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Told my OB I was leaving her for my midwife....
Not an easy conversation!
We did a 20wk u/s and all looks great, all tests have been normal as I expected. Apart from my age and prior m/c, I have no risk factors (low BP, otherwise healthy, no history of GDS in my family and no signs of it in me, etc). So I dropped the bomb today. She was not pleased - not upset, but not really supportive. Listed her less than ideal experiences with people who'd been in midwife care in the past, said she'd feel better if it wasn't my first child, etc etc.... I really like her a lot, she's been great throughout, so I felt pretty guilty, as did DH. I still feel 100% confident. Unfortunately she planted seeds of worry in DH's head...he says it's still up to me, but I want him to be 100% on board. |
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Told my OB I was leaving her for my midwife....
My DH wasn't too supportive of the midwife idea either, equating level
of degree with level of care. What helped sell the idea to him was that the OB would be there just in time to actually deliver the baby, while the midwife would be with us for most of the labor, so he'd get more help in supporting me. We went into the hospital at 11pm, and I was only 3 cm dilated. Nurse wanted to send us home, but called the midwife who said to "monitor" me without admission b/c we were 45 min drive from home. (I guess the rule was that you had to be 4cm dilated for admission) Nurse called midwife every hour or so through the night (rules for being "monitored") until I hit 4 cm and could be admitted. Midwife came at 7am to check on me, I was 5 cm dilated. I had had very little support up to that point, but between midwife coming in and a new nurse starting her shift, I had someone in the room with us at all times. Midwife told me to get in the tub (I was too waffly to make suggestions to, I needed to be told what to do), and I went from 5cm to 9cm in an hour. Midwife was with us from 7am until baby was delivered at 1pm....No OB is going to do that!! Amy |
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Told my OB I was leaving her for my midwife....
cjra wrote:
I still feel 100% confident. Unfortunately she planted seeds of worry in DH's head...he says it's still up to me, but I want him to be 100% on board. Have him ask your midwife what she would do in the situations raised by the OB that concern him, and how often they've happened in the past and what the outcomes were. In all likelihood he'll be quite reassured. Best wishes, Ericka |
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