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Advice about a 2nd baby!!
Sue wrote: Have your thyroid checked out. -- Excellent suggestion. i can't believe I didn't think of it - both my mother and sister have a thyroid deficiency. Also, I wouldn't worry about the # of bedrooms. When I was little, my parents had 5 children in a 3 bedroom house. Three of us slept in one room, the two babies (a year apart) slept in cribs in my parents' room and they had a whole room left over for a guest room. We moved when I was eight - otherwise, I assume they'd have put a couple of us into the guest room. My sister and brother and I loved sleeping in the same room - we always had somebody to talk to when we went to bed. Clisby Clisby |
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Dave Leason wrote: Thank you all for helpful and understanding advice! I know I worry far too much and I get stressed far to easily! Our DD has often said she would want a new baby in her room! dont know how she would take to it waking her up in the night but our other option was to put crib in our room for a few months then when a sleep pattern is established move baby to Ella's room! I'd recommend keeping the baby in your room for a few months anyway, regardless of which room it's going to end up in. When they're little and waking a lot at night, it's a lot easier not to have to trek down the hall after them. I always felt safer with them in my room, too - I could hear them better. Clisby |
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"Clisby" wrote in message ... Dave Leason wrote: Thank you all for helpful and understanding advice! I know I worry far too much and I get stressed far to easily! Our DD has often said she would want a new baby in her room! dont know how she would take to it waking her up in the night but our other option was to put crib in our room for a few months then when a sleep pattern is established move baby to Ella's room! I'd recommend keeping the baby in your room for a few months anyway, regardless of which room it's going to end up in. When they're little and waking a lot at night, it's a lot easier not to have to trek down the hall after them. I always felt safer with them in my room, too - I could hear them better. Clisby That's what we did with #3 and will do with #4 - have them in a bassinette in our room till they don't fit in it anymore. |
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Do we just 'go for it' so to speak??? I think I worry too much for someone
of my age! I just read a saying: "Money cannot give you children" and there is no bigger truth than that. Whether you live in a tiny 2-bedroom apartment or a mansion, your baby won't care. We live in a 2-bedroom, and I see no problems there should we ever have a 2nd baby. DS has his own bedroom, the baby will sleep with us for the first year or so anyway and then they can share the other room. The PPD may be a whole other issue, but if you feel in your heart you want another baby, I think you should just give it a try. Now that you know PPD, you can prepare better and recognize it much earlier, making treatment a lot easier and the effects lighter. another big problem, but embarassing is my lack of 'wanting' sex! i dont know why, but ive been like it since after DD was born, if i can avoid it I will! and obviously if we want to TTC I need to be 'wanting' sex but not just for the sake of having a baby! That's a big issue, since without BD there will be no baby. Is it all about the sex, or do you also feel you don't want any intimacy like cuddling and kissing? Perhaps if you start to build up slowly, you will rediscover yourself. It may just be 'stagefright' that is keeping you and taking small steps could easily get you over that. My impression is you do worry a lot. If I have that, I usually write it down, so I no longer have my worries in my head and can think straight again. Also, seeing them written down on paper makes them easier to deal with, and the solutions are somehow clearer. -- --I. |
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On Thu, 8 Jan 2004 22:22:01 -0000, "Dave Leason"
wrote: And thank you Sophie about house advice! guess i just wanted to someone to say 'its ok your not depriving your child by it not having its own room' and you did that for me! She beat me to it! I was going to say that it's a relatively recent trend for children to have their own room and if you do go on to have a second child even if number 2 is a boy it would be a few years before you (or they) started to have a problem, by which time you may have a bigger place anyway. Anecdotally, I have friends with room-sharing children and none of them feels deprived! -- Linz YB: 11 weeks, around 13lbs |
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"Linz" wrote in message ... On Thu, 8 Jan 2004 22:22:01 -0000, "Dave Leason" wrote: And thank you Sophie about house advice! guess i just wanted to someone to say 'its ok your not depriving your child by it not having its own room' and you did that for me! She beat me to it! Haha! I was going to say that it's a relatively recent trend for children to have their own room and if you do go on to have a second child even if number 2 is a boy it would be a few years before you (or they) started to have a problem, by which time you may have a bigger place anyway. Yep, my daughter and son share. My daughter and 2nd son shared for a while. Whatever #4 is it will be sharing with my daughter for a while. I don't see why people (not the OP, people in general) get weird about small children and babies of opposite genders sharing. Anecdotally, I have friends with room-sharing children and none of them feels deprived! -- Linz YB: 11 weeks, around 13lbs I've had plenty of adults tell me they shared as kids and didn't mind at all. |
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Linz wrote: On Thu, 8 Jan 2004 22:22:01 -0000, "Dave Leason" wrote: And thank you Sophie about house advice! guess i just wanted to someone to say 'its ok your not depriving your child by it not having its own room' and you did that for me! She beat me to it! I was going to say that it's a relatively recent trend for children to have their own room and if you do go on to have a second child even if number 2 is a boy it would be a few years before you (or they) started to have a problem, by which time you may have a bigger place anyway. Anecdotally, I have friends with room-sharing children and none of them feels deprived! And I have several sets of friends with 2 kids and 4 bedrooms where both kids share a bedroom! This surprised me, but they all really like it. For the 4 bedroom family, they have a 5yo and a 3yo who share one bedroom that's just for sleeping and clothes, one bedroom is a shared playroom with all the toys, and the third bedroom is a guest room with a TV where the kids can watch a video. And the 4th bedroom is the parents', of course. Not what I would have thought of, but it seems to work great for them. - Lynn |
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And I have several sets of friends with 2 kids and 4 bedrooms where both kids share a bedroom! This surprised me, but they all really like it. For the 4 bedroom family, they have a 5yo and a 3yo who share one bedroom that's just for sleeping and clothes, one bedroom is a shared playroom with all the toys, and the third bedroom is a guest room with a TV where the kids can watch a video. And the 4th bedroom is the parents', of course. Not what I would have thought of, but it seems to work great for them. - Lynn I would love to have enough rooms to have a playroom but I know the toys would never stay in there and neither would the kids. They love to be in the living room where everything is going on. sigh |
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Dave Leason wrote in message . .. Hi there. I have been a lurker here for a few years, ive mostely posted in uk.people.pregnancy. I am 22 years old, live with my long term partner and we have a DD who turned 2 in october. A bit of background!! (boring sorry) I moved from Wales to England 3 years back for a job, without family or friends, just me and my partner! We bought our own house, it was newly built and it has 2 bedrooms. We didnt plan it but we got pregnant after a few months of moving in, never regretted it and love DD. After a very easy labour and delivery i suffered for a long long time with PND, and still have bad days now, not suprising when im so far away from family. I have now been in a new job for a year and it is a job i want for life, a future for my career, I am a nursery nurse for the NHS caring for severly ill children who come for respite care. I only work 18 hours a week and my MIL usualy has DD during that time. Well anyway, down to the real reason for writing this post!! We are feeling quite broody now, I always swore I wouldnt have any more after the suffering I went through, but I find it so strange that these feelings of wanting another baby are so strong, I also find it quite frightening! The main reason is seeing DD with her new nephew and a friends new son , for about 6 months DD has been obsessed with babies, even tels people mummy has one in her tummy! Its so lovely seeing her with babies and telling me stories about where they come from, even though she is only 2. my main worry is our house, its only a 2 bedroom, have any of you had/have 2 children while in a 2 bedroom house? obviously one room is ours, the others is DD, we never had DD sleep in with us, she was in her own room from birth but what did you do with 2 children but not enough rooms? Me and partner are marrying in July and we have seriously been thinking about maybe TTC after the wedding. But I am scared of so many things, being young with 2 children, although I love being a mum, being so far from family, having not a very good social circle, re occuring PND, small house. the only things I know would be great is DD would love another baby and would be a great big sister, and I also feel secure with my career now, knowing I could go back part time as I work part time anyway! Do we just 'go for it' so to speak??? I think I worry too much for someone of my age! another big problem, but embarassing is my lack of 'wanting' sex! i dont know why, but ive been like it since after DD was born, if i can avoid it I will! and obviously if we want to TTC I need to be 'wanting' sex but not just for the sake of having a baby! Im sorry this has been so long but I dont have anyone around to talk to and so many issues float around my head! Thank you Kellie mum to Ella-Jai aged 26 months Personally I'd say wait until after the wedding before ttc. You'll have enough to think about till then, although it would be a lovely thing to announce in the speeches. We want 3 children (actually I want 4 but dh isn't biting!) and have a 3 bed house. One of those bedrooms is so small we have difficulty fitting the junior bed in. I can't see the prices in Surrey letting up for us to buy a bigger house. Dh shared a bedroom with his 2 brothers until they moved when he was about 13. I don't think it would be a problem. Try going back to Wales-the housing might be cheaper!!! (Anyway it's nice there!) Debbie |
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lynn wrote in message ...
In article , Linz wrote: On Thu, 8 Jan 2004 22:22:01 -0000, "Dave Leason" wrote: And thank you Sophie about house advice! guess i just wanted to someone to say 'its ok your not depriving your child by it not having its own room' and you did that for me! And I have several sets of friends with 2 kids and 4 bedrooms where both kids share a bedroom! This surprised me, but they all really like it. For the 4 bedroom family, they have a 5yo and a 3yo who share one bedroom that's just for sleeping and clothes, one bedroom is a shared playroom with all the toys, and the third bedroom is a guest room with a TV where the kids can watch a video. And the 4th bedroom is the parents', of course. Not what I would have thought of, but it seems to work great for them. - Lynn Our 5 and 7 year old have shared a room since the second one was born. We lived in a 3 bedroom house at the time and wanted to keep a guest room/office. DS#2 was 2 years old before he consistently slept through the night, but the night wakings didn't seem to bother DS#1 hardly at all. Every now and then, DS#2 would have a particularly bad night and if it woke up his brother, we'd tell him to go sleep on the couch. He loved it. To him, that was a real treat. It was like a slumber party, just no guests. We moved to a 4 bedroom house when they were 3 and 5, and they still wanted to share. Some of my favorite moments come when I stand in the hallway and listen to them chatting before they fall asleep. It's very precious. When our third son came along, the older two begged to have him in their room also. Since we had an empty room, we decided we might as well use it, so the baby does have his own room, but if we didn't have that space, I would have no hesitation about putting all three together. ~ Sher |
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