Need Advice: Breastfeeding with 3 older (13+) stepson's

Rosalie B. wrote:
"Jamie Clark" wrote:
"Welches"
Well possibly that was a bad example. How about playing the piano?

Yes watching that helps:
#1's got quite a good piano finger positions just from watching dh.
If you compare how she plays around on the piano without instruction
to other friends who haven't watched it is very different.
Try again...
Debbie

Yes but the example was meant to be for people that did not have any
opportunity to actually do the skill - could they learn just from
watching? Which I don't think they could.

Rosalie, I still believe you're taking the statement way too literally.


Even if you grow up the oldest of 12 sibs, all of whom were breastfed,
and have 6 dozen younger cousins in the same neighborhood, all of whom
were breastfed, no -- you don't know *just* from watching them feed how
to best arrange a newborn at the breast, what sore nipples are like,
what to do in the event of a nursing strike. It's unlikely mom and
aunts discussed it around you, or, if they did, that you were
interested enough to listen then. You don't necessarily gain technical
knowledge or expertise.

But you still come to breastfeeding with have a huge advantage over
someone whose family didn't breastfeed. You recognize you're not
breaking new ground and you expect to be able to succeed. You've got
support for questions and problems. That's all implied when someone
says "seeing" breastfeeding practiced before you have your first child
increases the likelihood that you'll succeed at breastfeeding.

And it's why La Leche League was founded -- so many women who wanted to
breastfeed *hadn't* grown up "seeing" it, and experienced problems,
coupled with bad advice, that usually led to early weaning and the
women feeling like failures. It's why LLL advises pregnant women to
attend meetings well ahead of their due date -- not just to arm them
with info, but to help demystify and normalize breastfeeding for them.

"Seeing" others breastfeed doesn't guarantee success in any particular
*individual's* own venture, any more than smoking guarantees a
particular individual a death from lung cancer or emphysema. It just
increases the odds -- noticeably.

Lori G.
Milwaukee, WI

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
...
Incidentally, I quite agree with "Welches"
that

it doesn't require a big "talk" ahead of time.
That doing so will increase the awkwardness factor instead of
decreasing it. And that after the baby comes, she will find a
routine
that feels right to her. I, myself, did always tend to go back to
the
baby's room to nurse if we had company. It wasn't really a burden
for
me, and it felt less awkward than doing it right there. I imagine
that it might be different though since this is not company, but
people living in the same house. Having to drop everything to go
hide
every time the baby feeds would seem to grow old really fast

Especially if the baby turns out to be one of those snacking, slow
eating babies who takes a half an hour to feed. I never had one of
them fortunately. Mine attacked with fervor for 10 minutes max, and
then they were full to the top and stopped.

Thank you, but I believe that is me that you are quoting.

Bizby

"bizby40" wrote:


"Rosalie B." wrote in message
.. .
Incidentally, I quite agree with "Welches"
that

it doesn't require a big "talk" ahead of time.
That doing so will increase the awkwardness factor instead of
decreasing it. And that after the baby comes, she will find a
routine
that feels right to her. I, myself, did always tend to go back to
the
baby's room to nurse if we had company. It wasn't really a burden
for
me, and it felt less awkward than doing it right there. I imagine
that it might be different though since this is not company, but
people living in the same house. Having to drop everything to go
hide
every time the baby feeds would seem to grow old really fast

Especially if the baby turns out to be one of those snacking, slow
eating babies who takes a half an hour to feed. I never had one of
them fortunately. Mine attacked with fervor for 10 minutes max, and
then they were full to the top and stopped.

Thank you, but I believe that is me that you are quoting.

Bizby

Im sorry if I confused the attributions. Two or three people said
about the same thing, but the headers on the post were

"Welches" wrote in message
news

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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"Jamie Clark" wrote:

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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"Jamie Clark" wrote:
Rosalie B. wrote:

So I thought that the top person was the latest one to post.
And it was signed Zorra. and I thought you usually signed Bizby

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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"bizby40" wrote:


"Rosalie B." wrote in message
. ..
Incidentally, I quite agree with "Welches"
that

it doesn't require a big "talk" ahead of time.
That doing so will increase the awkwardness factor instead of
decreasing it. And that after the baby comes, she will find a
routine
that feels right to her. I, myself, did always tend to go back to
the
baby's room to nurse if we had company. It wasn't really a burden
for
me, and it felt less awkward than doing it right there. I imagine
that it might be different though since this is not company, but
people living in the same house. Having to drop everything to go
hide
every time the baby feeds would seem to grow old really fast

Especially if the baby turns out to be one of those snacking, slow
eating babies who takes a half an hour to feed. I never had one
of
them fortunately. Mine attacked with fervor for 10 minutes max,
and
then they were full to the top and stopped.

Thank you, but I believe that is me that you are quoting.

Bizby

Im sorry if I confused the attributions. Two or three people said
about the same thing, but the headers on the post were

"Welches" wrote in message
news

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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"Jamie Clark" wrote:

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
m...
"Jamie Clark" wrote:
Rosalie B. wrote:

So I thought that the top person was the latest one to post.
And it was signed Zorra. and I thought you usually signed Bizby

I do -- that's a nick from another group, and I get them mixed up
sometimes.

Bizby

On 23 Sep 2006 11:09:50 -0700, "cjra" wrote:

I didn't know *how* to BF until I did it, but because I'd been exposed
to it since youth, it was a very natural thing for me to do.

I didn't know how to BF until I did it either. I had never seen
anyone BF, yet it came very naturally to me and I nursed both my
children (ds until he was 13 months and refused and dd until she was
2.5). I did have the advantage of going to LaLeche League once I
started BF and that certainly helped, but my mom did not bf me nor did
any of my relatives bf when I was growing up.


--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits

Yes watching that helps:

and listening, it's so much easier to play any instrument if you know what
it's supposed to sound like

Anne

"bizby40" wrote in message
...

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
...
Incidentally, I quite agree with "Welches"
that

it doesn't require a big "talk" ahead of time.
That doing so will increase the awkwardness factor instead of
decreasing it. And that after the baby comes, she will find a routine
that feels right to her. I, myself, did always tend to go back to the
baby's room to nurse if we had company. It wasn't really a burden for
me, and it felt less awkward than doing it right there. I imagine
that it might be different though since this is not company, but
people living in the same house. Having to drop everything to go hide
every time the baby feeds would seem to grow old really fast

Especially if the baby turns out to be one of those snacking, slow
eating babies who takes a half an hour to feed. I never had one of
them fortunately. Mine attacked with fervor for 10 minutes max, and
then they were full to the top and stopped.

Thank you, but I believe that is me that you are quoting.

Yes, it wasn't me...but it doesn't really matter :-)
Debbie

On 2006-09-23 03:38:47 +0800, Rosalie B. said:
I don't think I would say that. Would you see that seeing someone
cook on a regular basis would help increase the chance that one could
eventually cook if you never tried doing it?

Most definitely.

Jo

--
Woman, Wife, Mother, Midwife

wrote:

Anyhow, I was hoping that someone out there can offer me some advice
about breastfeeding with older children, specifically boys, around. My
husband isn't entirely supportive of it 'cause he thinks that
breastfeeding is an inconvenience. But I've been reading up and I told
him last night that I want to at least try breastfeeding because I feel
that the benefits highly outweigh the inconveniences. The only thing I
am really worried about is how to talk to the boys about it and/or if I
should consider not breastfeeding for the sake of their comfort because
I am afraid that they might feel weird about it. Of course, those of
you that have teenage boys know how they can be sometimes with sexual
type issues.

I've been reading this thread, and I've got a couple of things to say:

1. Breastfeed. It's the best thing for your baby, and to NOT
breastfeed due to their hypothetical squeemishness is doing both your
baby AND them a disservice. Baby, because it's denying him the best
food in the world for him, and them, because then they don't get to see
how *normal* it is.

2. I wouldn't bother to bring anything up with them. Just do it.
They'll get the picture, and if they've got questions, they'll ask.
And I betcha it will come up in conversation, at which time you can
mention the benefits. Then it will be a natural conversation, not
something forced.

3. Discretion. If this is your first, you might want to go to a quiet
room at first to breastfeed, or use a blanket over the shoulder trick.
If you are anything like me, it'll take some practice before you and
baby get the hang of things, and you'll wind up showing more skin than
you are comfortable with. After that, you can breastfeed without extra
covering, because you'll learn tricks to keep discreet without having
to bother with receiving blankets and the like.

My stepson was 7.5 years old when my daughter was born, and he got to
see me breastfeeding from day one. It helps that his mom is also VERY
pro-breastfeeding. 18 months after my daughter was born, his mom and
stepdad had a baby, and he's gotten to see her breastfeed his other
sister, too. To him, it's quite normal.

Cathy Weeks