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A teenager question
Wendy Marsden wrote:
toto wrote: On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 18:32:12 GMT, Wendy Marsden How would he be a *slacker* if he was working and paid rent? His "job" as a 17 year old is to finish his high school education. ------------ NO person's "job" is to do something not their choice, period! It doesn't work. A kid given every opportunity and three different school situations in order to support his efforts in this area and yet does not do it - that is waht I'm calling a slacker. ------------------ Then all you are is wrong. Steve |
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A teenager question
On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 18:32:12 GMT, Wendy Marsden
wrote: So, third try. Let's say he doesn't do the work. Now he's turning 18. They're not interested in running a boarding house for slacker kids Okay so help me. If he's working and paying rent, how exactly is he a slacker. Both my kids did not choose college after high school. They lived at home and worked. They paid room and board. I never thought of them as slackers even once, although I did hope tha tthings would change, and they did. Some kids simply do know what to do with their lives at eighteen. This doesnt make them misfits or slackers. It makes them unique individuals. I figuired it was my job to help them down that path, help them learn. And as the parent paying the biills, I would certainly rather a child lived at home and worked, that choose a schooling option they werent comitted to. Your mileage may vary. even if he pays rent - he just isn't that enjoyable a house-mate. this sentence says volumes to me. He's a difficult child, perhaps not easy to get along with, and doesnt fall into the rank and file. Sound slike a fairly normal kid to me. Seems to me this is the biggest issue after all is said and done. told them to come get the lazy bum. They did and my older brother was well-served by a stint with Uncle Sam.) And does he still feel the same way? Barb Wendy |
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A teenager question
On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 22:32:47 GMT, Wendy Marsden
wrote: toto wrote: On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 18:32:12 GMT, Wendy Marsden How would he be a *slacker* if he was working and paid rent? His "job" as a 17 year old is to finish his high school education. And I think this is an issue. I would say his job is to decide what he wants to do with his life. given every opportunity and three different school situations in order to support his efforts in this area and yet does not do it - that is waht I'm calling a slacker. Then perhaps this is not the appropriate effort to make? Perhaps he needs to get a minimum wage job, pay room and board, and realize for himself the import of school? I don't see any particular evidence that he would get a self-supporting job and pay rent without a GED. His summer job is just that - a teen-aged kid's summer job. It is recreation-related and won't last past Labor Day. Then if he lived at home and paid rent and board, perhaps he would soon realize that he had no disposable income and recognize the point of finishing school. I believe the issue is that the mother wants her son to finish his base level education so that he will be ready to meet the challenges facing him in adulthood. She is trying to bring him to the point where he will do the work for himself. She has no wish to allow him the luxery of living at home and partying while neglecting his responsibilities. that there would be no talk of leaving home if he were making an effort at doing his studies. OKay, maybe its me. Admittedly Im a hands off, let em learn by doing parent. But I see some REAL control issues here as far as the parents. Sure. In fact, I don't see why she wants him home at this point if she doesn't think very well of him. Wow. This woman LOVES him. Your writing does not convey that. JUst the opposie, in my opinion. And it sound slike she doesnt particularly think much of him, or enjoy him as a person in his own right. Sounds to me like she has an image of what he should be. came to the decision to throw him out after it became clear that nothing else was getting the kid on track. No, she doesn't think he's a paragon of a human being - he's a particularly self-absorbed seventeen year old. But again, this sounds fairly normal. doesn't think well of him it is even all the more reason to want him to come home - so she can finish raising him. Again, control issues. She needs to be helping him turn into an adult. She should not be "raising" a seventeen year old in my opinion. Sorry If i'm misreading, but thats what I see. Barb |
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A teenager question
In article , Barbara says...
I hope it goes well, but it would seem to me that any trust kid had in parent would be down the tubes at this point. Hopefully thier releationship can be repaired. Barb Indeed. But the lessons they're teaching their son - that adults shouldn't rely on family, and that financial dependance means subjectation - might not create the son they'd hope for when they're in their declining years. Banty |
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A teenager question
On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 22:32:47 GMT, Wendy Marsden
wrote: His "job" as a 17 year old is to finish his high school education. That is easily accomplished with taking the GED. You don't have to be homeschooled or attend an HS to accomplish that. -- Daye Momma to Jayan EDD 11 Jan 2004 |
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A teenager question
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Daye wrote: On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 22:32:47 GMT, Wendy Marsden wrote: His "job" as a 17 year old is to finish his high school education. That is easily accomplished with taking the GED. You don't have to be homeschooled or attend an HS to accomplish that. But, as several of us have pointed out in another thread, in some states you CAN'T take the GED until you are 18, or until your "class" graduates from high school. meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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A teenager question
On Sun, 03 Aug 2003 20:51:37 GMT, dragonlady
wrote: But, as several of us have pointed out in another thread, in some states you CAN'T take the GED until you are 18, or until your "class" graduates from high school. Personally, I don't see the big deal. One test and he is done -- even if he has to wait a few months. In Australia, there is no such thing as a GED. If you don't finish school, there is no test. -- Daye Momma to Jayan EDD 11 Jan 2004 |
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A teenager question
Daye wrote:
On Sat, 02 Aug 2003 22:32:47 GMT, Wendy Marsden wrote: His "job" as a 17 year old is to finish his high school education. That is easily accomplished with taking the GED. You don't have to be homeschooled or attend an HS to accomplish that. Agreed, Jaye, but if you haven't done any of your school work in some months and won't pass the GED you need to set up a program of study to accomplish it. This is exactly what he isn't willing to do. Wendy |
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A teenager question
On Sun, 03 Aug 2003 21:22:14 GMT, Wendy Marsden
wrote: Agreed, Jaye, but if you haven't done any of your school work in some months and won't pass the GED you need to set up a program of study to accomplish it. This is exactly what he isn't willing to do. I didn't study for my GED, and I passed in the top 5% of the test takers at the time. I then went to Uni where I maintained a min. of a 3.6 GPA. -- Daye Momma to Jayan EDD 11 Jan 2004 |
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A teenager question
On Sun, 03 Aug 2003 16:56:43 -0500, toto
wrote: Well, that's nice, but it's anecdotal and not all teens can pass without studying. Sure, it is anecdotal. However, everyone that I have ever known to take and pass the GED did not study. -- Daye Momma to Jayan EDD 11 Jan 2004 |
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