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VENT: post-dates
I am whining, and I know it, so feel free to skip. ;-)
My "official" EDD, .sig notwithstanding, was actually 5/18 (this came from an ultrasound I had at 9-1/2 weeks; my original EDD based on LMP was 5/16, so given that I know when I ovulated I was probably due 5/20 rather than 5/22; but I digress). This means that as of next Tuesday I am "officially" 41 weeks, and am considered post-dates. Not in itself a big deal. BUT, a condition of my ongoing care at the birth center is apparently twice- weekly ultrasounds (for movement, breathing, and fluid levels) and fetal non- stress tests. Now, on the one hand, that's not such a big deal, especially since they're willing to let me go 42 weeks 6 days before getting pushy about induction (assuming all looks normal). And at least the tests are non- intrusive, and relatively quick; and as a first-timer I don't really mind some extra reassurance about my little one's condition. So here's the whining: I am SO TIRED of all the medical procedures! I'm not keen on ultrasounds to begin with, and I've actually had six with this baby: 9-1/2 weeks for bleeding, 10-1/2 weeks because they couldn't pick up the heartbeat (they had at 9-1/2), a Level 2 at 18 weeks as part of the AFP4, another level 2 at 20 weeks because they couldn't get a good angle on the heart at 18 weeks, another at 28 weeks because of bleeding again, and one a few weeks ago to verify the baby's position (I was measuring a little short and kind of sideways). Now TWO A WEEK? When I'm not even late, first-baby-wise? (No, I wouldn't get all those ultrasounds if I had to do it over.) I really like the birth center, and frankly I suspect if I were seeing an OB at the hospital they'd be a whole lot less accommodating of me wanting to wait for labor to start naturally. And I *do* appreciate that the effort is going toward making sure my little one is thriving - that's the most important thing, after all. The midwife made it clear that statistically there was pretty much nothing to worry about - this was simply their policy after 41 weeks. Okay, I can live with that. But I'm really, really pregnant at this point, I have a baby's head resting pretty much on my knees, every Tom, Dick, and Harriet at work greets me with "Oh! You're still here!", and I'm GRUMPY about having to go to the hospital twice a week. Whine, whine, whine. I feel better now, thanks. ;-) Liz EDD 5/22/04, or maybe 5/20/04, or actually not "expecting" on any particular day at all at this point. -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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My DS was born 9 days according to the EDD. My OB and his staff tried to
get me to agree to a non-stress test and told me I would end up being induced (this was just one day post EDD!!). So I ended up refusing the non-stress...Remember that you can refuse any treatment, you do have the power to make that kind of decision. If you feel as though everything is OK, it is OK to follow that feeling. Relax and the baby will come:-) Anyway, hope that helped a bit. Kat mama to Maggie 11/03/01 and Will 02/10/04 "Elizabeth H Bonesteel" wrote in message ... I am whining, and I know it, so feel free to skip. ;-) My "official" EDD, .sig notwithstanding, was actually 5/18 (this came from an ultrasound I had at 9-1/2 weeks; my original EDD based on LMP was 5/16, so given that I know when I ovulated I was probably due 5/20 rather than 5/22; but I digress). This means that as of next Tuesday I am "officially" 41 weeks, and am considered post-dates. Not in itself a big deal. BUT, a condition of my ongoing care at the birth center is apparently twice- weekly ultrasounds (for movement, breathing, and fluid levels) and fetal non- stress tests. Now, on the one hand, that's not such a big deal, especially since they're willing to let me go 42 weeks 6 days before getting pushy about induction (assuming all looks normal). And at least the tests are non- intrusive, and relatively quick; and as a first-timer I don't really mind some extra reassurance about my little one's condition. So here's the whining: I am SO TIRED of all the medical procedures! I'm not keen on ultrasounds to begin with, and I've actually had six with this baby: 9-1/2 weeks for bleeding, 10-1/2 weeks because they couldn't pick up the heartbeat (they had at 9-1/2), a Level 2 at 18 weeks as part of the AFP4, another level 2 at 20 weeks because they couldn't get a good angle on the heart at 18 weeks, another at 28 weeks because of bleeding again, and one a few weeks ago to verify the baby's position (I was measuring a little short and kind of sideways). Now TWO A WEEK? When I'm not even late, first-baby-wise? (No, I wouldn't get all those ultrasounds if I had to do it over.) I really like the birth center, and frankly I suspect if I were seeing an OB at the hospital they'd be a whole lot less accommodating of me wanting to wait for labor to start naturally. And I *do* appreciate that the effort is going toward making sure my little one is thriving - that's the most important thing, after all. The midwife made it clear that statistically there was pretty much nothing to worry about - this was simply their policy after 41 weeks. Okay, I can live with that. But I'm really, really pregnant at this point, I have a baby's head resting pretty much on my knees, every Tom, Dick, and Harriet at work greets me with "Oh! You're still here!", and I'm GRUMPY about having to go to the hospital twice a week. Whine, whine, whine. I feel better now, thanks. ;-) Liz EDD 5/22/04, or maybe 5/20/04, or actually not "expecting" on any particular day at all at this point. -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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Elizabeth H Bonesteel wrote:
So here's the whining: I am SO TIRED of all the medical procedures! Whine away :-) I know exactly how you feel. I was so sick of all the medical monitoring after #2 was actually relieved to just have a newborn to take care of, lol. At least I could stay home with no hassles! Hang in there, you are almost at the finish line!! :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (5) and Luke (3) |
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Two u/s a week?? That seems a bit excessive. I've been having one a
fortnight for a little while (I'm now 33 weeks) and that's just an extra precaution because of a previous intra-uterine death. My next one in a fortnight will likely be my last before baby is born at 38 weeks. Is it a hard & fast rule there? They may just assume you find it reasurring, and be prepared to cut the number down if you ask. "Elizabeth H Bonesteel" wrote in message ... I am whining, and I know it, so feel free to skip. ;-) My "official" EDD, .sig notwithstanding, was actually 5/18 (this came from an ultrasound I had at 9-1/2 weeks; my original EDD based on LMP was 5/16, so given that I know when I ovulated I was probably due 5/20 rather than 5/22; but I digress). This means that as of next Tuesday I am "officially" 41 weeks, and am considered post-dates. Not in itself a big deal. BUT, a condition of my ongoing care at the birth center is apparently twice- weekly ultrasounds (for movement, breathing, and fluid levels) and fetal non- stress tests. Now, on the one hand, that's not such a big deal, especially since they're willing to let me go 42 weeks 6 days before getting pushy about induction (assuming all looks normal). And at least the tests are non- intrusive, and relatively quick; and as a first-timer I don't really mind some extra reassurance about my little one's condition. So here's the whining: I am SO TIRED of all the medical procedures! I'm not keen on ultrasounds to begin with, and I've actually had six with this baby: 9-1/2 weeks for bleeding, 10-1/2 weeks because they couldn't pick up the heartbeat (they had at 9-1/2), a Level 2 at 18 weeks as part of the AFP4, another level 2 at 20 weeks because they couldn't get a good angle on the heart at 18 weeks, another at 28 weeks because of bleeding again, and one a few weeks ago to verify the baby's position (I was measuring a little short and kind of sideways). Now TWO A WEEK? When I'm not even late, first-baby-wise? (No, I wouldn't get all those ultrasounds if I had to do it over.) I really like the birth center, and frankly I suspect if I were seeing an OB at the hospital they'd be a whole lot less accommodating of me wanting to wait for labor to start naturally. And I *do* appreciate that the effort is going toward making sure my little one is thriving - that's the most important thing, after all. The midwife made it clear that statistically there was pretty much nothing to worry about - this was simply their policy after 41 weeks. Okay, I can live with that. But I'm really, really pregnant at this point, I have a baby's head resting pretty much on my knees, every Tom, Dick, and Harriet at work greets me with "Oh! You're still here!", and I'm GRUMPY about having to go to the hospital twice a week. Whine, whine, whine. I feel better now, thanks. ;-) Liz EDD 5/22/04, or maybe 5/20/04, or actually not "expecting" on any particular day at all at this point. -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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Elizabeth H Bonesteel wrote:
But I'm really, really pregnant at this point, I have a baby's head resting pretty much on my knees, every Tom, Dick, and Harriet at work greets me with "Oh! You're still here!", and I'm GRUMPY about having to go to the hospital twice a week. Sounds very realaxing...not. Can you not just decline, say thank you for your suggestions, I've considered what you have to say, researched the matter and don't feel this will be of benifit to me so am declining. Andrea Whine, whine, whine. I feel better now, thanks. ;-) Liz EDD 5/22/04, or maybe 5/20/04, or actually not "expecting" on any particular day at all at this point. |
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In article , Kat wrote:
Remember that you can refuse any treatment, you do have the power to make that kind of decision. I do know. And I'm trying not to kid myself here about why I'm willing to go through with the testing, whining notwithstanding. Part of it is that it was presented to me as the policy of the birth center. Certainly I can refuse - and they can then refuse to treat me there. My alternatives at this point would be to go back to OB care (no, thank you; and I can't imagine they'd be more willing to treat me without the tests), or finding a homebirth midwife. And since "home" right now is a hotel room, and will be long after Little One gets here, that's not especially appealing either. ;-/ The other part - and probably the part that's influencing me most - is that they've now planted specters in my head. I've got images of my baby wasting away, of the amniotic fluid draining to nothing while I don't notice, and a whole host of other, nebulous things I don't know enough to think of. If I *don't* go through with these tests now, I'm going to be paranoid as hell every time she naps, or changes position so she kicks toward the back (I can never feel her movement as strongly when she does that!), or has the hiccups, or DOESN'T have the hiccups. And I *know* that's hopelessly neurotic and unhelpful; but my nature isn't going to change in the next two weeks, no matter how I wish it might. My biggest fear, of course, is that they're going to see something that's really perfectly normal, brand it a "concern," and try to push me into pitocin when she's really just not ready to come out. DH has been helpful with this; he points out that there are a few conditions that are legitimate emergencies, but that asking questions and waiting long enough to do our own research is a viable, low-risk choice when it comes to absolutely everything else. And even the midwife said that most of the time these "routine" tests show absolutely nothing wrong. So I guess between DH and the midwife, I've got a decent support system. Liz EDD TODAY, I think, but still showing no signs of labor! -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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In article ,
Nikki wrote: Hang in there, you are almost at the finish line!! :-) Thanks, Nikki. :-) A woman I work with pointed out that there are no cases of 80-year-old women still carrying the babies they were pregnant with at 35. ;-) Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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In article , Amy wrote:
Is it a hard & fast rule there? They may just assume you find it reasurring, and be prepared to cut the number down if you ask. I will probably ask when I see them again on Thursday. Of course, by then I will either have had two of the damn things already, or it'll be a moot point! Liz EDD 5/22/04 -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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In article ,
Unadulterated Me wrote: Sounds very realaxing...not. Can you not just decline, say thank you for your suggestions, I've considered what you have to say, researched the matter and don't feel this will be of benifit to me so am declining. Andrea, you sound so sensible. ;-) And I know you're right - my BP always measures higher at the hospital, for some weird reason! Liz EDD 5/22/04, and I wouldn't mind if she stuck with it, thank you! -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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Sorry if I was too strong about my opinion. Sounds like there are very good
reasons for doing it all and that it is the right decision for you. I had an experience where I felt like I was being "bad" for not wanting to do what the drs nurses wanted me to do, so it mainly my issues coming through:-) I wish you good luck! Kat mama to Maggie 11/03/01 and Will 02/10/04 "Elizabeth H Bonesteel" wrote in message ... In article , Kat wrote: Remember that you can refuse any treatment, you do have the power to make that kind of decision. I do know. And I'm trying not to kid myself here about why I'm willing to go through with the testing, whining notwithstanding. Part of it is that it was presented to me as the policy of the birth center. Certainly I can refuse - and they can then refuse to treat me there. My alternatives at this point would be to go back to OB care (no, thank you; and I can't imagine they'd be more willing to treat me without the tests), or finding a homebirth midwife. And since "home" right now is a hotel room, and will be long after Little One gets here, that's not especially appealing either. ;-/ The other part - and probably the part that's influencing me most - is that they've now planted specters in my head. I've got images of my baby wasting away, of the amniotic fluid draining to nothing while I don't notice, and a whole host of other, nebulous things I don't know enough to think of. If I *don't* go through with these tests now, I'm going to be paranoid as hell every time she naps, or changes position so she kicks toward the back (I can never feel her movement as strongly when she does that!), or has the hiccups, or DOESN'T have the hiccups. And I *know* that's hopelessly neurotic and unhelpful; but my nature isn't going to change in the next two weeks, no matter how I wish it might. My biggest fear, of course, is that they're going to see something that's really perfectly normal, brand it a "concern," and try to push me into pitocin when she's really just not ready to come out. DH has been helpful with this; he points out that there are a few conditions that are legitimate emergencies, but that asking questions and waiting long enough to do our own research is a viable, low-risk choice when it comes to absolutely everything else. And even the midwife said that most of the time these "routine" tests show absolutely nothing wrong. So I guess between DH and the midwife, I've got a decent support system. Liz EDD TODAY, I think, but still showing no signs of labor! -- "No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings. Man's reason and spirit have often solved the seemingly unsolvable - and we believe they can do it again." -- John F. Kennedy, 6/10/1963 |
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