Hello

Pretty much Tiff....The more people that come to my site, the more people
write me. The more people that write me, the broader the topics I can
address. The broader the topics, the more people I can help. The more
people I help, the bigger my head gets. It's a long and dangerous road I'm
traveling, but fortunately I've got really wide doorways.

Buster

oh wait...almost forgot....

www.dearbuster.com
www.dearbuster.blogspot.com


Wouldn't want to prove you wrong


"Tiffany" wrote in message
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"Buster Van Buren" wrote in message
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Don't worry Kate.....I'm never leaving. I'll continue to lurk and give
advice to those who need it. Despite your contrary protestations, I
know
that you love Buster more than you'll ever admit. Now, if I only could
stop
Christine and Tiffany from sending me naked pics of themselves with
l(snipped)scrawled on their chests......



Your favorite advice columnist,

Buster







You will do anything to get that link into a post, won't you?

T

Sorry....I'm more of a "top" than a "bottom"....scrolling down just makes me
dizzy....

B

"CME" wrote in message
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"Buster Van Buren" wrote in message
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Christine:

That sucks. I came here and I didn't get a welcome! You guys
practically
reamed me a new one when I came on board. Maybe if I had been a woman?
Maybe if only my website had been yellow text on a black
background...then
you would have loved me and complimented my flash animation?

Sometimes it just sucks being the smarmiest one in the room.

Hugs and Kisses...

Buster
www.dearbuster.com
www.dearbuster.blogspot.com



Perhaps had you introduced yourself and offered a bit of information about
yourself you might have been welcomed the way you would have liked. Even
lurking, and of course taking the time to read the FAQ would have helped
as
well. But from what I can tell, you didn't even mention you were a single
parent so I question why you're even here.

Christine

PS: In that FAQ thingy, it says it's polite to BOTTOM post. Thanks.


"CME" wrote in message
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"Istara" wrote in message
.. .
I'm not entirely a newbie - I've been lurking since mid-June, or so.
Probably would still be just lurking, but I finally had to break
cover
on the "Dating and Marriage Advice" thread, so I figured I'd better
say
hello.

I am, unfortunately, still in the process of becoming a single mom,
after having been with the same man for nearly 15 years (13 of them,
so
far, married). Our son is 9, smart kid, taking it all much better
than
his father expected him to, about the way *I* expected. He does
better
than I do about it, at times. His grades at school, in academics and
conduct, have all improved since his dad moved out, he sleeps
better,
and is generally as happy or happier a child than he was, so... Dad
wasn't abusive or anything, he just wasn't 'there' much of the time
even
when home, the last couple of years.

The "process" has been ongoing for the past 10 months, or 15 months,
depending on how you look at it (he said he wanted out of the
marriage,
wanted ME to move out, then took 5 months to make up his mind to
move
out himself, when I refused), and no end in sight. I was of the
opinion
that if he wanted a divorce, it was HIS place to deal with the legal
headaches. I'm not TOO naive - I DO have a lawyer, and am not
letting
him push me around on things, but it was his choice, so his
responsibility. At any rate...

Hello, nice to meet you all, and I think I'm going to crawl back
into
the woodwork now and lurk some more.

~ Dor

No we won't let you. Welcome to the group from Alberta, Canada sit
back
and
enjoy it's truly a great place.

Christine
(Mom of 8 year old twin boys)

I know this will "shock" many of the members here, but the reason I came
here wasn't because I had single parent problems,

Doesn't shock me.

but because I know many
single parents and divorced non-parents who have no clue as to how to get
back into the dating scene or what to expect in the "marketplace" after x
number of years being marrie

And you thought this was a singles looking for a date place? And you think
being married makes you an expert on romance after being married and divorced
or widowed? In other words, you have nothing of value to offer anyone here.
Glad to hear you admit it

, I wouldn't have a relationship ever again. It's would
be too much trouble and too much heartache to open myself up to someone
again,

oh, that's what qualifies you to give advice. You have self-confidence issues
and have no idea why your current wife puts up with you and are know that
nobody else would. Well that's hopeful to see such self-wareness


Besides which, I could never
trust that a girl wanted me instead of my fame and fortune.

Yea. Right.

Well it's nice to have an entertaining troll anyway

Joelle


The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St
Augustine
Joelle

On Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:31:43 GMT, "Buster Van Buren"
wrote:

Sorry Kate. Incredibly happily married to a wonderful girl. No one stands
a chance to steal me away from her.
I know this will "shock" many of the members here, but the reason I came
here wasn't because I had single parent problems, but because I know many
single parents and divorced non-parents who have no clue as to how to get
back into the dating scene or what to expect in the "marketplace" after x
number of years being married. Either that, or they are in destructive
relationships that they don't know how to get out of. Personally, if my
marriage ever ended, I wouldn't have a relationship ever again. It's would
be too much trouble and too much heartache to open myself up to someone
again, and at my age, it wouldn't be worth it. Besides which, I could never
trust that a girl wanted me instead of my fame and fortune. I actually got
a letter from someone from Guam last week. Once you've got fans in Guam,
then it's hard for a girl to really compete.

Buster thanks so much for your concern but this is a single parenting
group not a single dating group -- we all post here about parenting
issues. Here's your hat.

lm

On Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:34:28 GMT, "Buster Van Buren"
wrote:

I've got really wide doorways.

I'll bet.

lm

"Buster Van Buren" wrote in message
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Sorry....I'm more of a "top" than a "bottom"....scrolling down just makes
me
dizzy....

The concept of snipping unnecessary text in a reply is an unknown one to
you, it would appear.


--
Paul Griffiths

Cele wrote:

On Fri, 03 Sep 2004 14:46:33 -0400, Istara
wrote:

[snip intro]


Hello, nice to meet you all, and I think I'm going to crawl back into
the woodwork now and lurk some more.


Nice to meet you, Dor. I'm Cele, 45, daughters 19 & nearly 17. I was
with my ex 17 years, 1 of them married, and have been on my own lo
these past 12.

And am now enjoying the beginnings of a relationship of significance
for the first time in all those years, totally unexpected, and a
complete delight! Every once in the while good things *do* happen, it
seems.....

[grin]

Cele

Congratulations! I hope it works out enough the way you want it to keep
it wonderful, and enough differently to keep it interesting.

I'm kind of enjoying being on my own, now, at least mostly. It's kind of
strange - I went from being a student to being a wife, with little time
between. Prior to the separation, I don't think I'd ever really been on
my own, before. If it were just me, now, I don't know that I could do
it. Having my son to look out for, though, I *WILL* make it, one way or
another, because he deserves a strong mom that can do what she has to
instead of just giving up. I'm learning.

Congrats, again, and thank you for the welcome.

Dor

CME wrote:

"Istara" wrote in message
.. .

SNIP

Hello, nice to meet you all, and I think I'm going to crawl back into
the woodwork now and lurk some more.

~ Dor


No we won't let you. Welcome to the group from Alberta, Canada sit back and
enjoy it's truly a great place.

Christine
(Mom of 8 year old twin boys)

{grin} Okay, so maybe I won't crawl back into the woodwork. Is it okay
if I sit quietly in the corner for a while? Work on my crocheting and
listen/read a bit?

Thank you for the welcome - it's nice to have people to talk to that can
actually understand what my life is like, sometimes. And that aren't
going to sit there and contribute to my self-pity. Empathy without pity
- best thing I've seen, so far. Wish my mother could figure out the balance.

Dor

Paul Griffiths wrote:

"Istara" wrote in message
.. .

snip

Hello, nice to meet you all, and I think I'm going to crawl back into
the woodwork now and lurk some more.


Welcome.

It's rather nice to talk to lurkers. Glad your son is deal with things so
well. Fingers crossed it continues that way.


Thank you. I think he'll be okay - his dad and I have worked hard to
make sure our problems don't impact his life any more than they
absolutely have to, and to make it all as positive an experience as we
can. He's happy and has said that he likes things this way - he misses
having Dad in the house every night, but he gets more attention from me
now that Dad's not living here to distract me, and Dad pays a LOT more
attention to him - actually does things with him - instead of just
ignoring him like he used to do us both.

He'll be okay... Better than me, probably. I hope. It gets better - I
keep telling myself that. One day at a time. Anyway...

Thank you for the welcome.

Dor

denanson wrote:

"Istara" wrote in message

Hello, nice to meet you all,


Hello and greetings from Ireland.

Dennis, three boys


Thank you, and greetings back.

Dor
(one son, age 9)