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Old February 5th 04, 06:34 PM
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A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda
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Old February 5th 04, 07:18 PM
Andrea
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wrote in message ...
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda


Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months
to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at
you!
Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on
solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear dear..how
sad (

Andrea.


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Old February 5th 04, 07:33 PM
KR
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I don't have a problem with giving up nursing at 6 months, that is a very
personal choice for each individual mother. Any nursing is better then
none!

I do feel for the poor child though, babies can't give up anything cold
turkey can they? The baby must be so confused, a baby learns to trust that
when they are hungry, mommy is there to feed them. I hope she smartens up
and weans the baby off slowly like any other normal mom would do!

KR


Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6

months
to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at
you!
Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on
solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear

dear..how
sad (

Andrea.




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Old February 5th 04, 07:57 PM
Larry McMahan
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Andrea writes:
: wrote in message ...
: A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
: six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
: when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
: said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
: nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
: stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
: little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
: enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
: course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
: Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
: she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
: to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
: so confused.
:
: Manda

: Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months
: to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at
: you!

Well, that's not what gets my goat. It is terminating breatfeeding at the
same time that your are starting solids. Studies have shown that for best
results, there needs to be an overlap of at least 3 to 4 months of receiving
both solids and breastmilk to reduce the incidence of atopic diseases.

Stupid if you ask me. Just plain stupid.

Larry
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Old February 5th 04, 09:34 PM
Naomi Pardue
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I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.


Hey, look on the bright side. The stupid mother will probably end up with a
raging case of mastitis.


Naomi
CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator

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Old February 5th 04, 09:47 PM
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| A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
| six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
| when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
| said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
| nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
| stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
| little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
| enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
| course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
| Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
| she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
| to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
| so confused.
|

Awwww, poor baby! That just sounds way too mean. Wouldn't that be hell on
the breasts as well?

N


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Old February 5th 04, 11:02 PM
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"Naomi Pardue" wrote in message
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| I don't think you have
| to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
| so confused.
|
| Hey, look on the bright side. The stupid mother will probably end up with
a
| raging case of mastitis.


LMAO!

~Nadene


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Old February 5th 04, 11:39 PM
Michelle Podnar
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Poor baby!! That must be a form of child abuse to withhold food from you
child for so long!!

--
Michelle P
Ava Marie July 14, 2002
wrote in message ...
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda



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Old February 6th 04, 12:55 AM
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Andrea wrote:
wrote in message ...
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda


Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months
to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at
you!
Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on
solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear dear..how
sad (


I think 6 months was her magic cutoff point that she set before the baby
was even here. She says she's exhausted by it. Kind of confusing since
this is the point where it actually starts getting easier.

It's causing quite the uproar on the board. Not really because of what
she's doing - most are strangely supportive - but because everyone is
attacking the people who stood up for the baby as being trolls and
unsupportive.

Manda

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Old February 6th 04, 01:21 AM
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The mother will be feeling the effects of this cold turkey thing
pretty quickly too you know... I don't want to be in her shoes in the
next few days when she develops one nasty breast infection!

Don't get me wrong, that baby is suffering both physically and
emotionally! There will be reprecutions for years on this one... It
is sooo sad to see something like this happen. The best we can do is
present an "unbiased" opinion. A clear statement of the facts.
Appreciate that she wishes to wean her baby quickly, and explain to
her that it at this young age a baby doesn't really understand the
difference between "wants and needs". She will want to eat because
she needs to eat. She will want to be changed because she needs to be
changed. She is not imposing her will on the mother, it's the other
way around. In a gentle way we need to make her understand that.
Give her tips or references and contacts on how to wean quickly. It
has been done before, we just need to get her on the road to success
rather than frustration. Give her the example of a smoker. There are
not many successful Cold Turkey quitters. They call it weaning for a
reason... Weaning means to gradually reduce.

This is coming from a woman who has been nursing for the last 9
years... non-stop. No, I'm not nursing my 9 yo... I'm not nursing my
7 yo... My 4 yo nurses very, very rarely... and my 2 yo is on her way
to weaning now.

I've seen it all... Or just about.

Johane

"Michelle Podnar" wrote in message m...
Poor baby!! That must be a form of child abuse to withhold food from you
child for so long!!

--
Michelle P
Ava Marie July 14, 2002
wrote in message ...
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl
when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and
said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and
nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how
stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor
little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have
enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of
course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'.
Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and
she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have
to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be
so confused.

Manda

 




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