Parenting - The Lost Art

I am a parent of 2 very young school aged girls. There are times I wonder if I am being the best parent for them. My spouse and I both work, just like other parents. We went through the years (and expense) of daycare. We have gone through the abuse at daycare.

We have done everything that other parents in the U.S. are doing now. But, I wonder if we have lost, or never knew the art of parenting. We can both remember our mothers being home to greet us from school; being chaperones on field trips; picking us up from school when we were sick.

Now, we cannot do these things. Our children's school is constantly asking for help from the parents; but it is very hard to take off from work whenever the school needs help. Thus the school needs to hire more people to help in the schools. In turn, our taxes go up because the schools had to hire the help.

We know that we don't like our taxes to go up. We know the schools need help. But is this helping our children? More and More I keep wondering if we as parents are neglecting our children because of the economic pressure?

Personally, I found myself working 8 hours a day; then brought work home and continue for another 3 to 4 hours. When did my children get to play with me?

Now I teach high school and still have the same issue. No matter what I do to change the situation, I always find myself back into it.

What can we do to find the art of parenting?

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I think to find the art of parenting would require either of two things
to take place:

1. to have had parents ourself who had that art and skill
and or
2. a willingness to hear our kids and feel our kids and know them and
who they are as unique human persons, to begin to really tune into
them, and not live in the fierce swirling merry-go-round the rest of
the rat race insists is the only way to live in a crazy system that is
overfull and still cries "more".
basically kids need T-ears.
ears that can feel, ears that can see, eyes that can hear, and LISTEN
and they also need trusted mirrors to see who they are, to know they
are OK, and that they are loved,

something that a TON of Roloff Survivors never knew the comfort of...

thanks
Bryony~~
Roloff CultHome Survivor

Bryony,

This is a wonderful post on the art of parenting.

LaVonne

RebekahGirl wrote:

I think to find the art of parenting would require either of two things
to take place:

1. to have had parents ourself who had that art and skill
and or
2. a willingness to hear our kids and feel our kids and know them and
who they are as unique human persons, to begin to really tune into
them, and not live in the fierce swirling merry-go-round the rest of
the rat race insists is the only way to live in a crazy system that is
overfull and still cries "more".
basically kids need T-ears.
ears that can feel, ears that can see, eyes that can hear, and LISTEN
and they also need trusted mirrors to see who they are, to know they
are OK, and that they are loved,

something that a TON of Roloff Survivors never knew the comfort of...

thanks
Bryony~~
Roloff CultHome Survivor

Thanks Carlson

i enjoyed what you had written also.


Bryony



Carlson LaVonne wrote:
Bryony,

This is a wonderful post on the art of parenting.

LaVonne

RebekahGirl wrote:

I think to find the art of parenting would require either of two things
to take place:

1. to have had parents ourself who had that art and skill
and or
2. a willingness to hear our kids and feel our kids and know them and
who they are as unique human persons, to begin to really tune into
them, and not live in the fierce swirling merry-go-round the rest of
the rat race insists is the only way to live in a crazy system that is
overfull and still cries "more".
basically kids need T-ears.
ears that can feel, ears that can see, eyes that can hear, and LISTEN
and they also need trusted mirrors to see who they are, to know they
are OK, and that they are loved,

something that a TON of Roloff Survivors never knew the comfort of...

thanks
Bryony~~
Roloff CultHome Survivor