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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby
vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
Our daughter was like that at around 2 months. The only things I could
really figure it maybe was was gas, or the chocolate that I was eating (it was Christmas and that was the only thing out of the ordinary I was eating) DBf was much better at dealing with it than me. We did find that rocking her seemed to help, we'd put her in her infant to toddler rocker (fisher price) and just rock it back and forth. The swinger that we got for her for Christmas was a God send when we got it put together. It really helped. "Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote in message oups.com... My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
"Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward"
wrote in oups.com: My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? how old is she? is this late at night (after 10pm) or in the evening(after 5pm)? lee -- war is peace freedom is slavery ignorance is strength 1984-George Orwell |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
In article .com,
"Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote: My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? Only that two hours is not that long, and this is pretty normal for a newborn. Have you tried swaddling her when she's very unhappy? Some babies are comforted by that. I think most of us have spent many middle of the night hours walking the floor with a crying baby! -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
I'm mom of three, and I hate to tell you this - but LOTS of babies do
this in the evenings or nights. I know its trying and mystifying, but I don't think there is much you can do other than give it some tincture of time. My middle child in particular was like that. He wailed for hours every evening - he just cried and cried and cried and cried, and there was NOTHING we could do about it other than endure it. We actually used to put headphones on so we could watch TV or listen to music while pacing the floor with him. We had tried car rides and vibration, baths, keeping the stimulation to a minimum, stepping UP the stimulation, swaddling, feeding, changing, rocking and jiggling in every position possible, skin to skin contact, and on and on and on. I changed my diet. We tried gas and colic meds on him, we played soft music, we made the room warmer, we made the room cooler, we soothed and paced and put him in the swing. Every hint in every magazine or book or that friends gave us, and nothing worked. It gave me some insight into child abuse, since I swear, there were nights when I was at the end of my tether with him, and if I hadn't had a spouse to hand him off to, I would have been about beyond my limits (opening the window and pitching him out started to seem like a viable option!). Flash ahead a few years and I think we have a clue why he cried so much. He is exquisitely sensitive to smells, sounds, physical sensations. He's one of those kids who is driven to distraction by the seams on his socks or the collar on a shirt. I think physical sensations can be overwhelming for him, and he can't tune things out - and that issue is much worse for him when he's tired. Being a wee baby with an immature nervous system must have been awful for him. The good news is that he did grow out of the nightly wailing - it was at its peak in the 6 weeks to 4 or 5 month period. Hang in - it does pass! Mary G. |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote:
My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? She could be overstimulated. Have you tried swaddling her tightly and leaving her in a quiet, dark room for a little bit? I know you were inclined more towards an attachment parenting model, but some kids just don't cooperate well with that. Actually, that's not quite true, since AP doesn't say you'll hold the kid 24/7--it just says you'll meet the kid's needs. But some babies actually *do* need and want to be put down to blow off some steam and then fall asleep, even though that may seem counter- intuitive, especially after hearing so many people talk about how their babies needed to be held all the time. If she's already to the point of fussing like this, it may take her a little while to settle down. If you can catch her when she's sleepy but not yet fussing, you might find that she settles down very nicely. Or not ;-) But it's worth a try! Best wishes, Ericka |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
This sounds like my third child, actually all of them to think of it. They
had their days and nights mixed up. Really, there is no solution except time and making the daytime active and the night-time quiet and dark. During the day, take a walk, have the radio on or TV. But, at night, turn the lights off or down low, don't have any other stimuli going on in the background and make feeding as boring as possible. It does pass, but it is frustrating in the first few weeks. I did have to bring my third to bed with me at night to get some sleep, but that only lasted a few weeks and then I was able to put her in the bassinet. -- Sue (mom to three girls) "Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote in message oups.com... My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
On 10 Feb 2006 23:51:28 -0800, "Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward"
wrote: My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? How old is she? -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
toto wrote: On 10 Feb 2006 23:51:28 -0800, "Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote: My husband is on the end of his tether: tonight was his first baby vigil night, after I had done the previous two nights. Our little girl is an angel by day but something seems to trigger 2-hour long crying fits by night and we're just stumped as to what might be causing it. She's clean and fed and held in our arms and still won't stop. I personally am dealing with it much better than her dad who is devastated because it kills him to be so helpless with his beloved princess. Any ideas? How old is she? She's six days today. I think we'll deal with the crying fine as long as we don't keep thinking we're doing something wrong. I think my husband will get around to it. Thanks for sharing your experiences! |
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Newborn cries by night, sleeps happily by day
Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote:
She's six days today. I think we'll deal with the crying fine as long as we don't keep thinking we're doing something wrong. I think my husband will get around to it. Thanks for sharing your experiences! The fact that it is night-time can make it seem so much worse, don't you think? Somehow it is easier to cope during the day. I don't know where you live but if the weather is fair try taking a late-night walk with your hubby and baby, fresh air and a change of scene will do you all good and it's not like you are sleeping anyway! There's nothing you are doing "wrong" but sometimes it takes a while for you and your baby to get to know each other, surprisingly they seem to be born with their opinions on things and it is quite mystifying at the beginning. If you can, try to ignore the day-night thing for a while and just think of it as a 24 hour clock with no significance. We are so trained to think of night as quiet sleeping time that a fussy baby can be really jarring and upsetting. If she cries at the same time each night try to cut her off at the pass by starting the rocking/feeding/whatever seems to soothe her a bit earlier. Hang in there! Elle |
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