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Daughters!!!
So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight.
This time, I just had a feeling something was up. Couldn't put my finger on it. They usually sleep in the attic and she wanted to sleep in the basement, where it's damp and musty. But it's pretty far from my upstairs bedroom. Then a couple of phone calls when they got home from male voices. "No more phone calls" I order "This is a party, you don't need to be talking on the phone" I started sleeping on the couch downstairs but it was so uncomfortable and I was soo tired, I went upstairs. I locked all the doors (Well duh, you may say but out here we just don't lock the doors) About 2 in the morning I'm woken by what sounds like the backdoor to the basement slamming. Some girls are in the kitchen. Door to the basement is unlocked. "Why is this door unlocked" Nobody answers me. I go downstairs, Sarah and others are huddled on the floor, speechless. I look around, and go into the next room, turn on the light and there are two white faced boys standing up against the wall. "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN HERE????" Tried to get ahold of the boys parents to come get them, one number is busy and he tells me the phone is disconnected because they didn't pay the bill. I know these people and they pay their bills. I can't even get an answer from the other kids home. What the hell are they doing out at 2 am? I was so ****ed off I kicked them out and told them if they came back I was calling the cops. Probably shouldn't have but at that moment I didn't care about the boys. I let the girls stay so they could cry all night and just when they got to sleep at 6 am I woke everyone up and told them the party was over and they were going home. After a lecture about what usually happens when you are in the habit of inviting boys over at 2 am. Daughter got the long version. She is so grounded. Here I was thinking I couldn't lock her up to keep her out of trouble. Well I sure as hell can for the summer anyway. She can skate and she can babysit and she can go to the park across the street where I can see her and that is all she is doing this summer. Geesh. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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Daughters!!!
"Joelle" wrote in message ... So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight. This time, I just had a feeling something was up. Couldn't put my finger on it. They usually sleep in the attic and she wanted to sleep in the basement, where it's damp and musty. But it's pretty far from my upstairs bedroom. Then a couple of phone calls when they got home from male voices. "No more phone calls" I order "This is a party, you don't need to be talking on the phone" I started sleeping on the couch downstairs but it was so uncomfortable and I was soo tired, I went upstairs. I locked all the doors (Well duh, you may say but out here we just don't lock the doors) About 2 in the morning I'm woken by what sounds like the backdoor to the basement slamming. Some girls are in the kitchen. Door to the basement is unlocked. "Why is this door unlocked" Nobody answers me. I go downstairs, Sarah and others are huddled on the floor, speechless. I look around, and go into the next room, turn on the light and there are two white faced boys standing up against the wall. "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN HERE????" Tried to get ahold of the boys parents to come get them, one number is busy and he tells me the phone is disconnected because they didn't pay the bill. I know these people and they pay their bills. I can't even get an answer from the other kids home. What the hell are they doing out at 2 am? I was so ****ed off I kicked them out and told them if they came back I was calling the cops. Probably shouldn't have but at that moment I didn't care about the boys. I let the girls stay so they could cry all night and just when they got to sleep at 6 am I woke everyone up and told them the party was over and they were going home. After a lecture about what usually happens when you are in the habit of inviting boys over at 2 am. Daughter got the long version. She is so grounded. Here I was thinking I couldn't lock her up to keep her out of trouble. Well I sure as hell can for the summer anyway. She can skate and she can babysit and she can go to the park across the street where I can see her and that is all she is doing this summer. Geesh. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle Oh boy. It's amazing that kids think they can get away with things like that, but on her birthday no less. Geez, I'm sorry Joelle. What about the other girls' parents, what did they have to say? Christine |
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Daughters!!!
Happy 14th birthday to your daughter! She'll never forget your birthday
surprise, that's for sure. I made her clean up her room since we are having relatives tomorrow (it's also her confirmation!) and she's redecorated and thought they'd like to see it. After she was done I found her curled up on the floor crying. She didn't think I wanted to let her open her gifts, thought I was so mad I didn't like her anymore. So talk #2 about how I was so mad because I do love her and want to protect her and wish I could keep her out of all trouble. She did manage to have a good day today. but she is still sooo grounded. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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Daughters!!!
"Joelle" wrote in message
... So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight. Remainder of story snipped My first reaction was to smile, sorry and all that but it's best to be honest right? I think it's because I can remember trying very much the same sort of thing at a similar age so on the bright side it seems her hormones are working fine anyway. ;-) More seriously, she's most definitely abused the trust you put in her and that, to my mind, is more of an issue than exactly what she did. I hope you've explained to her, fully and at great length, how precious trust is, how long it takes to build and how easy it is to destroy. She needs to know, though, that the only one who is ultimately affected by the decisions she makes is herself. If she does things that eventually undermine her own self-worth she'll be the main one to suffer. On this occasion you seem to have been in the right place at the right time but you won't always be. She needs to understand this or she'll probably end up just being more careful that you don't find out what she's up to next time which would, IMHO, be a worse situation. -- Paul Griffiths |
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She needs to know, though, that the only one who is ultimately affected by
the decisions she makes is herself. If she does things that eventually undermine her own self-worth she'll be the main one to suffer That was the long version of the lecture. :-) Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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Welcome to my world! :-) We moved from a more urban environment last year
to a small town (POP 600) to protect my 14 year old from the easy access to 'bad things' (she had already slept with her little twerp boyfriend). How naive was that? We are now, there are only a handful of kids her age to run with. Turns out since there's nothing to do around here, they turn to smoking and alcohol to relieve the boredom. Last night we foiled the oldest trick in the book - the "I'm staying at her house while her friend tells her folks she is staying at my house" thanks to her girlfriends older sister. I have talked till I'm blue in the face. So far, I am trusting my daughter because she is usually honest with me and tells me what's going on. She did tell me that some of the kids were drinking and that she did try it but didn't like it. Same with smoking. All I can do is pray and hope she keeps her level headedness and isn't in the wrong place at the wrong time with these kids. The gray hairs a multiplying more quickly these days. She still tells me (after three years of saying so) that she wants to go into the military after high school. If that's the case, then I have three more years of 'teenage' worrying. Then I can move to the 'adult' stage of worrying. I guess it never ends. :-) Good catch mom! "Joelle" wrote in message ... So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight. This time, I just had a feeling something was up. Couldn't put my finger on it. They usually sleep in the attic and she wanted to sleep in the basement, where it's damp and musty. But it's pretty far from my upstairs bedroom. Then a couple of phone calls when they got home from male voices. "No more phone calls" I order "This is a party, you don't need to be talking on the phone" I started sleeping on the couch downstairs but it was so uncomfortable and I was soo tired, I went upstairs. I locked all the doors (Well duh, you may say but out here we just don't lock the doors) About 2 in the morning I'm woken by what sounds like the backdoor to the basement slamming. Some girls are in the kitchen. Door to the basement is unlocked. "Why is this door unlocked" Nobody answers me. I go downstairs, Sarah and others are huddled on the floor, speechless. I look around, and go into the next room, turn on the light and there are two white faced boys standing up against the wall. "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN HERE????" Tried to get ahold of the boys parents to come get them, one number is busy and he tells me the phone is disconnected because they didn't pay the bill. I know these people and they pay their bills. I can't even get an answer from the other kids home. What the hell are they doing out at 2 am? I was so ****ed off I kicked them out and told them if they came back I was calling the cops. Probably shouldn't have but at that moment I didn't care about the boys. I let the girls stay so they could cry all night and just when they got to sleep at 6 am I woke everyone up and told them the party was over and they were going home. After a lecture about what usually happens when you are in the habit of inviting boys over at 2 am. Daughter got the long version. She is so grounded. Here I was thinking I couldn't lock her up to keep her out of trouble. Well I sure as hell can for the summer anyway. She can skate and she can babysit and she can go to the park across the street where I can see her and that is all she is doing this summer. Geesh. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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Daughters!!!
"Joelle" wrote in message ... So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight. This time, I just had a feeling something was up. Couldn't put my finger on it. They usually sleep in the attic and she wanted to sleep in the basement, where it's damp and musty. But it's pretty far from my upstairs bedroom. Then a couple of phone calls when they got home from male voices. "No more phone calls" I order "This is a party, you don't need to be talking on the phone" I started sleeping on the couch downstairs but it was so uncomfortable and I was soo tired, I went upstairs. I locked all the doors (Well duh, you may say but out here we just don't lock the doors) About 2 in the morning I'm woken by what sounds like the backdoor to the basement slamming. Some girls are in the kitchen. Door to the basement is unlocked. "Why is this door unlocked" Nobody answers me. I go downstairs, Sarah and others are huddled on the floor, speechless. I look around, and go into the next room, turn on the light and there are two white faced boys standing up against the wall. "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN HERE????" Tried to get ahold of the boys parents to come get them, one number is busy and he tells me the phone is disconnected because they didn't pay the bill. I know these people and they pay their bills. I can't even get an answer from the other kids home. What the hell are they doing out at 2 am? I was so ****ed off I kicked them out and told them if they came back I was calling the cops. Probably shouldn't have but at that moment I didn't care about the boys. I let the girls stay so they could cry all night and just when they got to sleep at 6 am I woke everyone up and told them the party was over and they were going home. After a lecture about what usually happens when you are in the habit of inviting boys over at 2 am. Daughter got the long version. She is so grounded. Here I was thinking I couldn't lock her up to keep her out of trouble. Well I sure as hell can for the summer anyway. She can skate and she can babysit and she can go to the park across the street where I can see her and that is all she is doing this summer. Geesh. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle Joelle, do you not remember being 14? hee hee. I do and you should lock her up! You handled it well. V |
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"Joelle" wrote in message
... She needs to know, though, that the only one who is ultimately affected by the decisions she makes is herself. If she does things that eventually undermine her own self-worth she'll be the main one to suffer That was the long version of the lecture. I had a feeling it might have been. :-) :-) Glad to see you're smiling now. -- Paul Griffiths |
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Daughters!!!
Buy a BIG baseball bat.
"Joelle" wrote in message ... So it's her 14th birthday and she usually has a bunch of friends overnight. This time, I just had a feeling something was up. Couldn't put my finger on it. They usually sleep in the attic and she wanted to sleep in the basement, where it's damp and musty. But it's pretty far from my upstairs bedroom. Then a couple of phone calls when they got home from male voices. "No more phone calls" I order "This is a party, you don't need to be talking on the phone" I started sleeping on the couch downstairs but it was so uncomfortable and I was soo tired, I went upstairs. I locked all the doors (Well duh, you may say but out here we just don't lock the doors) About 2 in the morning I'm woken by what sounds like the backdoor to the basement slamming. Some girls are in the kitchen. Door to the basement is unlocked. "Why is this door unlocked" Nobody answers me. I go downstairs, Sarah and others are huddled on the floor, speechless. I look around, and go into the next room, turn on the light and there are two white faced boys standing up against the wall. "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON IN HERE????" Tried to get ahold of the boys parents to come get them, one number is busy and he tells me the phone is disconnected because they didn't pay the bill. I know these people and they pay their bills. I can't even get an answer from the other kids home. What the hell are they doing out at 2 am? I was so ****ed off I kicked them out and told them if they came back I was calling the cops. Probably shouldn't have but at that moment I didn't care about the boys. I let the girls stay so they could cry all night and just when they got to sleep at 6 am I woke everyone up and told them the party was over and they were going home. After a lecture about what usually happens when you are in the habit of inviting boys over at 2 am. Daughter got the long version. She is so grounded. Here I was thinking I couldn't lock her up to keep her out of trouble. Well I sure as hell can for the summer anyway. She can skate and she can babysit and she can go to the park across the street where I can see her and that is all she is doing this summer. Geesh. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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