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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
I have been with the most incrediable guy for about 16 months. We do lots of fun things together, include the kids as much as possible, ect. We have even discussed going further in our relationship, sounds good right. He's the guardian of two half-brothers, and I have one kid.(a boy) However, when I was putting away some of his laundry(yes, we help each other a lot-even with laundry), I noticed that he kept all the cards and notes that I have written to him(sweet huh?). But here's the clincher, when I decided to go thru them, just for sentimental reasons, I noticed that my notes/cards weren't the only ones he kept. He had been keeping ones from a women he dated prior to me, along with the ones I gave him. In other words, they were all mixed up together. So, what would you do? Say something? Leave it alone? I know your thinking I was being noisy, I really wasn't, he knows that I have put away his stuff before. And he has always said that 'he has no secrets'. But I can't help but wonder if he hasn't 'let go' of the previous women? Is that why he's keeping the notes and cards? So does anyone think I'm overreacting? Being paranoid? Could use some constructive advice please. Just no tounge lashing. Thanks
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
"hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... I have been with the most incrediable guy for about 16 months. We do lots of fun things together, include the kids as much as possible, ect. We have even discussed going further in our relationship, sounds good right. He's the guardian of two half-brothers, and I have one kid.(a boy) However, when I was putting away some of his laundry(yes, we help each other a lot-even with laundry), I noticed that he kept all the cards and notes that I have written to him(sweet huh?). But here's the clincher, when I decided to go thru them, just for sentimental reasons, I noticed that my notes/cards weren't the only ones he kept. He had been keeping ones from a women he dated prior to me, along with the ones I gave him. In other words, they were all mixed up together. So, what would you do? Say something? Leave it alone? I know your thinking I was being noisy, I really wasn't, he knows that I have put away his stuff before. And he has always said that 'he has no secrets'. But I can't help but wonder if he hasn't 'let go' of the previous women? Is that why he's keeping the notes and cards? So does anyone think I'm overreacting? Being paranoid? Could use some constructive advice please. Just no tounge lashing. Thanks Ummmmmmmm I would just ask him... He'll tell you something... If it's what you want to believe and trust then all is good... The notes are from BEFORE you... Sounds like you have already made up your mind to question his sentiments whether you confront him or let it fester and stew inside you... You are right I do think you were probably being nosey... The question of where you found them comes to mind... Were they sitting on the dresser in plain sight or did you have to dig through the drawers to actually find them? That puts a twist on your story as well... I know I have mementos of previous relationships (yes even from the DBD LOL even HE had good in him at one point) Do I keep them all together? Sure I do... They are all good, fond memories... I keep mine in the bottom of my dresser drawer as keep sakes for when I'm feeling blue... Just ask him... You will only believe what you want to anyway |
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
hdbabe wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... I have been with the most incrediable guy for about 16 months. We do lots of fun things together, include the kids as much as possible, ect. We have even discussed going further in our relationship, sounds good right. He's the guardian of two half-brothers, and I have one kid.(a boy) However, when I was putting away some of his laundry(yes, we help each other a lot-even with laundry), I noticed that he kept all the cards and notes that I have written to him(sweet huh?). But here's the clincher, when I decided to go thru them, just for sentimental reasons, I noticed that my notes/cards weren't the only ones he kept. He had been keeping ones from a women he dated prior to me, along with the ones I gave him. In other words, they were all mixed up together. So, what would you do? Say something? Leave it alone? I know your thinking I was being noisy, I really wasn't, he knows that I have put away his stuff before. And he has always said that 'he has no secrets'. But I can't help but wonder if he hasn't 'let go' of the previous women? Is that why he's keeping the notes and cards? So does anyone think I'm overreacting? Being paranoid? Could use some constructive advice please. Just no tounge lashing. Thanks If you are sure those notes were written prior to your relationship with him, leave it be. T |
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
On Mon, 23 Feb 2004 19:09:27 -0600, "hdbabe"
wrote: I have been with the most incrediable guy for about 16 months. We do lots of fun things together, include the kids as much as possible, ect. We have even discussed going further in our relationship, sounds good right. He's the guardian of two half-brothers, and I have one kid.(a boy) However, when I was putting away some of his laundry(yes, we help each other a lot-even with laundry), I noticed that he kept all the cards and notes that I have written to him(sweet huh?). But here's the clincher, when I decided to go thru them, just for sentimental reasons, I noticed that my notes/cards weren't the only ones he kept. He had been keeping ones from a women he dated prior to me, along with the ones I gave him. In other words, they were all mixed up together. So, what would you do? Say something? Leave it alone? I know your thinking I was being noisy, I really wasn't, he knows that I have put away his stuff before. And he has always said that 'he has no secrets'. But I can't help but wonder if he hasn't 'let go' of the previous women? Is that why he's keeping the notes and cards? So does anyone think I'm overreacting? Being paranoid? Could use some constructive advice please. Just no tounge lashing. Thanks Why are you going through his stuff? Even if it was in plain sight, which it wasn't, he has a past. So do you. That you unearthed evidence of his past doesn't say anything about him. lm |
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
Thanks all. Whether the items were left out in the open(they were) or not is irrelevent. I know that now. But I think the message is the same from everyone...trust, communication and love are key. I cannot let this bother me, I have to let it go. Bev your right, we all do have 'things', but after my divorce, I got rid of a lot. For me it was a way of moving on...let go of the past.
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
"hdbabe" wrote in message lkaboutsupport.com... Thanks all. Whether the items were left out in the open(they were) or not is irrelevent. I know that now. But I think the message is the same from everyone...trust, communication and love are key. I cannot let this bother me, I have to let it go. Bev your right, we all do have 'things', but after my divorce, I got rid of a lot. For me it was a way of moving on...let go of the past. Nope... not irrelevant actually... If they are out in the open that means it's all over and they are nothing more than fond memories and you should be pleased that these people made it possible for him to be the person he is It also shows he has absolutely nothing to hide from you which says alot about the confidence he feels in a relationship with you... Congratulations |
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
DON'T MAKE AN ISSUE WHERE THERE ISN'T ONE. BUY HIM A FILE CABINET AND
LABEL THE FILE LOVE NOTES AND CARDS. |
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Some advice please....boyfriend issues
"xkatx" wrote ... (Sorry for the pic attachment... I hate them, and I know everyone else does too, but I hate someone with no knowledge of where the caps lock is even more.) Isnt it ironic..... doncha think? a little tooooooooo ironic..... Yeah I really do think ;-) |
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