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"Sue" wrote in message
newsOidncBiRomef9TYnZ2dnUVZ_vudnZ2d@wideopenwest .com... Kids don't really enjoy adult conversation and I don't see anything wrong with the kids playing the video game. Maybe your kids don't enjoy adult conversation but most kids I know do! On the other hand, I know an adult man who brings his gameboy to people's homes and sits playing it instead of interacting with people. Marie |
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"Marie" wrote in message ... "Sue" wrote in message newsOidncBiRomef9TYnZ2dnUVZ_vudnZ2d@wideopenwest .com... Kids don't really enjoy adult conversation and I don't see anything wrong with the kids playing the video game. Maybe your kids don't enjoy adult conversation but most kids I know do! On the other hand, I know an adult man who brings his gameboy to people's homes and sits playing it instead of interacting with people. But these kids must not have, or else they wouldn't have been playing the video game. The way I see it, if my kids have friends over, I expect them to play together with little interaction with me. If I happen to be in the same room for some reason, I don't feel that I need to get up and leave, but neither do I feel like I have to join in. By the same token, if I have a friend over, the two of us will sit and talk, and as long as the kids aren't actively bugging us, I don't see that my friend's visit should really have an impact on them. Bizby |
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"Marie" wrote in message
Maybe your kids don't enjoy adult conversation but most kids I know do! On the other hand, I know an adult man who brings his gameboy to people's homes and sits playing it instead of interacting with people. Marie My kids do to a point. But, are you expecting the kids to participate in all adult conversation the whole time? Some of it can be boring for kids or not appropriate. DD1 is more of the kid to hang with the adults, but my two younger kids don't really care. I would be a little disheartened to have the kids hang out with me the whole time I was talking with the adults, maybe you like that, but I don't. The kids also like to hang out with other kids and play and have fun. Maybe yours doesn't? -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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In article , Marie says...
"Sue" wrote in message newsOidncBiRomef9TYnZ2dnUVZ_vudnZ2d@wideopenwes t.com... Kids don't really enjoy adult conversation and I don't see anything wrong with the kids playing the video game. Maybe your kids don't enjoy adult conversation but most kids I know do! On the other hand, I know an adult man who brings his gameboy to people's homes and sits playing it instead of interacting with people. Marie A "drag-along" hubby? Marriage partners' needs for socializing can differ, too. Banty |
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"Banty" wrote in message
A "drag-along" hubby? Marriage partners' needs for socializing can differ, too. Banty Yep, my cousin's husband is terribly shy. He comes to gatherings and sits in a chair away from everyone. He is much better now that he has been in the family for a while now, but he didn't feel comfortable with talking with others at first. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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Banty wrote:
In article , Marie says... "Sue" wrote in message newsOidncBiRomef9TYnZ2dnUVZ_vudnZ2d@wideopenwe st.com... Kids don't really enjoy adult conversation and I don't see anything wrong with the kids playing the video game. Maybe your kids don't enjoy adult conversation but most kids I know do! On the other hand, I know an adult man who brings his gameboy to people's homes and sits playing it instead of interacting with people. Marie A "drag-along" hubby? Marriage partners' needs for socializing can differ, too. Banty When I was a child we didn't have video games. We did have books. I would read if whatever it was we were doing was boring. But if relatives were visiting, I wasn't allowed to read - bored or not. My mom considered that it would be rude. I mostly daydreamed unless I was actively involved in the conversation. I wasn't allowed to read at the dinner table either. OTOH, if I was in the car, I was allowed to read and fortunately I had little problem with motion sickness while doing it. I see nothing wrong with using a Gameboy or something like that while waiting in line, or even when there are people visiting (like Bizby stated) if they aren't grandparents or someone who expects the children to be involved in the visit. There has been discussion somewhere about whether it is rude for someone to do various kinds of needlework when visiting. IMHO it depends on the person and the needlework. A college friend of mine could do argyle socks in the dark (we had lights out at 10 pm and she wasn't ready to go to bed yet), so obviously she didn't have to pay a lot of attention to her knitting, but a beginner might not be able to knit/crochet/sew and still maintain a polite and interested demeanor. There was also a discussion recently - maybe even here - about whether, when some people wanted to watch a TV program, would it be rude for a person who was not interested in the program to read or do needlework, or I suppose play games on a computer. My own take on that is that a football game or some other program doesn't require conversation, and if the person isn't interested in watching, it is rude to require them not to do anything else but watch. |
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"bizby40" wrote in message
... But these kids must not have, or else they wouldn't have been playing the video game. The way I see it, if my kids have friends over, I expect them to play together with little interaction with me. If I happen to be in the same room for some reason, I don't feel that I need to get up and leave, but neither do I feel like I have to join in. By the same token, if I have a friend over, the two of us will sit and talk, and as long as the kids aren't actively bugging us, I don't see that my friend's visit should really have an impact on them. Well it seems like hte OP was talking about Family Functions, not having friends over. Marie |
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"Sue" wrote in message
... My kids do to a point. But, are you expecting the kids to participate in all adult conversation the whole time? Some of it can be boring for kids or not appropriate. DD1 is more of the kid to hang with the adults, but my two younger kids don't really care. I would be a little disheartened to have the kids hang out with me the whole time I was talking with the adults, maybe you like that, but I don't. The kids also like to hang out with other kids and play and have fun. Maybe yours doesn't? If there are kids involved, sure they will go play. But if there are adults they will have conversations with the adults. And in a family get-together, the family does things together, not lay around playing video games. My children happen to enjoy their families. They both play with their cousins, AND talk to their grandparents, aunts and uncles. Marie |
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"Banty" wrote in message
... A "drag-along" hubby? Marriage partners' needs for socializing can differ, too. Yeah, he strongly resembles the stereotypical computer geek. The wife is VERY outgoing, they are complete opposites. Marie |
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"Marie" wrote in message
If there are kids involved, sure they will go play. But if there are adults they will have conversations with the adults. And in a family get-together, the family does things together, not lay around playing video games. My children happen to enjoy their families. They both play with their cousins, AND talk to their grandparents, aunts and unclesotal hip arthroplasty Mine too. I maintain that it is not rude for a kid to leave the adults and go play with the others and if it involves a video game, so be it. The kid should not be expected to remain with the adults the entire visit, unless that was what the visit was for. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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