Will She Call 911 on You?

Will She Call 911 on You?


October 10, 2005

by Marc H. Rudov



http://www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive...udov101005.htm



Introduction



There is a dirty, little secret in America-never covered by mainstream
newspapers, magazines, or TV and radio networks: Using the sanction and
anti-male, unconstitutional force of the Violence Against Women Act
(VAWA)-originally enacted in 1994-vindictive women, in increasing numbers,
make fraudulent 911 calls to scare and punish their boyfriends and husbands.



If a woman calls 911, claiming fear of a man, the police automatically will:
1) arrive on the scene, 2) believe the woman's version of events, and 3)
arrest the accused man. That's OK if the man is guilty of domestic violence
(DV). Alas, it also happens when a woman invents violence, premeditates
malice, and manipulates a Napoleonic law-enforcement system that, in
overreaction to the OJ Simpson case, condones DV fraud against men.



American courts and police forces routinely oblige VAWA's basic premise:
Women are innocent victims; men are guilty predators-even though women are
equally guilty of committing DV crimes. But, any good street cop knows that
arresting a woman for DV will jeopardize his career. Instead, for arresting
men, he is rewarded and his department receives increased VAWA funding from
the US Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women.
Congress-led by Senator Joseph Biden (D-DE), the "father of VAWA"-recently
reauthorized VAWA of 2005, driving a larger wedge between men's and women's
civil rights, and flouting the Constitution's 14th Amendment. Joining Biden'
s charge to vilify men were Senators Specter (R-PA), Leahy (D-VT), and Hatch
(R-UT)-the chief US Senate proponents of VAWA 2005. Thanks, guys.



The resulting fallout is that girls are now learning in school that boys and
men are predators, and that calling 911 is the easiest way to punish them.
These girls don't learn any situation-assessment or negotiating skills; all
they learn is: "woman good, man bad, call 911." They don't learn about the
damage a mistaken, wrongful, or fraudulent 911 phonecall can do to a man's
life. Why? Because it's only a man's life; he's disposable. By the time
these girls become women, the "911 reflex" is ingrained in them. Victimhood
lives!



A Chilling Vignette



Below is a chilling hypothetical vignette that I created and verified with
several highly regarded defense attorneys. It is an accurate harbinger of
what can happen to you, if you let a vindictive woman into your
life-especially, into your home. If this drama doesn't get your attention,
nothing will:



Steven is the founder and CEO of a top advertising agency. He lives in a
striking chalet on a beautiful beachfront property, for which he sacrificed
and worked hard over the years to purchase. For the past year, Steven has
been dating Jessica, a successful model. Despite some reservations about her
bouts of jealousy and her frequent pressure on him to marry her, he decided
to invite her to move in with him. Jessica accepted.



After a month of romantic bliss and relative calm, Jessica's jealous streak
resurfaced. Steven has many female friends and colleagues, and Jessica,
notwithstanding her amazing beauty, viewed every one of these women as a
potential threat. No matter how many times Steven reassured her, Jessica
didn't curtail her distrustful behavior. To compound the anxiety, she talked
incessantly about marriage. Steven became fed up: he couldn't even think
about marriage with a woman so insecure and distrustful.



Steven ultimately realized that rooming with Jessica had been a mistake. So,
he told her that their acrimony was affecting his work life and mental
health, and asked her to move out. Jessica didn't like Steven's change of
heart one bit. She was hell-bent on marrying him, living in his house,
ending her stressful modeling career, and availing herself of his wealth and
lifestyle amenities. Steven, on the other hand, was adamant in his decision
to become a bachelor once again. A heated verbal exchange ensued, during
which Jessica began screaming, crying, and-per the VAWA playbook-yelling
"abuse" at a level deliberately high enough for the neighbors to hear. In an
immature rage, Jessica locked herself in the bedroom to call 911. She told
the 911 dispatcher that Steven had threatened her and shoved her against the
wall. The police arrived on the scene within minutes.



After some perfunctory questioning, the police cuffed and arrested Steven
and took him to jail. He contacted his lawyer, arranged bail, and was
released pending an arraignment and probable trial. When Steven emerged from
jail, he fully expected to return home and find Jessica gone. Wrong! From a
judge in family court, Jessica had secured a restraining order against
Steven, who was not allowed back into his own house. Furthermore, the judge
gave Jessica the right to live alone in Steven's house for 60 days while she
looked for new housing.



At the arraignment, the DA charged Steven with a battery misdemeanor. Now,
unless Jessica's wobbly recantation convinces the DA to drop the charges-an
unlikely outcome-Steven faces a jury trial. He can't believe how a
vindictive woman, with the help of the anti-male, VAWA-dominated court and
police force, was able to destroy his life so easily and quickly-with a
single, fraudulent 911 call. His version of the incident mattered not, as if
his rights existed not.



After a few days, Steven's lawyer got him permission to send a friend to his
house to retrieve his car, computer, and some personal effects. But, while
Jessica sleeps in his comfortable bed, Steven has to incur the expenses of
sleeping in a hotel and eating in restaurants, and is proscribed from
accessing his private files and other possessions located throughout his
house. Jessica, on the other hand, has free reign of his home, pool, food,
liquor, and tennis club. You go, girl.



Epilogue: In this saga, Steven lost his civil rights, good name, clean
record, focus on his company, and a wad of money into his lawyer's
wallet-all after only one month of cohabitation, in his own house, with a
malicious woman. Had Jessica lived with him longer, she would have had
even-more power to destroy him!



Don't Play with Matches



If you think Steven's experience is unique, one that couldn't happen to you,
you are gravely mistaken. Think of our VAWA-controlled country as a basement
with a gas leak. The wrong woman is like a lit match. Take a lit match into
that gas-filled room, and what do you get? A massive explosion with
unforeseen and irreversible damages. That is why choosing the right woman is
paramount-not just for peace in the house but also for your safety.



The majority of women are nice, thoughtful, reasonable people who understand
that couples break up and go their separate ways. That's life. But, not all
women are nice and thoughtful and reasonable. Worse, these dangerous women,
like all women, have more civil rights and legal power than men do. As I've
stated before and cannot emphasize enough: your safety is literally at the
mercy of the woman you're with.



In The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet
Earth, I exhort men to reject relationship-zapping double standards. In "Why
Men Avoid Commitment," I expose America's odious anti-male media,
legislative, judicial, and law-enforcement complex. To complete the puzzle,
I shed more light, in this article, on the civil-rights perils haunting all
American men-who must understand and actively work to eradicate these
perils.



Profiling Your Woman



As you date or contemplate marriage to your woman, or if you are currently
espoused but your marital bliss is beyond souring, you must be able to
answer the following question: How can you avoid Steven's fate? Only by
knowing in advance that your woman is a likely 911 abuser and that you could
be her target. Then, run like hell in the opposite direction-before it's too
late!



Now, what specific signs indicate that your woman may be a "Jessica"? The
answer lies in profiling-the faux bane of the PC crowd. A 911 abuser fits a
clear profile: no spine, no self-esteem, no self-respect, no courage, and no
sense that women have natural power equal to that of men. Sadly, a 911
abuser was raised to loathe and fear men and to believe that, without the
police and the courts-her personal army-she has no power. Beware this kind
of woman.



The following table, "Top-10 Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish You," helps
you profile a likely 911 abuser. Ring any bells? The more of these signs she
exhibits, the more you should worry. Worse: VAWA encourages and condones her
911 fraud! Solution: leave her. If you can't leave now, for various reasons,
consult a lawyer to begin protecting yourself. Don't tempt fate: a
vindictive woman is a serious risk to your civil rights, and the law is NOT
on your side.





Top Ten Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish YOU.



1. 9-1-1 Bully



Description of this Sign: To get her way, or just to scare the crap out
of you, she threatens to call 911 - especially if she doesn't get her way.



Why You Should Worry: When she threatens to call 911, she's halfway to
really calling - It's only a matter of time.



2. Caustic Man-Hater



Description of this Sign: Men cause all evil and inequity in the world,
and control every aspect of her life.



Why You Should Worry: She loves VAWA because, finally, she has relief and
an army dedicated to defeating men.



3. Jealous Screamer



Description of this Sign: Makes a very public scene every time she
catches you looking at another woman.



Why You Should Worry: She has deep insecurity, low self-esteem, and
retaliatory tendencies. She's dangerous to you.



4. Abuse Victim



Description of this Sign: Her parents and/or previous lovers physically
abused her. She can't escape the emotions.



Why You Should Worry: Seethes about her past inability or unwillingness
to defend herself. To compensate, she will punish you.



5. Entitled Princess



Description of this Sign: Although employed, she believes men exist to
finance and support her lifestyle.



Why You Should Worry: If you disappoint or fail her, she will retaliate
against you with as many forces as she can enlist.



6. Professional Victim



Description of this Sign: Cries easily. Every setback is "abuse" and
someone else's fault. Everyone is out to get her.



Why You Should Worry: Perfect puppet for the VAWA-funded battered-women's
shelters that will teach her how to destroy you.



7. Litigation-Happy



Description of this Sign: Can't resolve issues by herself. Relishes using
the court system for relief. Malicious divorcee.



Why You Should Worry: She will enlist the court and law-enforcement
systems to make you lose everything you own.



8. Passive/Aggressive



Description of this Sign: Lets people dominate her and doesn't confront
them directly. Retaliates behind their backs.



Why You Should Worry: Vengeful, ticking time bomb that, eventually, will
explode in your face.



9. Permanent Mom



Description of this Sign: Never worked a day in her life. No concept of
the real world. Totally dependent on you.



Why You Should Worry: No experience in the competitive arena. Feels
inadequate, powerless, and resentful. Unreasonable.



10. Astrology Junkie



Description of this Sign: Spends enormous time drawing astrological
charts to understand herself and predict events.



Why You Should Worry: She believes she is not responsible for her
behavior, which is dictated by the stars and planets. Irrational.



-------------------------------------------------



Here's a few I made up..



11. The Cling-on



Description of this Sign: Has to be with you every moment of every day.



Why You Should Worry: The moment you realize that you can't make a move
without tripping over her, she's on the phone to the cops and you're Osama
bin Laden.



12. What's Mine is Mine



Description of this Sign: If she likes to joke about what's hers is hers
and what's yours is hers - if is isn't yet, it soon will be.



Why You Should Worry: She may claim it's only a joke, but it isn't. She'
ll sue you for everything you have, used to have, will have and might have
in the next life, too.



13. The Spend-a-holic



Description of this Sign: Loves your paycheck, bank account and wallet
more then you do. And will drag you to the mall to prove it.



Why You Should Worry: Don't take your eyes off this one, if you blink
twice, you'll be broke. While you're at it, bury your credit cards, bank
info, wallet, and all available cash - in the neighbors' back yard (you
know, the ones across town).



14. The Tar Baby



Description of this Sign: Loves you to death - literally.



Why You Should Worry: Similar to the Cling-on, except that this one will
never let you go, even if you move to Sri Lanka - she'll follow you. Avoid
this one like the plague before you become the next plot line for CSI:
Miami.



15. The Story Teller



Description of this Sign: This one has more tales to tell then your Uncle
Popeye.



Why You Should Worry: Remember that time she delivered a baby in the back
of a car while she was drunk and trippin' on 'shrooms? She's done it all
and is the expert on everything. Bring your boots and everything latex
known to God.

--
--------------------------------------------------------------------
Liberalism: that haunting fear that someone,
somewhere, can help themselves without
Government intervention.

Perhaps in depends on the vicinity. I know through my own horrific
experience that you have to have physical marks on your body for the
police to cuff him.

Even though my ex cracked me across the head and slammed me up against
the wall, the police couldn't arrest him. He knew enough to hit me in
the head where no bruise would show because of my hair.

It didn't matter at all that he was screaming "I'm gonna kill you and
that baby". They still couldn't arrest him. BTW, the baby was his so it
wasn't like I was looking to scam him with some other guy's kid.

I had to get an emergency restraining order (which is not easy to get
contrary to popular belief). He was removed from MY home finally. By MY
home, I mean that I bought it and had been paying the bills. So NO, I
wasn't living off this prince. The judge asked me about CS and I said
"no thanks". So NO, I wasn't threatening this guy with CS payments.

Despite all this, I still don't hate men. But I don't trust anyone to
get that close to me anymore.

There's no negotiating when someone's in a rage, especially if drugs
are in the mix. Some people, men and women, are prone to violence.


Dusty wrote:
Will She Call 911 on You?


October 10, 2005

by Marc H. Rudov



http://www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive...udov101005.htm



Introduction



There is a dirty, little secret in America-never covered by mainstream
newspapers, magazines, or TV and radio networks: Using the sanction and
anti-male, unconstitutional force of the Violence Against Women Act
(VAWA)-originally enacted in 1994-vindictive women, in increasing numbers,
make fraudulent 911 calls to scare and punish their boyfriends and husbands.



If a woman calls 911, claiming fear of a man, the police automatically will:
1) arrive on the scene, 2) believe the woman's version of events, and 3)
arrest the accused man. That's OK if the man is guilty of domestic violence
(DV). Alas, it also happens when a woman invents violence, premeditates
malice, and manipulates a Napoleonic law-enforcement system that, in
overreaction to the OJ Simpson case, condones DV fraud against men.



American courts and police forces routinely oblige VAWA's basic premise:
Women are innocent victims; men are guilty predators-even though women are
equally guilty of committing DV crimes. But, any good street cop knows that
arresting a woman for DV will jeopardize his career. Instead, for arresting
men, he is rewarded and his department receives increased VAWA funding from
the US Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women.
Congress-led by Senator Joseph Biden (D-DE), the "father of VAWA"-recently
reauthorized VAWA of 2005, driving a larger wedge between men's and women's
civil rights, and flouting the Constitution's 14th Amendment. Joining Biden'
s charge to vilify men were Senators Specter (R-PA), Leahy (D-VT), and Hatch
(R-UT)-the chief US Senate proponents of VAWA 2005. Thanks, guys.



The resulting fallout is that girls are now learning in school that boys and
men are predators, and that calling 911 is the easiest way to punish them.
These girls don't learn any situation-assessment or negotiating skills; all
they learn is: "woman good, man bad, call 911." They don't learn about the
damage a mistaken, wrongful, or fraudulent 911 phonecall can do to a man's
life. Why? Because it's only a man's life; he's disposable. By the time
these girls become women, the "911 reflex" is ingrained in them. Victimhood
lives!



A Chilling Vignette



Below is a chilling hypothetical vignette that I created and verified with
several highly regarded defense attorneys. It is an accurate harbinger of
what can happen to you, if you let a vindictive woman into your
life-especially, into your home. If this drama doesn't get your attention,
nothing will:



Steven is the founder and CEO of a top advertising agency. He lives in a
striking chalet on a beautiful beachfront property, for which he sacrificed
and worked hard over the years to purchase. For the past year, Steven has
been dating Jessica, a successful model. Despite some reservations about her
bouts of jealousy and her frequent pressure on him to marry her, he decided
to invite her to move in with him. Jessica accepted.



After a month of romantic bliss and relative calm, Jessica's jealous streak
resurfaced. Steven has many female friends and colleagues, and Jessica,
notwithstanding her amazing beauty, viewed every one of these women as a
potential threat. No matter how many times Steven reassured her, Jessica
didn't curtail her distrustful behavior. To compound the anxiety, she talked
incessantly about marriage. Steven became fed up: he couldn't even think
about marriage with a woman so insecure and distrustful.



Steven ultimately realized that rooming with Jessica had been a mistake. So,
he told her that their acrimony was affecting his work life and mental
health, and asked her to move out. Jessica didn't like Steven's change of
heart one bit. She was hell-bent on marrying him, living in his house,
ending her stressful modeling career, and availing herself of his wealth and
lifestyle amenities. Steven, on the other hand, was adamant in his decision
to become a bachelor once again. A heated verbal exchange ensued, during
which Jessica began screaming, crying, and-per the VAWA playbook-yelling
"abuse" at a level deliberately high enough for the neighbors to hear. In an
immature rage, Jessica locked herself in the bedroom to call 911. She told
the 911 dispatcher that Steven had threatened her and shoved her against the
wall. The police arrived on the scene within minutes.



After some perfunctory questioning, the police cuffed and arrested Steven
and took him to jail. He contacted his lawyer, arranged bail, and was
released pending an arraignment and probable trial. When Steven emerged from
jail, he fully expected to return home and find Jessica gone. Wrong! From a
judge in family court, Jessica had secured a restraining order against
Steven, who was not allowed back into his own house. Furthermore, the judge
gave Jessica the right to live alone in Steven's house for 60 days while she
looked for new housing.



At the arraignment, the DA charged Steven with a battery misdemeanor. Now,
unless Jessica's wobbly recantation convinces the DA to drop the charges-an
unlikely outcome-Steven faces a jury trial. He can't believe how a
vindictive woman, with the help of the anti-male, VAWA-dominated court and
police force, was able to destroy his life so easily and quickly-with a
single, fraudulent 911 call. His version of the incident mattered not, as if
his rights existed not.



After a few days, Steven's lawyer got him permission to send a friend to his
house to retrieve his car, computer, and some personal effects. But, while
Jessica sleeps in his comfortable bed, Steven has to incur the expenses of
sleeping in a hotel and eating in restaurants, and is proscribed from
accessing his private files and other possessions located throughout his
house. Jessica, on the other hand, has free reign of his home, pool, food,
liquor, and tennis club. You go, girl.



Epilogue: In this saga, Steven lost his civil rights, good name, clean
record, focus on his company, and a wad of money into his lawyer's
wallet-all after only one month of cohabitation, in his own house, with a
malicious woman. Had Jessica lived with him longer, she would have had
even-more power to destroy him!



Don't Play with Matches



If you think Steven's experience is unique, one that couldn't happen to you,
you are gravely mistaken. Think of our VAWA-controlled country as a basement
with a gas leak. The wrong woman is like a lit match. Take a lit match into
that gas-filled room, and what do you get? A massive explosion with
unforeseen and irreversible damages. That is why choosing the right woman is
paramount-not just for peace in the house but also for your safety.



The majority of women are nice, thoughtful, reasonable people who understand
that couples break up and go their separate ways. That's life. But, not all
women are nice and thoughtful and reasonable. Worse, these dangerous women,
like all women, have more civil rights and legal power than men do. As I've
stated before and cannot emphasize enough: your safety is literally at the
mercy of the woman you're with.



In The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet
Earth, I exhort men to reject relationship-zapping double standards. In "Why
Men Avoid Commitment," I expose America's odious anti-male media,
legislative, judicial, and law-enforcement complex. To complete the puzzle,
I shed more light, in this article, on the civil-rights perils haunting all
American men-who must understand and actively work to eradicate these
perils.



Profiling Your Woman



As you date or contemplate marriage to your woman, or if you are currently
espoused but your marital bliss is beyond souring, you must be able to
answer the following question: How can you avoid Steven's fate? Only by
knowing in advance that your woman is a likely 911 abuser and that you could
be her target. Then, run like hell in the opposite direction-before it's too
late!



Now, what specific signs indicate that your woman may be a "Jessica"? The
answer lies in profiling-the faux bane of the PC crowd. A 911 abuser fits a
clear profile: no spine, no self-esteem, no self-respect, no courage, and no
sense that women have natural power equal to that of men. Sadly, a 911
abuser was raised to loathe and fear men and to believe that, without the
police and the courts-her personal army-she has no power. Beware this kind
of woman.



The following table, "Top-10 Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish You," helps
you profile a likely 911 abuser. Ring any bells? The more of these signs she
exhibits, the more you should worry. Worse: VAWA encourages and condones her
911 fraud! Solution: leave her. If you can't leave now, for various reasons,
consult a lawyer to begin protecting yourself. Don't tempt fate: a
vindictive woman is a serious risk to your civil rights, and the law is NOT
on your side.





Top Ten Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish YOU.



1. 9-1-1 Bully



Description of this Sign: To get her way, or just to scare the crap out
of you, she threatens to call 911 - especially if she doesn't get her way.



Why You Should Worry: When she threatens to call 911, she's halfway to
really calling - It's only a matter of time.



2. Caustic Man-Hater



Description of this Sign: Men cause all evil and inequity in the world,
and control every aspect of her life.



Why You Should Worry: She loves VAWA because, finally, she has relief and
an army dedicated to defeating men.



3. Jealous Screamer



Description of this Sign: Makes a very public scene every time she
catches you looking at another woman.



Why You Should Worry: She has deep insecurity, low self-esteem, and
retaliatory tendencies. She's dangerous to you.



4. Abuse Victim



Description of this Sign: Her parents and/or previous lovers physically
abused her. She can't escape the emotions.



Why You Should Worry: Seethes about her past inability or unwillingness
to defend herself. To compensate, she will punish you.



5. Entitled Princess



Description of this Sign: Although employed, she believes men exist to
finance and support her lifestyle.



Why You Should Worry: If you disappoint or fail her, she will retaliate
against you with as many forces as she can enlist.



6. Professional Victim



Description of this Sign: Cries easily. Every setback is "abuse" and
someone else's fault. Everyone is out to get her.



Why You Should Worry: Perfect puppet for the VAWA-funded battered-women's
shelters that will teach her how to destroy you.



7. Litigation-Happy



Description of this Sign: Can't resolve issues by herself. Relishes using
the court system for relief. Malicious divorcee.



Why You Should Worry: She will enlist the court and law-enforcement
systems to make you lose everything you own.



8. Passive/Aggressive



Description of this Sign: Lets people dominate her and doesn't confront
them directly. Retaliates behind their backs.



Why You Should Worry: Vengeful, ticking time bomb that, eventually, will
explode in your face.



9. Permanent Mom



Description of this Sign: Never worked a day in her life. No concept of
the real world. Totally dependent on you.



Why You Should Worry: No experience in the competitive arena. Feels
inadequate, powerless, and resentful. Unreasonable.



10. Astrology Junkie



Description of this Sign: Spends enormous time drawing astrological
charts to understand herself and predict events.



Why You Should Worry: She believes she is not responsible for her
behavior, which is dictated by the stars and planets. Irrational.



-------------------------------------------------



Here's a few I made up..



11. The Cling-on



Description of this Sign: Has to be with you every moment of every day.



Why You Should Worry: The moment you realize that you can't make a move
without tripping over her, she's on the phone to the cops and you're Osama
bin Laden.



12. What's Mine is Mine



Description of this Sign: If she likes to joke about what's hers is hers
and what's yours is hers - if is isn't yet, it soon will be.



Why You Should Worry: She may claim it's only a joke, but it isn't. She'
ll sue you for everything you have, used to have, will have and might have
in the next life, too.



13. The Spend-a-holic



Description of this Sign: Loves your paycheck, bank account and wallet
more then you do. And will drag you to the mall to prove it.



Why You Should Worry: Don't take your eyes off this one, if you blink
twice, you'll be broke. While you're at it, bury your credit cards, bank
info, wallet, and all available cash - in the neighbors' back yard (you
know, the ones across town).



14. The Tar Baby



Description of this Sign: Loves you to death - literally.



Why You Should Worry: Similar to the Cling-on, except that this one will
never let you go, even if you move to Sri Lanka - she'll follow you. Avoid
this one like the plague before you become the next plot line for CSI:
Miami.



15. The Story Teller



Description of this Sign: This one has more tales to tell then your Uncle
Popeye.



Why You Should Worry: Remember that time she delivered a baby in the back
of a car while she was drunk and trippin' on 'shrooms? She's done it all
and is the expert on everything. Bring your boots and everything latex
known to God.

--
--------------------------------------------------------------------
Liberalism: that haunting fear that someone,
somewhere, can help themselves without
Government intervention.

wrote:
Perhaps in depends on the vicinity. I know through my own horrific
experience that you have to have physical marks on your body for the
police to cuff him.

Even though my ex cracked me across the head and slammed me up against
the wall, the police couldn't arrest him. He knew enough to hit me in
the head where no bruise would show because of my hair.

It didn't matter at all that he was screaming "I'm gonna kill you and
that baby". They still couldn't arrest him. BTW, the baby was his so it
wasn't like I was looking to scam him with some other guy's kid.

I had to get an emergency restraining order (which is not easy to get
contrary to popular belief). He was removed from MY home finally. By MY
home, I mean that I bought it and had been paying the bills. So NO, I
wasn't living off this prince. The judge asked me about CS and I said
"no thanks". So NO, I wasn't threatening this guy with CS payments.

Despite all this, I still don't hate men. But I don't trust anyone to
get that close to me anymore.

There's no negotiating when someone's in a rage, especially if drugs
are in the mix. Some people, men and women, are prone to violence.

And some are prone to getting involved with violent people.

I don't mean any offense by saying that, in fact you sound like a decent
person from what you are writing here. I'm genuinely sorry you've had
to deal with the things you've written about. However, I do hope you do
some work on yourself and find out why you let someone like that into
your life in the first place. It'll help you avoid making the same
mistakes in the future.

I had to do similar work after getting out of my marriage, but for me
the tendency was to get involved with "needy" women who had more
problems that I really could or wanted to deal with. I know it can be
hard "unlearning" attraction to a certain kind of person, but
(especially after living through a horrendous experience), it can be done.

We're not all abusive assholes. In fact, I'd say the majority of us are
pretty reasonable.

Hope you find a good one, if that's what you want.

- Ron ^*^

wrote in message
oups.com...
Perhaps in depends on the vicinity. I know through my own horrific
experience that you have to have physical marks on your body for the
police to cuff him.

Try living with someone who smashes glass objects in a violent rage, somehow
cuts themself in the fury, then threatens to have you arrested for their
injuries!


Even though my ex cracked me across the head and slammed me up against
the wall, the police couldn't arrest him. He knew enough to hit me in
the head where no bruise would show because of my hair.

It didn't matter at all that he was screaming "I'm gonna kill you and
that baby". They still couldn't arrest him. BTW, the baby was his so it
wasn't like I was looking to scam him with some other guy's kid.

I had to get an emergency restraining order (which is not easy to get
contrary to popular belief). He was removed from MY home finally. By MY
home, I mean that I bought it and had been paying the bills. So NO, I
wasn't living off this prince. The judge asked me about CS and I said
"no thanks". So NO, I wasn't threatening this guy with CS payments.

Despite all this, I still don't hate men. But I don't trust anyone to
get that close to me anymore.

There's no negotiating when someone's in a rage, especially if drugs
are in the mix. Some people, men and women, are prone to violence.


Dusty wrote:
Will She Call 911 on You?


October 10, 2005

by Marc H. Rudov



http://www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive...udov101005.htm



Introduction



There is a dirty, little secret in America-never covered by mainstream
newspapers, magazines, or TV and radio networks: Using the sanction and
anti-male, unconstitutional force of the Violence Against Women Act
(VAWA)-originally enacted in 1994-vindictive women, in increasing
numbers,
make fraudulent 911 calls to scare and punish their boyfriends and
husbands.



If a woman calls 911, claiming fear of a man, the police automatically
will:
1) arrive on the scene, 2) believe the woman's version of events, and 3)
arrest the accused man. That's OK if the man is guilty of domestic
violence
(DV). Alas, it also happens when a woman invents violence, premeditates
malice, and manipulates a Napoleonic law-enforcement system that, in
overreaction to the OJ Simpson case, condones DV fraud against men.



American courts and police forces routinely oblige VAWA's basic premise:
Women are innocent victims; men are guilty predators-even though women
are
equally guilty of committing DV crimes. But, any good street cop knows
that
arresting a woman for DV will jeopardize his career. Instead, for
arresting
men, he is rewarded and his department receives increased VAWA funding
from
the US Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women.
Congress-led by Senator Joseph Biden (D-DE), the "father of
VAWA"-recently
reauthorized VAWA of 2005, driving a larger wedge between men's and
women's
civil rights, and flouting the Constitution's 14th Amendment. Joining
Biden'
s charge to vilify men were Senators Specter (R-PA), Leahy (D-VT), and
Hatch
(R-UT)-the chief US Senate proponents of VAWA 2005. Thanks, guys.



The resulting fallout is that girls are now learning in school that boys
and
men are predators, and that calling 911 is the easiest way to punish
them.
These girls don't learn any situation-assessment or negotiating skills;
all
they learn is: "woman good, man bad, call 911." They don't learn about
the
damage a mistaken, wrongful, or fraudulent 911 phonecall can do to a
man's
life. Why? Because it's only a man's life; he's disposable. By the time
these girls become women, the "911 reflex" is ingrained in them.
Victimhood
lives!



A Chilling Vignette



Below is a chilling hypothetical vignette that I created and verified
with
several highly regarded defense attorneys. It is an accurate harbinger
of
what can happen to you, if you let a vindictive woman into your
life-especially, into your home. If this drama doesn't get your
attention,
nothing will:



Steven is the founder and CEO of a top advertising agency. He lives in a
striking chalet on a beautiful beachfront property, for which he
sacrificed
and worked hard over the years to purchase. For the past year, Steven
has
been dating Jessica, a successful model. Despite some reservations about
her
bouts of jealousy and her frequent pressure on him to marry her, he
decided
to invite her to move in with him. Jessica accepted.



After a month of romantic bliss and relative calm, Jessica's jealous
streak
resurfaced. Steven has many female friends and colleagues, and Jessica,
notwithstanding her amazing beauty, viewed every one of these women as a
potential threat. No matter how many times Steven reassured her, Jessica
didn't curtail her distrustful behavior. To compound the anxiety, she
talked
incessantly about marriage. Steven became fed up: he couldn't even think
about marriage with a woman so insecure and distrustful.



Steven ultimately realized that rooming with Jessica had been a mistake.
So,
he told her that their acrimony was affecting his work life and mental
health, and asked her to move out. Jessica didn't like Steven's change
of
heart one bit. She was hell-bent on marrying him, living in his house,
ending her stressful modeling career, and availing herself of his wealth
and
lifestyle amenities. Steven, on the other hand, was adamant in his
decision
to become a bachelor once again. A heated verbal exchange ensued, during
which Jessica began screaming, crying, and-per the VAWA playbook-yelling
"abuse" at a level deliberately high enough for the neighbors to hear.
In an
immature rage, Jessica locked herself in the bedroom to call 911. She
told
the 911 dispatcher that Steven had threatened her and shoved her against
the
wall. The police arrived on the scene within minutes.



After some perfunctory questioning, the police cuffed and arrested
Steven
and took him to jail. He contacted his lawyer, arranged bail, and was
released pending an arraignment and probable trial. When Steven emerged
from
jail, he fully expected to return home and find Jessica gone. Wrong!
From a
judge in family court, Jessica had secured a restraining order against
Steven, who was not allowed back into his own house. Furthermore, the
judge
gave Jessica the right to live alone in Steven's house for 60 days while
she
looked for new housing.



At the arraignment, the DA charged Steven with a battery misdemeanor.
Now,
unless Jessica's wobbly recantation convinces the DA to drop the
charges-an
unlikely outcome-Steven faces a jury trial. He can't believe how a
vindictive woman, with the help of the anti-male, VAWA-dominated court
and
police force, was able to destroy his life so easily and quickly-with a
single, fraudulent 911 call. His version of the incident mattered not,
as if
his rights existed not.



After a few days, Steven's lawyer got him permission to send a friend to
his
house to retrieve his car, computer, and some personal effects. But,
while
Jessica sleeps in his comfortable bed, Steven has to incur the expenses
of
sleeping in a hotel and eating in restaurants, and is proscribed from
accessing his private files and other possessions located throughout his
house. Jessica, on the other hand, has free reign of his home, pool,
food,
liquor, and tennis club. You go, girl.



Epilogue: In this saga, Steven lost his civil rights, good name, clean
record, focus on his company, and a wad of money into his lawyer's
wallet-all after only one month of cohabitation, in his own house, with
a
malicious woman. Had Jessica lived with him longer, she would have had
even-more power to destroy him!



Don't Play with Matches



If you think Steven's experience is unique, one that couldn't happen to
you,
you are gravely mistaken. Think of our VAWA-controlled country as a
basement
with a gas leak. The wrong woman is like a lit match. Take a lit match
into
that gas-filled room, and what do you get? A massive explosion with
unforeseen and irreversible damages. That is why choosing the right
woman is
paramount-not just for peace in the house but also for your safety.



The majority of women are nice, thoughtful, reasonable people who
understand
that couples break up and go their separate ways. That's life. But, not
all
women are nice and thoughtful and reasonable. Worse, these dangerous
women,
like all women, have more civil rights and legal power than men do. As
I've
stated before and cannot emphasize enough: your safety is literally at
the
mercy of the woman you're with.



In The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on
Planet
Earth, I exhort men to reject relationship-zapping double standards. In
"Why
Men Avoid Commitment," I expose America's odious anti-male media,
legislative, judicial, and law-enforcement complex. To complete the
puzzle,
I shed more light, in this article, on the civil-rights perils haunting
all
American men-who must understand and actively work to eradicate these
perils.



Profiling Your Woman



As you date or contemplate marriage to your woman, or if you are
currently
espoused but your marital bliss is beyond souring, you must be able to
answer the following question: How can you avoid Steven's fate? Only by
knowing in advance that your woman is a likely 911 abuser and that you
could
be her target. Then, run like hell in the opposite direction-before it's
too
late!



Now, what specific signs indicate that your woman may be a "Jessica"?
The
answer lies in profiling-the faux bane of the PC crowd. A 911 abuser
fits a
clear profile: no spine, no self-esteem, no self-respect, no courage,
and no
sense that women have natural power equal to that of men. Sadly, a 911
abuser was raised to loathe and fear men and to believe that, without
the
police and the courts-her personal army-she has no power. Beware this
kind
of woman.



The following table, "Top-10 Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish You,"
helps
you profile a likely 911 abuser. Ring any bells? The more of these signs
she
exhibits, the more you should worry. Worse: VAWA encourages and condones
her
911 fraud! Solution: leave her. If you can't leave now, for various
reasons,
consult a lawyer to begin protecting yourself. Don't tempt fate: a
vindictive woman is a serious risk to your civil rights, and the law is
NOT
on your side.





Top Ten Signs She'll Abuse 911 to Punish YOU.



1. 9-1-1 Bully



Description of this Sign: To get her way, or just to scare the crap
out
of you, she threatens to call 911 - especially if she doesn't get her
way.



Why You Should Worry: When she threatens to call 911, she's halfway
to
really calling - It's only a matter of time.



2. Caustic Man-Hater



Description of this Sign: Men cause all evil and inequity in the
world,
and control every aspect of her life.



Why You Should Worry: She loves VAWA because, finally, she has relief
and
an army dedicated to defeating men.



3. Jealous Screamer



Description of this Sign: Makes a very public scene every time she
catches you looking at another woman.



Why You Should Worry: She has deep insecurity, low self-esteem, and
retaliatory tendencies. She's dangerous to you.



4. Abuse Victim



Description of this Sign: Her parents and/or previous lovers
physically
abused her. She can't escape the emotions.



Why You Should Worry: Seethes about her past inability or
unwillingness
to defend herself. To compensate, she will punish you.



5. Entitled Princess



Description of this Sign: Although employed, she believes men exist
to
finance and support her lifestyle.



Why You Should Worry: If you disappoint or fail her, she will
retaliate
against you with as many forces as she can enlist.



6. Professional Victim



Description of this Sign: Cries easily. Every setback is "abuse" and
someone else's fault. Everyone is out to get her.



Why You Should Worry: Perfect puppet for the VAWA-funded
battered-women's
shelters that will teach her how to destroy you.



7. Litigation-Happy



Description of this Sign: Can't resolve issues by herself. Relishes
using
the court system for relief. Malicious divorcee.



Why You Should Worry: She will enlist the court and law-enforcement
systems to make you lose everything you own.



8. Passive/Aggressive



Description of this Sign: Lets people dominate her and doesn't
confront
them directly. Retaliates behind their backs.



Why You Should Worry: Vengeful, ticking time bomb that, eventually,
will
explode in your face.



9. Permanent Mom



Description of this Sign: Never worked a day in her life. No concept
of
the real world. Totally dependent on you.



Why You Should Worry: No experience in the competitive arena. Feels
inadequate, powerless, and resentful. Unreasonable.



10. Astrology Junkie



Description of this Sign: Spends enormous time drawing astrological
charts to understand herself and predict events.



Why You Should Worry: She believes she is not responsible for her
behavior, which is dictated by the stars and planets. Irrational.



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Here's a few I made up..



11. The Cling-on



Description of this Sign: Has to be with you every moment of every
day.



Why You Should Worry: The moment you realize that you can't make a
move
without tripping over her, she's on the phone to the cops and you're
Osama
bin Laden.



12. What's Mine is Mine



Description of this Sign: If she likes to joke about what's hers is
hers
and what's yours is hers - if is isn't yet, it soon will be.



Why You Should Worry: She may claim it's only a joke, but it isn't.
She'
ll sue you for everything you have, used to have, will have and might
have
in the next life, too.



13. The Spend-a-holic



Description of this Sign: Loves your paycheck, bank account and
wallet
more then you do. And will drag you to the mall to prove it.



Why You Should Worry: Don't take your eyes off this one, if you blink
twice, you'll be broke. While you're at it, bury your credit cards,
bank
info, wallet, and all available cash - in the neighbors' back yard (you
know, the ones across town).



14. The Tar Baby



Description of this Sign: Loves you to death - literally.



Why You Should Worry: Similar to the Cling-on, except that this one
will
never let you go, even if you move to Sri Lanka - she'll follow you.
Avoid
this one like the plague before you become the next plot line for CSI:
Miami.



15. The Story Teller



Description of this Sign: This one has more tales to tell then your
Uncle
Popeye.



Why You Should Worry: Remember that time she delivered a baby in the
back
of a car while she was drunk and trippin' on 'shrooms? She's done it
all
and is the expert on everything. Bring your boots and everything latex
known to God.

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Liberalism: that haunting fear that someone,
somewhere, can help themselves without
Government intervention.

I am new here and this is my first post!

I am a 41 yr old women with 2 young kids still living at home with me!
I feel for either parent that is being taken advantage of!! I live one
side and my BF lives the other side!

However I knew what Dusty pointed out happens. I had never witnessed it
before, until a couple months ago!

My Bf's sister is the one who did this to her Ex. They are divorced at
that time. She got mad at him for whatever, called 911, got a
restraining order OFP on him, restricted him for everything including
the well being of his two young boys (who adore their father).

She runs the whole damn show, and the ex is a wonderful man and father!
We know there has never been abuse in their relationship! A fight yes,
but I know she gave as well as she got!!
She ended up with the house, lock stock and barrel, almost all of his
belongs and household furniture...you know the story! She created this
problem by being unfair during the D., I am being truthful about this
and it is just wrong of her!!

Then one day while he was waiting in his pickup the kids never came
outside so he could get them for his visitation. He goofed up, went to
the door and knocked. She got mad he violated his OFP, but failed to
mention or observe that she is the one who didn't send his kids outside
to go with him!! He can not call her and say, Hey, send out the boys!!
He should have...but either way damned! She called 911 again and he got
arrested!
Spent the weekend in jail, taken away in the cop car in front of his
kids and didn't get to spend any time with them that weekend!
He is now ordered to take, pass and pay for an anger management
classes!! $600.00. Had to get a lawyer so that he can have
communication concerning the kids! More $$$$$

So anyway now since this guy has an OFP on his record, with reported
violence, he threw a boot on the ground!! This hunting season he is not
allowed to have a gun. He can not do one of his favorite activities
with his adult male friends or take his boys hunting! He had to cancel
his hunting trip to ND because while reporting in to his parole
officer, who is responsible for watching his actions! He called to
tell her his he was going to be out of town for the weekend. She told
him, "Wait, you can't have a gun in your pocession!" First time he had
heard this!

This is a 40 yr old guy who never had anything on his clean record in
his whole life! Now 2 weeks ago, he was at a house grilling party that
his boss was throwing. On the way home, he mysteriously gets pulled
over. (We are all certain his ex, who still is allowed to keep tabs on
him, is the one who called the cops on him!) He is driving a company
truck, gets a DWI, thrown in jail, (ok so he shouldn't have been
drinking and driving, but those that don't, be the first to throw the
stone!)
So now he looses his DL for 2 weeks, first offense! Holds a position at
work where he needs to have a company truck but now with Company Ins.
who knows what will happen to his income? More laywer expenses, and he
can not even get ahold of the kids and let them know he won't be there
to pick them up himself!!
What are the women thinking who do this TO their kids!!

If you are honestly being hararased...get help!
If you are not...it is time to GROW UP!! Don't abuse the system for
your own selfish means to get back at the other parent of the kids!

As I said I am not hating on either sex, just the one who is
unreasonable unfair in life to another person!

Wouldn't the EMTs and police be able to indentify or distinguish
self-inflicted wounds? The angle and position tells it all.

Also, generally if someone is coming at you to cut you, wouldn't you
defend yourself? So, if she was being attacked, she would have
defensive wounds on her hands and forearms. It's natural to lift your
arms and protect your face and upper body.

If you were attacking her with broken glass, you would also have cuts
on yourself, not to mention her blood on your hands and your blood and
tissue on the glass.

Basically, if that scenario does play out, then keep your hands to
yourself, keep your composure, leave the premises if possible, and let
her call the cops.

Chris wrote:

snip

Try living with someone who smashes glass objects in a violent rage, somehow
cuts themself in the fury, then threatens to have you arrested for their
injuries!

Try living with someone who smashes glass objects in a violent rage,
somehow
cuts themself in the fury, then threatens to have you arrested for their
injuries!


Walk away and have her arrested for vandalism!

That only works if it's not her property or belongings... Someone like
that needs to go in a mental hospital... I can't imagine cutting myself
on purpose... ick