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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Have you decided to make this arrangement permanent? Or is this just a stop-gap measure until you can find another job? I think the main thing to surviving being a SAHM, particularly if you're not temperamentally suited to it, is to get out as much as possible. Don't just hang around the house. It's a challenge to get out and meet other folks who are home most of the day, and it will likely take a while. You may also find that you don't resonate with the folks you meet right away. Some will get better with time, and in other cases you'll move on to find others who are more like-minded. Keep an open mind--you may find at first that all SAHPs seem alike, and not what you're used to in the way of companions. If you get to know them a bit better, you'll likely find that they have more to offer than you initially thought (though of course, some just won't pan out). In addition to finding friends to do things with (ideally with kids about the same age as yours), get out and do things on your own too. Find classes for the kids, go to a gym that has childcare, go to the park, etc. It will keep the kids occupied (they're probably not used to sitting around the house either) and give you an opportunity to meet others too. Try to get out of the house every single day. Best wishes, Ericka Quite honestly, I don't feel like getting out of the house. It seems to be a massive effort to even get out of bed in the mornings. When I lost my job, pretty much all of the extras got cut out, like the gym membership. So basically if I'm going to get them out, then it needs to be something we can do for free. The kids aren't used to sitting around the house either, they are ususally with other kids or at the very least running errands with the babysitter. I don't think that this is going to be a permanent arrangement, we're just out of money for anything but the bills...so the daycare had to go. Thanks, Maria Kelly 2/19/00 Kyle 7/9/01 |
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Kind of on the same note-rather than having to miss regularly for prenatals
and have my students have to adjust to a new teacher halfway through the year, we decided that I should start staying home this fall while pregnant, instead of waiting until the baby comes. That sounded great in May, when I turned in my letter of intent. But now school starts next week, and I'm already bored. I don't really have any friends who don't work, at least during the school year, and while there are playgroups and activities for mommys with babies, there aren't exactly playgroups for fetuses! So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? |
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On Mon, 26 Jul 2004 12:56:45 EDT, "Maria Danielle Darst"
wrote: When I lost my job, pretty much all of the extras got cut out, like the gym membership. So basically if I'm going to get them out, then it needs to be something we can do for free. The kids aren't used to sitting around the house either, they are ususally with other kids or at the very least running errands with the babysitter. You need to find things you can do for free or at least very inexpensively. Note here, much will depend on where you live and what you and they enjoy, but there are plenty of things you can do. Make a list of the activities you all enjoy. Do you like to bike, to hike, to swim, to collect things, to do crafts, to make music, etc. Then think outside the box and be creative. How can you do these things without spending much money. If you enjoy hiking, take a homemade picnic lunch and get out and walk. If you like biking, get everyone on their bikes perhaps taking a picnic lunch with you as well. If you enjoy music, think of ways to make music rather than listen to it: sing, play harmonicas or make your own instruments. Go to the library and get books that tell you how to make them from recycled materials. You can do the same with arts and crafts too. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Maria Danielle Darst wrote:
Quite honestly, I don't feel like getting out of the house. It seems to be a massive effort to even get out of bed in the mornings. I understand you don't feel like it, but truly, you'll feel better once you start going out most days. You don't have to go to something that costs money. Even just going to the park or visiting friends makes a huge difference. You can go to the library or look for other free events in your community. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Donna Metler" wrote in message . .. Kind of on the same note-rather than having to miss regularly for prenatals and have my students have to adjust to a new teacher halfway through the year, we decided that I should start staying home this fall while pregnant, instead of waiting until the baby comes. That sounded great in May, when I turned in my letter of intent. But now school starts next week, and I'm already bored. I don't really have any friends who don't work, at least during the school year, and while there are playgroups and activities for mommys with babies, there aren't exactly playgroups for fetuses! So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? When I was home alone while pregnant with DD (and newly arrived in a new city, so I knew almost no one who stayed at home), I walked a lot (and met the neighbors that way), decorated the house, read a lot, visited the library, went to movies. Luckily, we live near DC so the museums are free - that was always good for day visits. My SIL who lives in NYC where museums are not free said she went to art galleries and parks. She also took pottery classes. I also started going to LLL because I wanted to know more about breastfeeding (hadn't really a clue except what other women told me). That opened up a social group for me. I don't know if you're taking any prenatal courses, but that's a way for pregnant women whose due date are close to meet (so in essence, a pre-playgroup for fetuses). Jeanne |
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On Mon, 26 Jul 2004 15:30:33 EDT, "Donna Metler"
wrote: Kind of on the same note-rather than having to miss regularly for prenatals and have my students have to adjust to a new teacher halfway through the year, we decided that I should start staying home this fall while pregnant, instead of waiting until the baby comes. That sounded great in May, when I turned in my letter of intent. But now school starts next week, and I'm already bored. I don't really have any friends who don't work, at least during the school year, and while there are playgroups and activities for mommys with babies, there aren't exactly playgroups for fetuses! So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? Music? s -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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In article , Donna Metler says...
Kind of on the same note-rather than having to miss regularly for prenatals and have my students have to adjust to a new teacher halfway through the year, we decided that I should start staying home this fall while pregnant, instead of waiting until the baby comes. That sounded great in May, when I turned in my letter of intent. But now school starts next week, and I'm already bored. I don't really have any friends who don't work, at least during the school year, and while there are playgroups and activities for mommys with babies, there aren't exactly playgroups for fetuses! So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? Well, it's obvious - start a playgroup for fetuses ;-) Banty |
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Donna Metler wrote:
So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? Usenet! |
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In article ,
"Maria Danielle Darst" wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Have you decided to make this arrangement permanent? Or is this just a stop-gap measure until you can find another job? I think the main thing to surviving being a SAHM, particularly if you're not temperamentally suited to it, is to get out as much as possible. Don't just hang around the house. It's a challenge to get out and meet other folks who are home most of the day, and it will likely take a while. You may also find that you don't resonate with the folks you meet right away. Some will get better with time, and in other cases you'll move on to find others who are more like-minded. Keep an open mind--you may find at first that all SAHPs seem alike, and not what you're used to in the way of companions. If you get to know them a bit better, you'll likely find that they have more to offer than you initially thought (though of course, some just won't pan out). In addition to finding friends to do things with (ideally with kids about the same age as yours), get out and do things on your own too. Find classes for the kids, go to a gym that has childcare, go to the park, etc. It will keep the kids occupied (they're probably not used to sitting around the house either) and give you an opportunity to meet others too. Try to get out of the house every single day. Best wishes, Ericka Quite honestly, I don't feel like getting out of the house. It seems to be a massive effort to even get out of bed in the mornings. BTDT. It could well be clinical depression. In which case you may have to FORCE yourself to get out of the house, and get active. I know how hard it is -- really! -- but you will feel better if you do. And there are free things to do in every community, even it it's just hanging out at the park -- but chances are good the local library had story time for the kids, and you may well be able to find formal play groups if you look around. Good luck. I hope you are able to find a decent outside job again real soon. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Donna Metler wrote in :
Kind of on the same note-rather than having to miss regularly for prenatals and have my students have to adjust to a new teacher halfway through the year, we decided that I should start staying home this fall while pregnant, instead of waiting until the baby comes. That sounded great in May, when I turned in my letter of intent. But now school starts next week, and I'm already bored. I don't really have any friends who don't work, at least during the school year, and while there are playgroups and activities for mommys with babies, there aren't exactly playgroups for fetuses! So, what kind of things can I do to keep myself from going insane during these next few months, when I'm supposed to be resting, avoiding stress, and preparing for the baby? You could always try going along to some of them anyway. Or going to some La Leche League meetings or something like that. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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