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'Kate wrote in message ... On Wed, 7 Apr 2004 14:31:03 -0400, "Tiffany" I don't want her behavior to appear as self-hurting. The knuckle thing she didn't even realize came about from this clicking thing. Well, that is what she said. You are right though about the anxiety causing it. I have seen folks that from stress and anxiety will itch and itch themselves until they are all scratched up. So, yes, I suppose it is self-harming. To a much lesser degree than cutting or anorexia/bulimia, for sure. I will work on just nurturing her until we get into the therapist. I am just trying like hell not to put my anger energies out there for her to feel. She hasn't gotten an email from him this week yet. I think she might have to make a decision to stop contact for now until she's able to deal with what is going on. It looks as though he might have already stopped. Of course he may be busy not working and all. She hasn't heard from him this past week and honestly her arms look better. She did stop the finger thing but I think that was more or less because she didn't realize what it was doing to her knuckles. I will keep you updated. I am still going to seek a professional. Tiff |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... Good for him... Again I want to caution about getting to excited about this. An email with a sob story is not making amends. Alcholics and addicts often have a lot of false starts. Don't let your daughter get her hopes up. Don' t you get your hopes up. Make him prove himself. If he's really working the program he will accept the distrust and skepticism of those he has hurt in the past and work to provie himself. Go ahead and encourage him, but dont' let him manipulate and guilt trip and I'd want to see a year of sobriety before I believed it. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St I totally agree with you. I wish he would wait until he did have some time under his belt before making empty promises. It is hard for me to say to her don't get your hopes up without looking so negative about him but I have told her that. She pretty much figured it out herself though. Kids sure aren't dumb. He hasn't contact her this past week actually. He must be busy. lol Tiff |
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