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Kids should work !!!
On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 00:49:30 -0800, Doan wrote:
It would be more effective to teach the parents to use positive methods when the child is much younger. And it is much more effective too, if a child has parents who care about him and don't abuse him. Children learn what they live. If you treat a child with punishment and harsh discipline as a toddler, expect to have this returned 7 fold when he is a teenager. If this is true as you claimed why is the crime rate so in the 50's? Why is it so low in Singapore? Harsh punishment can produce a population that is too scared to act in opposition to authority no matter how illegitimate that authority is. That isn't a society, I want to live in despite a low crime rate. The crime rate was low in Iraq too if you don't count the attrocities of those in power. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 01:18:51 -0800, Doan wrote:
Yep. This is exactly so because all punishments are essentially the same, but positive methods allow for the differences that parents see. Then it should be easy to prove. Again, just put the alternatives to same statiscal scrutiny as with spanking. Time outs used as punishment are not positive discipline. Nor is lecturing or scolding or any of the *other* methods that were studied. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003, toto wrote:
On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 00:49:30 -0800, Doan wrote: It would be more effective to teach the parents to use positive methods when the child is much younger. And it is much more effective too, if a child has parents who care about him and don't abuse him. Children learn what they live. If you treat a child with punishment and harsh discipline as a toddler, expect to have this returned 7 fold when he is a teenager. If this is true as you claimed why is the crime rate so in the 50's? Why is it so low in Singapore? Harsh punishment can produce a population that is too scared to act in opposition to authority no matter how illegitimate that authority is. That isn't a society, I want to live in despite a low crime rate. The crime rate was low in Iraq too if you don't count the attrocities of those in power. You are not comparing the USA in the 50's and Singapore with Iraq, are you? :-) Let's me remind you that it took external powers to remove Sadam. Doan |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003, toto wrote:
On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 01:18:51 -0800, Doan wrote: Yep. This is exactly so because all punishments are essentially the same, but positive methods allow for the differences that parents see. Then it should be easy to prove. Again, just put the alternatives to same statiscal scrutiny as with spanking. Time outs used as punishment are not positive discipline. Nor is lecturing or scolding or any of the *other* methods that were studied. In other words, your THEORY is unproven! Doan |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 07:03:50 -0600, toto
wrote: On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 01:18:51 -0800, Doan wrote: Yep. This is exactly so because all punishments are essentially the same, but positive methods allow for the differences that parents see. Then it should be easy to prove. Again, just put the alternatives to same statiscal scrutiny as with spanking. Time outs used as punishment are not positive discipline. Nor is lecturing or scolding or any of the *other* methods that were studied. Doan's only argument, of course, will be asking you to provide citations and data from peer reviewed studies that support: lecturing; scolding; *other* methods not working. He has used the infamous logical fallacy for years here (to the point he has bored his opponents to the point of ignoring him) of "slanting," that is picking only the evidence that supports his argument (the declaration by Straus) and ignoring all mass of other evidence that buries him. I've never seen him, for instance, respond to the Embry Street Entry study with anything but the usual blind hysteria neurotic responses of all his pro spanking buddies, his phony declarations to neutrality notwithstanding. And all "positive discipline" really is is just teaching to the needs of the child, and her actual capacities at developmental level. Doan seems to think that because those that spank also use SOME rational means of teaching their children then spanking somehow is a positive factor in learning. Talk about Cargo Cult Mentallity. The only reason children turn out as well as they do (and I notice more than a few don't) is that humans are so resiliant and can survive a lot of trauma. I don't consider that parenting, of course; for the child to just survive. Kane |
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Doan wrote in message ...
On Sun, 16 Nov 2003, toto wrote: On Sun, 16 Nov 2003 10:40:19 -0800, Doan wrote: This is a noble goal. However, the question that have to be asked is : how effective is it? Remember that we are dealing with imperfect human beings! It's more effective than spanking. With some kids, yes; with all kids, I doubt it! And it is more effective than behaviorism. And your proof is? You do have to make the effort to be consistent and to actually listen to your child, but it works and its worth it. Sure kids will still *misbehave* some. After all they are learning and they are not going to be perfect either, but for the most part children who are listened to and disciplined positively act up much less than children who have been punished. For most part - not all. Every child is different. The be effective, you have to know the child. There is no one size fit all. Note: I have a little boy in my class currently who looks angry and hits. I talked to his dad at the Italian dinner and this child is basically very much given rules and expected to stick to them and spanked when he doesn't. He is the child who hits others and then turns around and tattles on them when they are not following the rules. And you generalize from this one kid to the whole nation? This has been something I have consistently observed with the children in my class who are punished (especially those whose parents say they spank as discipline). Very "scientific", Dorothy! ;-) R R R R Like your contributions are "scientific" R R R R Doan With his head up his ass even further Doan demonstrates the pure logic of his arguments...that the weather forecast up his claoca is sunshine all day long and you should all take a sunbath...R R R R Kane |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 10:20:09 -0800, Doan wrote:
On Sat, 22 Nov 2003, toto wrote: On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 00:49:30 -0800, Doan wrote: It would be more effective to teach the parents to use positive methods when the child is much younger. And it is much more effective too, if a child has parents who care about him and don't abuse him. Children learn what they live. If you treat a child with punishment and harsh discipline as a toddler, expect to have this returned 7 fold when he is a teenager. If this is true as you claimed why is the crime rate so in the 50's? Why is it so low in Singapore? Harsh punishment can produce a population that is too scared to act in opposition to authority no matter how illegitimate that authority is. That isn't a society, I want to live in despite a low crime rate. The crime rate was low in Iraq too if you don't count the attrocities of those in power. You are not comparing the USA in the 50's and Singapore with Iraq, Why would she do that? The 50's USA was not crime free, and it did not oppress it's citizens. The comparison, for those with their brains not addled by being spanked too high up the back..such as you..would know and understand she is talking about freedom from oppression. This is the the kind of garbage you'll always posted and always will, stupid, inane, and pointless crap. are you? :-) Let's me remind you that it took external powers to remove Sadam. Which is relevant to what she said how? Doan Kane |
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On Sat, 22 Nov 2003 10:23:00 -0800, Doan wrote:
Time outs used as punishment are not positive discipline. Nor is lecturing or scolding or any of the *other* methods that were studied. In other words, your THEORY is unproven! All social science conclusions are unproven, but the evidence is clear if you look around you. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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