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do people not like holding their babies?
Daye wrote: On 8 Sep 2003 21:11:36 -0700, (Anonymommmy) wrote: What DH and I think is strange is "very old" children, like maybe 5 years old or older, in strollers. I don't get that either. DD is over 2 and she can walk. She is usually well behaved, but she has her moments. We generally don't use a stroller anymore. I feel sorry for those older children in strollers. -- Daye Momma to Jayan On the contrary. Both me and my son were extremely happy when he had a nap in his stroller while I went clothes shopping now and again. Happy Mum, happy boy. Mary Ann |
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do people not like holding their babies?
"Sue" wrote in message
news Marie wrote in message Number of children matter because...? The more children you have, the harder it is to make sure everyone is happy and taken care of. If you have more than one child and are out for the day, then someone is going to get tired, some will just want to go on and some will need to go to the bathroom and on and on. It makes an all day trip extremely easy when you have a wagon or stroller to let them take breaks. Have you never taken the girls to the zoo? Have you not taken the girls to an amusement park? Do you take the girls anywhere at all? Let me know how you managed? Because I must have done something wrong or I didn't get my supermom powers because I found it hard when I had four children (my nephew also) under the age of five to have a place for all of them. I could have stayed home all the time where I wouldn't need a stroller, but that certainly was boring. I have three, and I agree with her. Then I would have to say that you haven't been in any kind of situation where you need to contain a child or have one get tired. Your children can walk long distances without getting tired? Do you not go on all day outings? Saying things lke that mean nothing, you know. Sure it does. Having more than one child opens you up to different scenarios. It makes you less judgmental because chances are, the very thing you scorned when you thought life was grand with one child, turns chaotic after the second or third child. The dynamics change when you have more than one child. You have other people to take in account for. Older children must be taken care of just like the little ones. Everyone's needs must be met the best way you can. Say your at an amusement park with little ones and older children and other adults. The older children are not going to want to sit and take a break every ten minutes because the little ones get tired. You don't stop, you put child in the stroller or wagon and go on. Why is that such a problem? If the child is happy to ride in a stroller and doesn't fuss, what is the problem with that? -- Sue mom to three girls In my opinion it can't be worse to transport a kid in a car than in a stroller. In both cases you do it to save time when you need to. In Denmark the discussions goes as well - the same people who dislike strollers happily transport their kids in a chair on their bike - a very common form of transportation in this small country with bike lanes and no hills. Tine, Denmark |
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Marie wrote in message
Number of children matter because...? The more children you have, the harder it is to make sure everyone is happy and taken care of. If you have more than one child and are out for the day, then someone is going to get tired, some will just want to go on and some will need to go to the bathroom and on and on. It makes an all day trip extremely easy when you have a wagon or stroller to let them take breaks. Have you never taken the girls to the zoo? Have you not taken the girls to an amusement park? Do you take the girls anywhere at all? Let me know how you managed? Because I must have done something wrong or I didn't get my supermom powers because I found it hard when I had four children (my nephew also) under the age of five to have a place for all of them. I could have stayed home all the time where I wouldn't need a stroller, but that certainly was boring. I have three, and I agree with her. Then I would have to say that you haven't been in any kind of situation where you need to contain a child or have one get tired. Your children can walk long distances without getting tired? Do you not go on all day outings? Saying things lke that mean nothing, you know. Sure it does. Having more than one child opens you up to different scenarios. It makes you less judgmental because chances are, the very thing you scorned when you thought life was grand with one child, turns chaotic after the second or third child. The dynamics change when you have more than one child. You have other people to take in account for. Older children must be taken care of just like the little ones. Everyone's needs must be met the best way you can. Say your at an amusement park with little ones and older children and other adults. The older children are not going to want to sit and take a break every ten minutes because the little ones get tired. You don't stop, you put child in the stroller or wagon and go on. Why is that such a problem? If the child is happy to ride in a stroller and doesn't fuss, what is the problem with that? -- Sue mom to three girls |
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On Thu, 11 Sep 2003 12:08:17 -0700, "Circe" wrote:
So if one kid is tired while you're walking through the parking lot at the end of a long day, you just sit down and have a rest? No lol We keep going to the car? I really do not see the problem in that. The kids know they can rest in the car. Do you honestly think a stoller is needed just to walk through a parking lot? If one kid needs to find the restroom but the other is exhausted, you just sit down and take a rest while someone pees their pants? We find the restroom and then rest/use the restroom for a few minutes. What in that situation would require the use of a stroller? And what in the world do you do when an unstrollered 3yo needs a nap? My kids would never nap if we were on an outing! They are too interested in what's going on around them. The 6 year old has always slept in the car, but always woke up if taken out of the carseat. If it was such a problem to have a missed nap then we'd plan around the nap, and plan to be at home. This has never been a problem. Honestly, I know people who never used strollers (my sister is one of them), but I just can't fathom how they deal with these situations. That's not to say I think there's anything *wrong* with not using a stroller--I just can't quite envision how you manage all-day outings without one, even if the youngest child is 3-5yo who's perfectly capable of walking some of the time. None of these problems you mentioned require a stroller, ime. I personally don't see why anyone would think they do. Marie |
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"Marie" skrev i en meddelelse
... No lol We keep going to the car? I really do not see the problem in that. The kids know they can rest in the car. Do you honestly think a stoller is needed just to walk through a parking lot? Oh there came the light for me - the car. When you don't own one the stroller IS nice. Tine, Denmark (where cars are very expensive and highly taxed) |
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do people not like walking with their babies?
Tine Andersen wrote:
"Marie" skrev i en meddelelse ... No lol We keep going to the car? I really do not see the problem in that. The kids know they can rest in the car. Do you honestly think a stoller is needed just to walk through a parking lot? Oh there came the light for me - the car. When you don't own one the stroller IS nice. Tine, Denmark (where cars are very expensive and highly taxed) I think we public-transportation-users have a very different perspective on these things. I was miffed when I read the first post, but then I realized what was going on. -- Sara, USA (where cars stink and gas is far too cheap) |
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"Marie" wrote in message
... On Thu, 11 Sep 2003 12:08:17 -0700, "Circe" wrote: So if one kid is tired while you're walking through the parking lot at the end of a long day, you just sit down and have a rest? No lol We keep going to the car? I really do not see the problem in that. The kids know they can rest in the car. Do you honestly think a stoller is needed just to walk through a parking lot? Well, maybe my kids are just significantly more tired after a day-long outing than yours, but it's usually all I can do to coax the 6yo to keep walking to the car, and he certainly knows he can rest once he reaches the car. That doesn't mean he stops complaining about how tired he is at every step, though g! The 4yo, on the other hand, will simply sit down and stop walking if she's too tired to go on. So, if we didn't have a stroller, we'd either have to carry her (and depending on how far one has to go, that could be quite a task) or sit there in the parking lot with her. Neither seems too appealing to me, so on the whole, I'd rather have the stroller. Now, of course, I'm not saying that a stroller is *necessary* to walk through a parking lot. I certainly do without at the grocery store and similar places. What *I'm* thinking of, though, is the long walk to the car, parked in Timbuktu, at the end of a full day at a place like the Zoo, Legoland, the Fair, etc. Under those circumstances, I just find it *way* easier to have a stroller to get the younger kids to the car than to force them to walk. I have seen enough parents literally dragging an exhausted, screaming/crying toddler through a parking lot to think that failure to plan ahead for this eventuality isn't exactly a kindness to the child. IOW, *not* taking a stroller to allow a young child to rest can be just as "cruel" as restraining a young child in one against his/her will. If one kid needs to find the restroom but the other is exhausted, you just sit down and take a rest while someone pees their pants? We find the restroom and then rest/use the restroom for a few minutes. What in that situation would require the use of a stroller? Sigh You seemed to be claiming that when one of the children is tired, you'd just sit down and rest until that child is ready to continue. The argument seems to be that it is kinder to the child to simply stop and rest than to have a stroller available for the child to rest in while everyone else goes about their business. I'm saying I don't see that it *is* kinder because it's not always *possible* to sit down and rest until the tired child is ready to continue. One child needing a toilet while the other is resting or needs a rest is a perfectly good example of a time when a stroller might well come in quite handy. And what in the world do you do when an unstrollered 3yo needs a nap? My kids would never nap if we were on an outing! They are too interested in what's going on around them. Well, I wouldn't dream of taking a 3yo on a day-long outing without the *option* of taking a nap. Typically, what happens is that the child is obviously getting tired and needs a nap, so gets into the stroller and falls asleep while we're walking around. It doesn't *always* happen, mind you, but it certainly happens often enough for me to plan for it. If the child didn't have the stroller to get into for a nap, we'd probably have a major meltdown due to a child lacking sleep. Again, to me, it does not seem kinder or more loving to leave the stroller at home and effectively require the child to do without a nap that he/she needs. Honestly, I know people who never used strollers (my sister is one of them), but I just can't fathom how they deal with these situations. That's not to say I think there's anything *wrong* with not using a stroller--I just can't quite envision how you manage all-day outings without one, even if the youngest child is 3-5yo who's perfectly capable of walking some of the time. None of these problems you mentioned require a stroller, ime. I personally don't see why anyone would think they do. Well, I've just explained why *I* have found that a stroller is sometimes the kinder, gentler option for everyone concerned. My kids have never been *confined* to a stroller and, in point of fact, bringing them along can be a pain since it means an adult must always push the stroller(s), even if they are not occupied during the entire outing. I still find that life seems better for my little ones when I have a stroller for each of them than when I don't. YMMV and obviously does, but I do find the notion that stroller use = less attentive, less loving parenting a bit difficult to swallow. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [18mo] mom) See us at http://photos.yahoo.com/guavaln This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "No parking passed this sign" -- hotel parking lot sign All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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do people not like holding their babies?
Circe wrote:
"Marie" wrote in message ... On Thu, 11 Sep 2003 12:08:17 -0700, "Circe" wrote: So if one kid is tired while you're walking through the parking lot at the end of a long day, you just sit down and have a rest? No lol We keep going to the car? I really do not see the problem in that. The kids know they can rest in the car. Do you honestly think a stoller is needed just to walk through a parking lot? I used to walk my daughter to and from kindergarden (not every day) - a mile each way. Now, she had turned six a month after class started and had no problem walking. If I walked to pick her up, that's a two mile walk total. Add a 3 year old and the need to get there when class gets out. Some sort of device with wheels seems like a good idea. I could get a dog to pull a sledge I suppose. |
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Daye wrote in message . ..
On Wed, 10 Sep 2003 14:01:17 -0700, "Circe" wrote: Ah, but you see, you're starting from the premise that all children are like your daughter and resist/dislike riding in a stroller. You see it as a cage because your daughter sees it as one. No, I see it as a cage because I have always seen it as a cage. I think it's wise to question one's opinions occasionally, to confirm that they're based on reason and don't contradict real-world evidence. Just a suggestion. Anyway, don't you think it's far more important what the people using the thing (that is, the children) think? As long as the child in the stroller is happy to be there, why do you mind? It's funny that this subthread consists mostly of stroller-users explaining why they use strollers; I think that's backward. You should be explaining what you have against them in cases when both the child and the caregiver are happy with its use. My DD just happens to agree with me. My nephew didn't mind the stroller (I was his nanny). However, when he hit 3, he was never in one. He didn't need to be there. HIs parents agreed with me. "Reason not the need". Noone needs to go to the zoo in the first place. Hey, if someone offered to wheel me around an amusement park or zoo, I'd be thrilled, as long as I was able to get out when I wanted. I am not saying that for a child under 1 year old, the stroller is an evil place. I would even say that for a child under 2, I can see a stroller as a useful thing. However, with a 3-5 year old, I can't see why you would use a stroller for a child that big. OK, but what do you have *against* using it? That's the real question. Because if you don't have a really good reason to be against it, then why are you spreading ill will around the world by being judgmental about their use? Ever hear of "live and let live"? |
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