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After school activities - am I over doing it?
My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk),
classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). We are able to manage all these each week along with a play date or two, and trips to library. I work outside the home but between me and her dad, we are managing fairly decently all these activities. She's asking me for tennis lessons now. With the exception of kumon math, she's doing everything else out of her own interest. Are we doing too much too soon? As a parent, what should I do - encourage or limit her activities? Since she's not complaining, tiring out, or bored with any of these, should we just continue on? Other moms and dads out there with small kids in big schedules? How do you keep up? Thanks for taking time to share your opinions! AM |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
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"AM" wrote: My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). We are able to manage all these each week along with a play date or two, and trips to library. I work outside the home but between me and her dad, we are managing fairly decently all these activities. Um -- how?? -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
AM wrote:
With the exception of kumon math, she's doing everything else out of her own interest. Are we doing too much too soon? As a parent, what should I do - encourage or limit her activities? Since she's not complaining, tiring out, or bored with any of these, should we just continue on? Other moms and dads out there with small kids in big schedules? How do you keep up? Does she have any *unscheduled* time for free play or relaxing? I'd be concerned that she's eventually going to burn out from all of this. Laura |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
"AM" wrote in message oups.com... My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). Are you homeschooling? I can't imagine a first grader being in school 30 hours a week, then having approx 14 hours a week of other activities and not totally falling apart. Heck, I'D fall apart on that schedule! Not to mention that almost every activity on the list is something which requires practice to progress. One violin lesson a week won't teach a child to play violin. It takes daily practice to do that. Based on her activities, she probably should be practicing at home about 3 hours a day (usually a child should be practicing at least 15-30 minutes a day for a dance class, music class, or most sports if not longer, I know Kumon has daily home activities, she should be reading or being read to daily, plus school homework), and I'm guessing she doesn't have the time and energy to do so. I'd seriously suggest picking a few favorite activities and focusing on them. She'll progress faster and enjoy the classes more if she has time to practice, and I suspect that she could really use some downtime and time with friends in less structured settings. It will also help reduce your stress. Yes, it's good for children to have things to do and lots of exposure, but it's also good to have time to do nothing. |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
On Mar 29, 2:06 am, "AM" wrote:
My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). We are able to manage all these each week along with a play date or two, and trips to library. I work outside the home but between me and her dad, we are managing fairly decently all these activities. She's asking me for tennis lessons now. With the exception of kumon math, she's doing everything else out of her own interest. Are we doing too much too soon? As a parent, what should I do - encourage or limit her activities? Since she's not complaining, tiring out, or bored with any of these, should we just continue on? Other moms and dads out there with small kids in big schedules? How do you keep up? Thanks for taking time to share your opinions! AM I have small kids with small schedules, so I'm not able to answer anything about how to manage a schedule of 1 activity/day (our bugagoo has been practice times outside of class, my own desire to limit time spent in a car to 1 hour/day, and ensuring some amount of equity between sibling activities). Is your second child equally involved in activities? Caledonia |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
AM wrote:
My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). We are able to manage all these each week along with a play date or two, and trips to library. I work outside the home but between me and her dad, we are managing fairly decently all these activities. She's asking me for tennis lessons now. With the exception of kumon math, she's doing everything else out of her own interest. Are we doing too much too soon? As a parent, what should I do - encourage or limit her activities? Since she's not complaining, tiring out, or bored with any of these, should we just continue on? Other moms and dads out there with small kids in big schedules? How do you keep up? I think it depends. How much time per week does she have that is unscheduled, where she engages in free play, socializing with the family, etc. She needs a substantial chunk of time devoted to that sort of thing. If she doesn't have it, then she's overscheduled now. And when is she going to bed on school nights? If she's got plenty of free play time (though I'm having a hard time seeing how), then she might be fine right at this moment, but you may find challenges down the road. Most of those activities ramp up in intensity as she gets older, plus homework is likely to get significantly more intense. If and when that happens, she can drop activities. That can be difficult for some, however, so you should be prepared for how you're going to handle it. You may be creating expectations in her that will become difficult to fulfill in the future. Best wishes, Ericka |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). That's 10 activities! I really think that is too much. I've come across some places recommending 1 activity, which I suspect is restrictive for most kids, but I'd guess 3ish would be reasonable. She's probably not getting the best out of her activities at the current rate, is she practicing outside of class? For some of those activities the practice is essential, particularly violin, in my mind, the class is wasted if the practice isn't being done. I would seriously cut down, what does she show most interest in, I like the mix you have, but I'd do dance, or soccer, not both and I might hold off on multiple music things and stick with one (probably violin, it's harder to pick up later). Cheers Anne |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
Ericka Kammerer wrote:
AM wrote: My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). We are able to manage all these each week along with a play date or two, and trips to library. I work outside the home but between me and her dad, we are managing fairly decently all these activities. She's asking me for tennis lessons now. With the exception of kumon math, she's doing everything else out of her own interest. Are we doing too much too soon? As a parent, what should I do - encourage or limit her activities? Since she's not complaining, tiring out, or bored with any of these, should we just continue on? Other moms and dads out there with small kids in big schedules? How do you keep up? This sounds a little bit like a troll to me because I don't really see how a first grader could do all these things. My children had activities out the wazoo, and even WE did not do so many things and not in the first grade. We had (in 2nd to 5th grade), ballet after school (one or two years), gymnastics after school (two years, and both were at school and once a week), 4H (after school where they went on the bus from school), swim team three days a week, piano lessons (which they did start early), Girl Scouts (on Sat), and ice skating (weekends and one week night after piano and swim team). And except for coaching the swim team, I was basically a SAHM. My kindergarten child did the swimming with her sisters (because my husband was military and was away), but she was too young for Brownies or 4-H. She started piano fairly early, and did sometimes ride (horses) in the summer with them, and she did 4H and horses later on, but by that time gymnastics and ballet were not available to her. I think it depends. How much time per week does she have that is unscheduled, where she engages in free play, socializing with the family, etc. She needs a substantial chunk of time devoted to that sort of thing. If she doesn't have it, then she's overscheduled now. And when is she going to bed on school nights? If she's got plenty of free play time (though I'm having a hard time seeing how), then she might be fine right at this moment, but you may find challenges down the road. Most of those activities ramp up in intensity as she gets older, plus homework is likely to get significantly more intense. If and when that happens, she can drop activities. That can be difficult for some, however, so you should be prepared for how you're going to handle it. You may be creating expectations in her that will become difficult to fulfill in the future. I'd let her do one of each type of activity. That is - one kind of dancing (either tap or ballet), one kind of music, and one sport (sports seem to take the most amount of time although I'm not sure if the swimming is lessons [which I would continue] or a swim team thing), and Brownies. And then one other thing she could try to see if she likes it. Because as Donna points out - music requires a practicing commitment. My grandson who was doing trumpet, violin and guitar has dropped trumpet because he really likes the guitar and didn't have enough time to practice all three instruments. My dd#2's kids are into a lot of things and they do the kumon too (but just the math). They've done about all the sports there are, and have had a lot of private lessons for sports. But I don't think they were that active in first grade. There are some things that are good to start early. Instrumental music is one, because it takes so long to get competant. And some types of sports or physical activities, because if you do not start them early, then you will be behind all your contemporaries and will not have the skills to compete. Some types of physical activity like gymnastics, figure skating or dancing are in that category. But some other activities will not suffer if left until later, and I put art into that category. |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
Hi All:
I really appreciate your input. Right now, with the exception of kumon (15-20 mins. a day) and occassionally violin, I don't make her practice anything else. She gets it easily without trying too hard. Anyway, she has time after school -- she does not get any homework. She is made to sit in second-grade for language arts, spanish, reading, and math, so I don't try to teach her much else at home. I don't know what to do with her -- if she's not doing activities outside of home, she gets too creative playing by herself -- one time she set up a middle-age style laundry with a bucket, bat to pound clothes, some salt+candle bits+oil mix (??) for soap of sorts, then one time she was playing spa with peanut butter mask, and one time made a sculpture with paper mache (made out of newspaper, glue, glitter, flour, sugar and God knows what else), and what I am to do? Instead of saying no to everything, I am trying to keep her busy... well if she is not making these the out-of-the-world creative wonders then she starts throwing amazing tantrums. What am I to do? May be I am the one who's feeling the burn-out keeping up with her. You know, even an uneventful trip to the park sparks something in her -- she wanted to build a monkey bar contraption on laundry drying racks jsut like the one in park -- it is hard, maybe I am avoiding the real issue here by keeping her super busy. I don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. LOL, AM |
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After school activities - am I over doing it?
Rosalie B. wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote: AM wrote: My first grader is doing ballet (45 mins/wk), tap (45 mins/wk), classical vocal music (1 hr/wk), girls scout brownies (45 mins/wk), swimming (2 hrs/wk), violin (45 mins/wk), soccer (1 hr/wk), kumon math and reading (4 hrs/wk), painting (30 mins/wk) and bible school (2 hrs/ wk). PS - I wonder about whether a child of this age should be doing classical vocal music at all. How age appropriate is that?. We had (in 2nd to 5th grade), ballet after school (one or two years), gymnastics after school (two years, and both were at school and once a week), 4H (after school where they went on the bus from school), swim team three days a week, piano lessons (which they did start early), Girl Scouts (on Sat), and ice skating (weekends and one week night after piano and swim team). And except for coaching the swim team, I was basically a SAHM. My kindergarten child did the swimming with her sisters (because my husband was military and was away), but she was too young for Brownies or 4-H. She started piano fairly early, and did sometimes ride (horses) in the summer with them, and she did 4H and horses later on, but by that time gymnastics and ballet were not available to her. I don't think I would even count Bible school if the parents are going to church along with her I think it depends. How much time per week does she have that is unscheduled, where she engages in free play, socializing with the family, etc. She needs a substantial chunk of time devoted to that sort of thing. If she doesn't have it, then she's overscheduled now. And when is she going to bed on school nights? If she's got plenty of free play time (though I'm having a hard time seeing how), then she might be fine right at this moment, but you may find challenges down the road. Most of those activities ramp up in intensity as she gets older, plus homework is likely to get significantly more intense. If and when that happens, she can drop activities. That can be difficult for some, however, so you should be prepared for how you're going to handle it. You may be creating expectations in her that will become difficult to fulfill in the future. I'd let her do one of each type of activity. That is - one kind of dancing (either tap or ballet), one kind of music, and one sport (sports seem to take the most amount of time although I'm not sure if the swimming is lessons [which I would continue] or a swim team thing), and Brownies. And then one other thing she could try to see if she likes it. Because as Donna points out - music requires a practicing commitment. My grandson who was doing trumpet, violin and guitar has dropped trumpet because he really likes the guitar and didn't have enough time to practice all three instruments. My dd#2's kids are into a lot of things and they do the kumon too (but just the math). They've done about all the sports there are, and have had a lot of private lessons for sports. But I don't think they were that active in first grade. There are some things that are good to start early. Instrumental music is one, because it takes so long to get competant. And some types of sports or physical activities, because if you do not start them early, then you will be behind all your contemporaries and will not have the skills to compete. Some types of physical activity like gymnastics, figure skating or dancing are in that category. But some other activities will not suffer if left until later, and I put art into that category. |
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