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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Thu, 19 Aug 2004 02:38:38 GMT, lm wrote: On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 21:23:33 GMT, 'Kate wrote: On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 16:50:12 -0400, (Carrie) wrote: There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. Oh I sure wish you hadn't posted that. I disagree with so much of it that I can't even begin to respond. Kate just stick with the second-to-last sentence. One great parent versus two lousy ones. She's doing her best. Carrie, skim through the archives a bit for some interesting reading. lm She's doing her best... but she's digging deeper holes with each choice. IT's as if.. by magic... she's wound up pregnant *twice*. I'm not proud to be a single parent. I'm proud that my children are good kids. I'm just doing my job.. the job that I elected to do when I made the decision to have children. 'Kate Kate that's not fair. She said she was on birthcontrol when she got pregnant the second time. Need I remind you that such things can happen even when we're fully protecting ourselves. Christine |
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"denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "Carrie" wrote in message My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. You made that up. A six year old could not possibly have the understanding and rationale to come to that kind of a conclusion. I suspect that you are priming your child to suit your own personal circumstances. Dennis Plus how does one so young know of dysfunctional parenting unless living in it? T |
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"P. Fritz" wrote in message ... "lm" wrote in message ... On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 21:23:33 GMT, 'Kate wrote: On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 16:50:12 -0400, (Carrie) wrote: There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. Oh I sure wish you hadn't posted that. I disagree with so much of it that I can't even begin to respond. Kate just stick with the second-to-last sentence. One great parent versus two lousy ones. She's doing her best. Maybe.......but there is plenty of evidence that two 'lousy' parents are still better for a child than one 'good' one. What evidence? |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Thu, 19 Aug 2004 21:26:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message .. . On Thu, 19 Aug 2004 02:38:38 GMT, lm wrote: On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 21:23:33 GMT, 'Kate wrote: On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 16:50:12 -0400, (Carrie) wrote: There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. Oh I sure wish you hadn't posted that. I disagree with so much of it that I can't even begin to respond. Kate just stick with the second-to-last sentence. One great parent versus two lousy ones. She's doing her best. Carrie, skim through the archives a bit for some interesting reading. lm She's doing her best... but she's digging deeper holes with each choice. IT's as if.. by magic... she's wound up pregnant *twice*. I'm not proud to be a single parent. I'm proud that my children are good kids. I'm just doing my job.. the job that I elected to do when I made the decision to have children. 'Kate Kate that's not fair. She said she was on birthcontrol when she got pregnant the second time. Need I remind you that such things can happen even when we're fully protecting ourselves. Christine She didn't get pregnant because her birth control failed. She got pregnant because she had sexual intercourse. Birth control does not cause pregnancies. The failure of the birth control wouldn't have mattered had she not chosen to have sex at that time. 'Kate Oh give me a break. She took the necessary precaution and you're going after her for getting pregnant a second time, that's very judgemental. Christine |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... She didn't get pregnant because her birth control failed. She got pregnant because she had sexual intercourse. Birth control does not cause pregnancies. The failure of the birth control wouldn't have mattered had she not chosen to have sex at that time. 'Kate Oh give me a break. She took the necessary precaution and you're going after her for getting pregnant a second time, that's very judgemental. Christine LOL... ok. Pregnancies are not caused by sexual intercourse... it's all the fault of the birth control. 'Kate Quit arguing semantics. Of course having sexual intercourse causes pregnancy, you have a knack for the obvious today. I'm talking about the fact she took a precaution against that... and she became pregnant anyways. Let's all stop having sex because it could lead to pregnancy... yeah that'll happen. Give me a break Kate, that's ridiculous. The fact that you are judging her though, is uncalled for and frankly I'm appalled. Christine |
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"Carrie" wrote in message I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. So from where did she get the exposure to two lousey parents so that she could draw a conclusion? If it wasn't from you, it must be from someone in your family as you have stated that they help with her upbringing. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. True, but you are only saying that as a kind of global cop out. You made up your original statement. If you didn't then you must be the lousey parent your daughter used to make the judgment. Dennis |
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"denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "Carrie" wrote in message I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. So from where did she get the exposure to two lousey parents so that she could draw a conclusion? If it wasn't from you, it must be from someone in your family as you have stated that they help with her upbringing. Gosh - you guys are all so nice. Good for you supporting Carrie like that. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. True, but you are only saying that as a kind of global cop out. You made up your original statement. If you didn't then you must be the lousey parent your daughter used to make the judgment. Tell me - do you kill your prey before you eat it? |
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Let's all stop having sex because it could lead to pregnancy... yeah that'll
happen. It's a responsible choice especially if you are already raising one child without a father. The fact that you are judging her though, is uncalled for and frankly I'm appalled. Well I'm rather appalled that people would rather view her as a "victim" because her birth control failed. The real victims are the children. When you choose to have sexual intercourse and you or your partner is still fertile, you choose to risk bringing another child in the world and what is so judgmental about suggesting that you should be prepared to provide what a child needs when you make that choice? Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... Let's all stop having sex because it could lead to pregnancy... yeah that'll happen. It's a responsible choice especially if you are already raising one child without a father. The fact that you are judging her though, is uncalled for and frankly I'm appalled. Well I'm rather appalled that people would rather view her as a "victim" because her birth control failed. The real victims are the children. When you choose to have sexual intercourse and you or your partner is still fertile, you choose to risk bringing another child in the world and what is so judgmental about suggesting that you should be prepared to provide what a child needs when you make that choice? Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle I'm not viewing her as a victim, I'm saying she took precautions, they failed and her keeping it, is her choice... meaning no one has a right to judge her for it. But belabouring the point does nothing. Christine |
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