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[META] going out to work vs motherhood dilema
I have not seen the original post (which was not posted to google),
and accordingly cannot -- and do not intend to -- comment upon the question posed or language used by the original poster in the text of her question. However, I am asking if the moderators could address the civility issue as raised by the title of the thread. The juxtaposition of two alternatives using *vs* to my mind means that the two are oppositional and mutually exclusive. In other words, I read this title as stating that women who *go[] out to work* are not *mother[ing]* their children. I, for one, was extremely offended by the title. Barbara |
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[META] going out to work vs motherhood dilema
In article , Barbara says...
I have not seen the original post (which was not posted to google), and accordingly cannot -- and do not intend to -- comment upon the question posed or language used by the original poster in the text of her question. However, I am asking if the moderators could address the civility issue as raised by the title of the thread. The juxtaposition of two alternatives using *vs* to my mind means that the two are oppositional and mutually exclusive. In other words, I read this title as stating that women who *go[] out to work* are not *mother[ing]* their children. I, for one, was extremely offended by the title. Barbara Hi, Barbara, A statement of an opinion, or implication of an opinion, is not uncivil per se. You can refer to the misc.kids.moderated posting guidelines: http://www.misckids.org/posting.txt ..and the misc.kids.moderated charter: http://www.misckids.org/charter.txt We think it's unlikely that the original poster quite meant the oppositional implication that you see. Nonetheless, one of the advantages of having a forum for civil discussion on raising kids is that you have an opportunity to make your point. Banty (misc.kids.moderated moderator speaking for the team) |
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[META] going out to work vs motherhood dilema
"Barbara" wrote in message
m... I have not seen the original post (which was not posted to google), and accordingly cannot -- and do not intend to -- comment upon the question posed or language used by the original poster in the text of her question. However, I am asking if the moderators could address the civility issue as raised by the title of the thread. The This topic, or one very much like it, has been addressed before here (at great length. Great length. GREEEEEAAAAAAAT Length). I think a lot of long-time posters just took a deep breath and decided to respond to the very real concerns of a new poster. I was irked by the subject line, as well, but I decided it was probably just a description of how she felt about her choices, vs. how she thinks people's lives are/must be structured. I try, with highly variable degrees of success, to apply two rules when I come across something like this: 1. Give people the benefit of the doubt. 2. Cut them some slack. As Banty wrote, it wasn't uncivil. Best, Ann |
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