make her own food decisions, hot dogs *are* a trivial issue. I figured he was just trolling with that comment. I've had three bright, well-behaved intelligent children who absolutely could not be trusted to take "the truth" and make adult-like decisions from it at the age of three. This is so self-evident that I'm wondering if he has ever even HAD a three year old. Wendy |
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Roger Schlafly wrote:
"Wendy Marsden" wrote I've even heard of parents who resent picky eaters LYING to children about peanuts thinking the kid just doesn't LIKE them and they will like them if they try them. No doubt some parents also do the reverse -- tell the kid that some dessert has peanuts in it just to deter the kid from wanting the dessert. I just tell the kid the truth. Even a 3-year-old can understand it. I agree you should tell the truth about peanuts in food. I think you are undermining her ability to trust you about peanuts if you say something can't be eaten 'cuz it will kill her when you just don't want her having another snack before dinner. But I think you are wrong that a three year old can understand the truth (and make appropriate decisions from it.) The reason why you can't let her monitor her own food is that: 1.) You can't trust her to research enough to discover if there really is some peanut product in it 2.) You can't trust other adults to monitor for peanuts adequately AND 3.) You cannot trust that she will make appropriate decisions from the information she has, i.e., someday she will get curious about what the effect REALLY is, or someone will taunt her to try it, or she's be depressed and thinking, "what the hell, I don't care". You see, children have poor judgment. It's a hallmark of a child. That's why kids use guns they KNOW they aren't supposed to touch. That's why they drink and drive. That's why they do all sorts of stupid **** - because they make bad decisions. You are fooling yourself terribly if you thinking that KNOWING the facts and behaving maturely go hand in hand. Wendy |
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