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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents
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Ann Porter wrote: "Kevin Karplus" wrote in message .. . One that I was surprised they didn't do is to visit the sewage treatment plant, which is just a few blocks from the school. I think the first-grade teacher might do it this year as part of the "liquids and solids" unit---it simply hadn't occured to her, though the plant does do a lot of field trips for more distant schools. Eww. I realize sewage treatment is very (very) important, but I prefer not to think about it, let alone visit the facility where it's done. I'm with you on that. As a college student, I went with a civil engineering friend on a tour of the sewers of Paris. Not *my* idea of a fun tourist attraction. --Robyn |
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Noreen Cooper wrote:
gmbeasley wrote: Second, although the thread was highjacked by people with a need to vent against the movement to volunteer in class, none of the pro in-class volunteers ever made the statement "you are a bad and uncaring person if you do not help out as a classroom volunteer." This is a You said this yourself. You said if someone did not participate in some way (with the obvious bias on your part that volunteering in the classroom was the preferred way to do it) you would judge them. You have repeated this several times. (sigh) I have no idea how these leaps of logic occur. I have said several times on this thread I don't believe everyone *should* help out in the classroom. Some people are simply not temperamentally well suited Yes I know you have said that. But the argument is not SOLEY about helping out in the classroom. The problem is that people keep quoting Marjorie's response where she says that someone who doesn't help the public schools is being a bad citizen and the REAL problem post was yours where you said: I do expect parents to contribute to (participate in) their children's schools. Both because I think there's a moral obligation, and because I think everyone should want to. (My ideal school for my kids would require some participation by every parent---not so much to get the benefits of that participation, as to keep out the families that don't want to participate.) Maybe you don't think that I "should" expect this. But, in fact, I do. And then later: : Noreen Cooper wrote: : :Now if you do absolutely nothing to help out your local schools, then I :might judge you. ;-) and later still: Okay, guilty. Judgemental I'll be. I do believe parents who have children in an ailing public school system are *obligated* to help out in some way, no matter how small. So defending yourself by saying that you don't think everyone should be required to volunteer is not effective because what I object to (and I suspect others object to) is the idea that a parent should do something to help schools specifically (rather than elsewhere in the community) or they are not good parents. to be around a class of 20 small children, and I can respect that. We all come with our strengths and differences. It's been many years since you've been out of teaching. Things have changed dramatically. Are you in contact with any teachers today, maybe even someone teaching in an underfunded district? If not, I'd challenge I'm in contact with my friends who are currently teaching. And through my children with the schools where my grandchildren are attending. you to check out your local public school and see if the teachers believe parents have zero obligation to help out the schools. In fact, if others are so strong in their conviction, I double dare challenge you all to go up to your child/ren's teacher tomorrow and tell him/her you have absolutely zero obligation to help out the schools. And if you don't take up the challenge, what do you make of your conviction then? I think that's a very biased question - like "have you stopped beating your wife". And for that reason I find it objectionable and your challenge is equally objectionable. grandma Rosalie |
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"Noreen Cooper" wrote in message ... It's been many years since you've been out of teaching. Things have changed dramatically. Are you in contact with any teachers today, maybe even someone teaching in an underfunded district? If not, I'd challenge you to check out your local public school and see if the teachers believe parents have zero obligation to help out the schools. In fact, if others are so strong in their conviction, I double dare challenge you all to go up to your child/ren's teacher tomorrow and tell him/her you have absolutely zero obligation to help out the schools. And if you don't take up the challenge, what do you make of your conviction then? Ah, but you see, this is *precisely* what I find objectionable. I don't *care* whether the teachers think parents are obligated to do something for the school or not. They can think it all they want, but if they run their classrooms in the expectation that these obligations will be fulfilled and they are not, there are going to be *more* problems than if the teachers had not had any expectations to begin with. In many schools, the majority of parents CANNOT do anything for the school--they have no time to volunteer and no extra money to donate. To expect that such parents WILL do something for the school is a bit like expecting to get Italian food at a Chinese restaurant--a few Chinese restaurants might have spaghetti on the menu, but most won't and all your expectations won't change that. IMO, it is better for schools and teachers to begin with the assumption that parents will not do one damn thing to help "the school" and to expect instead that parents will do what they can to support their own child(ren) in the educational process. As Penny has pointed out, that involves ensuring your child is well-rested and fed before arriving at school, attending parent-teacher conferences when scheduled, and supporting/assisting with homework as needed. That's a *far* cry from doing something "for the school", although I strongly believe that if all parents did these minimum things for their children, the schools themselves would see huge benefits. I understand and appreciate what you're saying about schools being chronically underfunded these days. It's certainly true in many places. Notwithstanding, I don't *buy* the idea that the solution is to expect parents to make up the difference, whether through volunteering or reaching into their pockets for actual cash. It may well be that volunteerism and charitable donations are currently essential to keeping many schools afloat, and I'm not suggesting that people who *choose* to help the schools in these ways should stop doing so. It's just not a long-term solution. The long-term solution is to improve school funding and fix the structural inequities that allow some school districts to have twice as much funding as others. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [17mo] mom) See us at http://photos.yahoo.com/guavaln This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "...we patiently sat by his door, waiting for it to open so he could tell us all about who he had met" -- from _Uncle Andy's_ by James Warhola |
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Marion Baumgarten wrote:
: "My husband and I are prefectly happy with the amount of time and energy : we : spend at our children's schools. We have considered our resources and : how to best allocate them for the good of our family and our community. : 'Nuff said. " : THAT'S what good citizenship is. Fine. But you do *something* for the schools, as I remember. What set some people off was my second post on this thread. I'd love for you to review it. http://groups.google.com/groups?dq=&...&threadm=RY63b. 2188%24m03.2184%40nntp-post.primus.ca&prev=/groups%3Fq%3Dmisc.kids.moderated%26 ie%3DUTF-8%26oe%3DUTF-8%26hl%3Den So take everything I said in context, including the phrases: "I know there are parents who can never physically help out in the classroom but they help out in many other ways, either by participating in school fundraisers or by helping the teacher after hours." "We all do our part." and... Regarding *specifically* volunteering in the classroom, "If it's not your bag, baby (Austin Powers accent), I'm not the one to tell you off about it." After saying all those the above, I was simply amazed on how I became the target of the anti-classroom volunteer contingent. And what was it by Dawn's count (20% of the entire thread later), I still don't have everyone convinced of my true position on classroom volunteerism. Instead, the focus was on: "Now if you do absolutely nothing to help out your local schools, then I might judge you. ;-)" You may find this informative but I have never *once* said how I would judge people. So all those judgement words in parent's heads which raised their blood pressures, was coming from somewhere else. And I did get one post rejected on this thread for attempting to figure it out. So I leave it to you to figure it out for yourselves. Noreen |
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Noreen wrote: So I still maintain no one has ever said if you do not help out **IN THE CLASSROOM** you are a bad citizen. There's a big difference. If you do nothing to help out the schools, you are a bad citizen. If you don't volunteer in the classroom, you are a bad citizen. Two different statements completely. Very true. Two statements. So what we have here is a paraphrased version of "You are a bad and uncaring person if you do not do what you can to help public schools." That statement is ever so much better, eh? (Hint: Both statements make sweeping judgments about people you know nothing about.) Key point: You aren't the arbitrator or what makes folks a good citizen or a bad one. I can't get my panties in a wad over what you think about how I or other people do or do not express their civic duty. I do find it interesting, though, that you express surprise that folks' would react negatively to you. I've rarely, possibly never, heard the term "judgmental" used as a positive attribute for anyone. beeswing |
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Noreen Cooper wrote: Marion Baumgarten wrote: : "My husband and I are prefectly happy with the amount of time and energy : we : spend at our children's schools. We have considered our resources and : how to best allocate them for the good of our family and our community. : 'Nuff said. " : THAT'S what good citizenship is. Fine. But you do *something* for the schools, as I remember. The point is that if, after considering their family's resources and how best to allocate them for the good of their family and their community and, they decided not to do anything for their school, they'd *still* be good citizens. It's the *consideration* that makes them good citizens, not the fact that in a particular year that consideration ended up with them doing "something" for the school as part of their allocation of their resources. As much as you are frustrated by people continuing to believe that you are insisting that everyone volunteer *in the classroom*, others are increasingly frustrated by your inability to concede that for many good citizens, "doing something" to help their local (public?) school is not necessarily part of the equation. --Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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Rosalie B. wrote:
: The problem is that people keep quoting Marjorie's response where she : says that someone who doesn't help the public schools is being a bad : citizen and the REAL problem post was yours where you said: :I do expect parents to contribute to (participate in) their children's :schools. Both because I think there's a moral obligation, and because I :think everyone should want to. (My ideal school for my kids would :require some participation by every parent---not so much to get the :benefits of that participation, as to keep out the families that don't :want to participate.) I never said this. I have no idea who did. Noreen |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
"Noreen Cooper" wrote in message If your child has not shown this degree of separation anxiety before, I'd make sure you volunteer to help out in the classroom ASAP. If for some reason you are unable to volunteer during kindergarten hours, seek out another parent who volunteers quite regularly in the classroom and ask what they perceive to be the problem. Just wanted to add a comment here. My son's kindergarten teacher has specifically said that parents should not visit the classroom for one month. It is hard enough for a child to adjust to a classroom and school and then a parent being there might make it worse for the child. Oddly enough, I thought my youngest would have some issues going to school, he had never been in any day care or pre school, but he seems to be adjusted well, does his work at school, and behaves well (Even if he is still a lot rambuncious at home!) Mary Mommy to Chris (5) and Alex (7) |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
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