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"V" wrote in message "denanson" wrote in message Talk about paranoia. Are you guys for real? Only if you have a social and DOB for me...hee hee Ok so how would all you women react if I asked for your date of birth and social number? Dennis |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... Since I would never get to serious, I only ever checked someone's background once, See, I think you should do it right away, before you develop emotions that might make it difficult for you to make an objective, rational decision. I didn't tell him about that. Oh I was always forthright "Sure, just let me put your name in the sex offender data base here then we'll see what we can set up..." Joelle I can see that point but at one point I was meeting a few different guys and some of them wouldn't make it past a few phone calls. But like I said, if I were to find a guy I met on the 'list', there would be nothing to be objective about. I would just end it. I am glad you met someone and are happy! Do the kids like him or have you not made it to that point yet? T |
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"Cele" wrote in message The issue isn't whether children of single mothers are the top target. It's whether they're a significant target. It's whether the children are at risk and in need of protection. http://www.sccgov.org/channel/0,4770...D12655,00.html I draw your attention to the information under the heading 'Child Sexual Predators'. All the links (about 5) to the quoted statistics are from a single source (Santa Clara county) wherever that is. They also do not work but end up on the same defunct page. http://www.bbplaw.com/publications/frrdaj.htm I draw your attention to C-1 Here it is. 1. Skilled at Identifying Vulnerable Victims Although some pedophiles can observe a group of children for a short period of time and choose a target, many develop their skills in selecting victims through practice and experience. Most of the time, victims are from a broken home or have been emotionally or physically neglected. Oftentimes, children of low-income families, in which there may only be one parent present in the home, are targeted by pedophiles, especially if there is not a male figure present in the child's life. Really Celia, do you call that objective research? Terms like some, many, Most of the time, and the use of and/or generalisations. The final statement also implies to me that the article assumes all peodophiles are men. I agree that single parents could well be a "target" I was simply saying that other situations impose a greater risk. I wish I'd been a little more paranoid, and made sure my kid was driven to and from school. Ah but that is not what this thread is about. Dennis |
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"Joelle" wrote in message There are plenty of nice eligible men who are not on that list for any reason. I happen to be in love with one :-) So tell me Joelle, how long does it take to completely "know" someone enough to fall in love with them? Dennis |
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"denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "V" wrote in message "denanson" wrote in message Talk about paranoia. Are you guys for real? Only if you have a social and DOB for me...hee hee Ok so how would all you women react if I asked for your date of birth and social number? Dennis Good point! Very good point! I think going so far as asking for a social security number is a bit much. I would NOT give that out, who would! The birthday, that might come up in conversation but not to do background checks. I for one would give out my birthday, no biggie there. T |
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On Wed, 7 Jul 2004 20:56:21 +0100, "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie
wrote: "Cele" wrote in message The issue isn't whether children of single mothers are the top target. It's whether they're a significant target. It's whether the children are at risk and in need of protection. http://www.sccgov.org/channel/0,4770...D12655,00.html I draw your attention to the information under the heading 'Child Sexual Predators'. All the links (about 5) to the quoted statistics are from a single source (Santa Clara county) wherever that is. They also do not work but end up on the same defunct page. http://www.bbplaw.com/publications/frrdaj.htm I draw your attention to C-1 Here it is. 1. Skilled at Identifying Vulnerable Victims Although some pedophiles can observe a group of children for a short period of time and choose a target, many develop their skills in selecting victims through practice and experience. Most of the time, victims are from a broken home or have been emotionally or physically neglected. Oftentimes, children of low-income families, in which there may only be one parent present in the home, are targeted by pedophiles, especially if there is not a male figure present in the child's life. Really Celia, do you call that objective research? Terms like some, many, Most of the time, and the use of and/or generalisations. The final statement also implies to me that the article assumes all peodophiles are men. Okay, Dennis, fine. You don't like the links, discard them. I've offered two books, both of which are properly referenced and both of which I've read cover to cover. The links were what I found at the time, the books are better. Read 'em or don't. I agree that single parents could well be a "target" I was simply saying that other situations impose a greater risk. And I was asserting that the risk is significant and that such a risk is worth protecting children against, given the outcome of not doing so and being wrong. I further assert that calling people names, like 'paranoid', for their efforts to protect their children in not uncommon ways, is erroneous and, I'll ad here, harmful. I wish I'd been a little more paranoid, and made sure my kid was driven to and from school. Ah but that is not what this thread is about. It's about protecting our kid from sexual offenders. Some people around here drive their kids virtually everywhere; others don't, and think that to do so is 'paranoid'. The situation is analagous and relevent. Cele |
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On Wed, 7 Jul 2004 16:28:02 -0400, "Tiffany"
wrote: "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "V" wrote in message "denanson" wrote in message Talk about paranoia. Are you guys for real? Only if you have a social and DOB for me...hee hee Ok so how would all you women react if I asked for your date of birth and social number? Dennis Good point! Very good point! Wouldn't bother me in the least, especially if you had kids of a vulnerable age. With people like Pamela Smart and Aileen Wuornos out there, you probably should. Might want to wait for a third date or so, but hopefully I'm not alone with your kids until well after that anyway. I think going so far as asking for a social security number is a bit much. I would NOT give that out, who would! The birthday, that might come up in conversation but not to do background checks. I for one would give out my birthday, no biggie there. Yeah. Makes it easier to get cards on the big day. Cele |
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am glad you met someone and are happy! Do the kids like him or have you
not made it to that point yet? The kids liked him at first, now they don't really want to share, so I haven't forced the issue. I have him over for dinner once in awhile just to reinforce to the kids that I get to have friends, and they need to be polite and Sarah did condescend to allow him to drive her home after skating the other day, so we are making a little progress. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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