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Old August 18th 06, 07:38 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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Default Injury Lawyers?

Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...

First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's
injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and
also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as
day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance,
rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's
'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was
checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her
sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so
really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case.
I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along
with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big
waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same
headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back.
I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did
this for B and his obvious injuries.

Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's
proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to
the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates
whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one
who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact,
good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike
Lawyer #1.
In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B.
Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also
included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer
and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B
(with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding
that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even
though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them
having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the
driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not
involved at all.

The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new
lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release
from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired
that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is
important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who
can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though
they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because
the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing
papers to have someone sue yourself.
Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I
guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not
at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important
to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the
concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is
very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a
message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where
he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when
promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the
last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I
do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable
enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had
said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as
simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable
enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as
something - anything - comes up.

Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are
out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest
brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal
age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see
if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this?
Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I
just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do
this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he
will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things
so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with
this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place.
Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could
work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and
have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this
issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with
this for now?

As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to
risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on
hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if
ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We
do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both
friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have
any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself
and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if
there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways?

Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it
all


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Old August 18th 06, 08:35 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
Bev
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Default Injury Lawyers?

I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer
about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he
is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his
involvement at this point.
Bev

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Old August 18th 06, 11:08 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
Moon Shyne
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Default Injury Lawyers?


"xkatx" wrote in message
news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12...
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...

First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's
injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and
also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as
day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an
ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and
so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the
chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well,
not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also
teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as
the same case.
I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor
along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor
was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all -
still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck,
arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and
suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries.

Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's
proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to
the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no
updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another
lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's
great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still
alive, unlike Lawyer #1.
In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B.
Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also
included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer
and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for
B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding
that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and
even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to
them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as
the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not
involved at all.

The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new
lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the
release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally,
HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because
this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one
else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even
though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved
because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to
signing papers to have someone sue yourself.
Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I
guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and
not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is
important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I
expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I
felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I
call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his
mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will,
does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have
the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With
these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and
reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a
carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he
can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why
would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which
NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up.

Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are
out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest
brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal
age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see
if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this?
Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should
I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will
do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident
that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer,
sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where
to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really
hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm
and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I
should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue
at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and
feelings and deal with this for now?

As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to
risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on
hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around -
if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now.
We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both
friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue
have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer
myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and
see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself
anyways?

Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it
all


If you're going to stand on your own two feet and deal with life on your
own, there's really no time like the present.

I'd call the lawyer and tell him that it's you and 2 children. No one else.
No one else to 'co-sign' the paperwork.

He either takes the case or not.

I can't imagine there isn't a single lawyer out there who won't take the
case, when clearly all three of you were injured.

(And if the children are going to sue you, they need to get their own lawyer
to sue you - you're hiring a lawyer to sue the OTHER driver, right?)





  #4  
Old August 20th 06, 12:14 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
Tiffany
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Default Injury Lawyers?


"xkatx" wrote in message
news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12...
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...



You really need to talk about this with the attorney. That last thing you
need to Norm to have any control over any situation in your life.

Is the insurance company not paying your medical bills? If they are paying,
why do you want to pursue this, especially when its so complicated?


  #5  
Old August 20th 06, 05:57 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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Default Injury Lawyers?


"Bev" wrote in message
ups.com...
I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer
about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he
is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his
involvement at this point.
Bev


I would have to imagine that there's ways around this... What happens to the
people who have absolutely NO friends or family at all and have to deal with
something like this? I would assume there's a way?
I would just hate to have to rely on someone I don't feel at this point I
can rely on... I also don't want something this major to be the thing that
he can prove himself as reliable with... Just too risky, which I kind of see
as sad for so many reasons...


  #6  
Old August 20th 06, 06:09 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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Default Injury Lawyers?


"Tiffany" wrote in message
news:cXMFg.423$hP6.380@trnddc04...

"xkatx" wrote in message
news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12...
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...



You really need to talk about this with the attorney. That last thing you
need to Norm to have any control over any situation in your life.


Well, this, I see, is more control over a particular situation with the kids
and their life. Either way, no, I'd rather rely on no one but myself with
this, but yea, I guess I do need to talk to the current lawyer about it.

Is the insurance company not paying your medical bills? If they are
paying, why do you want to pursue this, especially when its so
complicated?


Every insurance company has this 'Section B' part that pays for certain
medical expenses. This basically includes something like the chiropractor,
and it covers any and all occupants of the vehicle no matter what. This
doesn't affect premiums if you're in an accident, and doesn't matter if
you're at fault or the other driver is. It's standard coverage for ALL
insurance, be it full coverage or something like PLPD.
AB health care also has coverage that doesn't have a thing to do with the
insurance of a vehicle. It's standard for all residents of Alberta. This
covers basically everything medically necessary - B's surgery was fully
covered, no expense at all to me or him or anything. The problem is, for
one, he now has some MAJOR scarring from that laceration he had and was in
the OR for. This scar treatment or removal is not covered by health care,
nor will insurance cover it because it is not seen as 'medically necessary'.
Having his scars treated would be out of pocket, and at this point, it does
not look like the scars will heal any better as time goes on. The plastic
surgeon said that we can look at scar removal, which would definitely bring
the scar down to almost nothing, but the $$ this will cost? I didn't even
ask. The scar is fairly visible and obvious.
I'm also having major issues getting just the ambulance bill covered by the
car's insurance, as well as the kids' health insurance. They have the
health benefit for children - it's a free health benefit for all children in
low income families. They have this coverage. Right on the card it says
that there is 100% coverage for optical, dental, perscription and ground
ambulance only within the province. Air ambulance and something like
orthodontics are not covered. I had called the (car) insurance and was told
that they do not cover the ambulance bill IF there's other health coverage
that pays for that - they told me to talk to the people for the child health
benefit that the kids have. I talked to them, and the lady told me that
yes, they do cover ground ambulance but NOT in the case of a motor vehicle
accident. I was nearly blown away, as really, when would your average,
healthy child need an ambulance? The average healthy child probably would
need an ambulance in the case of an MVA far before they'd need one for
something like a heart attack or a fall down the stairs? I dunno...
Ambulance is ambulance, AFAIC... They won't cover it, and neither will the
insurance company, as they are telling me to fight it out with the kids'
health insurance. Just a headache.


  #7  
Old August 20th 06, 06:11 AM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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Default Injury Lawyers?


"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
...

"xkatx" wrote in message
news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12...
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...

First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's
injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on,
and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear
as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an
ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and
so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the
chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well,
not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also
teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as
the same case.
I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor
along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor
was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all -
still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck,
arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and
suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries.

Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's
proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came
to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no
updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another
lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's
great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's
still alive, unlike Lawyer #1.
In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B.
Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also
included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer
and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for
B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my
understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the
vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might
come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids
to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign,
however, as he was not involved at all.

The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new
lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the
release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally,
HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only
because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also
have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can
sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they
are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again
comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself.
Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I
guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and
not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is
important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I
expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I
felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I
call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his
mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will,
does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have
the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable.
With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there
and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to
bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the
baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you
tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer
business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything -
comes up.

Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are
out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my
oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not
of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes.
Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would
do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at
all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he
can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am
not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to
the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really
don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a
rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me
would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is
this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk
about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal
emotions and feelings and deal with this for now?

As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to
risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically
on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn
around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that
right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good
and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this
lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk
to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign
the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly
sue myself anyways?

Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with
it all


If you're going to stand on your own two feet and deal with life on your
own, there's really no time like the present.


I agree.

I'd call the lawyer and tell him that it's you and 2 children. No one
else. No one else to 'co-sign' the paperwork.

He either takes the case or not.

I can't imagine there isn't a single lawyer out there who won't take the
case, when clearly all three of you were injured.


I will be calling. There just has to be a way to deal with this without
giving myself more worries and a bigger headache.

(And if the children are going to sue you, they need to get their own
lawyer to sue you - you're hiring a lawyer to sue the OTHER driver,
right?)


They have this lawyer to sue the insurance company (either mine or his, just
depends who is found at fault)
I don't have a lawyer for myself, just the one single lawyer for both of the
kids. If in the case I decide to sue, I would need my own separate lawyer,
one different from B and A.


  #8  
Old August 20th 06, 10:08 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 20 Aug 2006 04:57:31 GMT, "xkatx" the following
was posted in blue dry erase marker:


"Bev" wrote in message
roups.com...
I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer
about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he
is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his
involvement at this point.
Bev


I would have to imagine that there's ways around this... What happens to
the
people who have absolutely NO friends or family at all and have to deal
with
something like this? I would assume there's a way?


Court appointed guardian ad litem, probably.

I would just hate to have to rely on someone I don't feel at this point I
can rely on... I also don't want something this major to be the thing that
he can prove himself as reliable with... Just too risky, which I kind of
see
as sad for so many reasons...


Are you sad for you or him?


More for him, I think.
He should be the one who is able and willing to sign, yet really, I don't
see that as a likely possibility.
Quite frankly, I think if my child's other parent didn't trust me enough
(for whatever reason) to make choices and such for my kid, I would see it as
being fairly sad (not in a crying way)


  #9  
Old August 24th 06, 04:40 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
Bev
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Default Injury Lawyers?


xkatx wrote:
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...

First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's
injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and
also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as
day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance,
rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's
'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was
checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her
sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so
really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case.
I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along
with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big
waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same
headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back.
I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did
this for B and his obvious injuries.

Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's
proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to
the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates
whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one
who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact,
good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike
Lawyer #1.
In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B.
Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also
included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer
and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B
(with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding
that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even
though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them
having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the
driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not
involved at all.

The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new
lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release
from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired
that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is
important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who
can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though
they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because
the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing
papers to have someone sue yourself.
Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I
guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not
at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important
to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the
concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is
very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a
message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where
he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when
promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the
last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I
do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable
enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had
said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as
simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable
enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as
something - anything - comes up.

Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are
out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest
brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal
age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see
if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this?
Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I
just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do
this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he
will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things
so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with
this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place.
Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could
work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and
have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this
issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with
this for now?

As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to
risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on
hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if
ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We
do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both
friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have
any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself
and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if
there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways?

Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it
all


Kat,

I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the
biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group?
Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are
being lied to?
Bev

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Old August 24th 06, 06:46 PM posted to alt.support.single-parents
xkatx
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"Bev" wrote in message
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xkatx wrote:
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...

First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's
injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on,
and
also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as
day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an
ambulance,
rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on.
A's
'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor,
was
checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her
sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time,
so
really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case.
I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor
along
with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a
big
waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the
same
headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and
back.
I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did
this for B and his obvious injuries.

Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's
proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came
to
the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no
updates
whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the
one
who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact,
good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike
Lawyer #1.
In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B.
Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also
included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer
and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for
B
(with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding
that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and
even
though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them
having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the
driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not
involved at all.

The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new
lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the
release
from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired
that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is
important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else
who
can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though
they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved
because
the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing
papers to have someone sue yourself.
Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I
guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and
not
at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is
important
to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed
the
concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he
is
very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a
message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house
(where
he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up
when
promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for
the
last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings,
I
do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not
reliable
enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I
had
said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's
as
simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or
reliable
enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as
something - anything - comes up.

Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are
out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my
oldest
brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal
age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I
see
if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this?
Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should
I
just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will
do
this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that
he
will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign
things
so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with
this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard
place.
Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I
could
work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and
have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and
this
issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with
this for now?

As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to
risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically
on
hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around -
if
ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now.
We
do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both
friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue
have
any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer
myself
and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if
there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways?

Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with
it
all


Kat,

I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the
biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group?
Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are
being lied to?
Bev


If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there.
Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were
living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he
also is for this next one.
When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed
that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since
then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k.,
I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with
Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this
place, as, technically, I was a single parent.


 




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