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It's over
"PattyMomVA" wrote in message
... "Mum of Two" wrote and I snipped: My partner admitted last night that our relationship of 6 1/2 years is over. I'll have to try and change my work days so that he can have Ana on his days off. I'll still have her nights but I guess she'll cut out her lunch time feed on the days he has her. Not that that really seems important right now, but it keeps it on topic. He'll be moving out to cause less disruption to Ana's life. I'm absolutely shattered. It's as though he's died, but worse, and at the same time not quite as bad. If that makes any sense. Amy, I'm so sorry to hear about this split. It must be hard for you to imagine being without him. However, I have no doubt that you'll be able to handle it. How are things going now? Any better? I hope the two of you see a way to put Ana's best interests first. Thanks Patty. Today was a better day, we got a few more things sorted out and also had a talk about the future that wasn't so icy, so that felt good. I had to tell my boss & workmates as I had wanted to change days of work, and that was difficult, but now it's done it's done. I can't shift days which is a real pain, as I had wanted to work the days that DD's father would have her. It's only short term though really as by the end of the year I'll have to find another job anyway as my workplace is moving too far to go by bicycle. I'll have her three-four days a week, all nights and continue to work two days a week for the immediate future. We have to go to the family court by law, which stresses me a bit because we'd like to keep it informal and sociable. I also had to apply for the single mother's benefit, and they asked me in a public setting why the relationship had broken down, who left whom, whether we'd get back together etc. Leave your dignity at the door kind of situation. Could have been worse, I know someone who applied for it who was asked loudly "You left an alcoholic? Why didn't you try to *help* him?!", so I guess I got off lightly when I finally said with exasperation, "Well you can't _make_ someone love you, can you?". -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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On Fri, 06 Jan 2006 20:49:58 +1300, Mum of Two wrote:
I also had to apply for the single mother's benefit, and they asked me in a public setting why the relationship had broken down, who left whom, whether we'd get back together etc. Leave your dignity at the door kind of situation. Could have been worse, I know someone who applied for it who was asked loudly "You left an alcoholic? Why didn't you try to *help* him?!", so I guess I got off lightly when I finally said with exasperation, "Well you can't _make_ someone love you, can you?". How awful for you! I'm pretty sure they don't ask those sort of questions here. If they did I think I'd be pretty rude. Jeni |
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"Jen" wrote in message
news On Fri, 06 Jan 2006 20:49:58 +1300, Mum of Two wrote: I also had to apply for the single mother's benefit, and they asked me in a public setting why the relationship had broken down, who left whom, whether we'd get back together etc. Leave your dignity at the door kind of situation. Could have been worse, I know someone who applied for it who was asked loudly "You left an alcoholic? Why didn't you try to *help* him?!", so I guess I got off lightly when I finally said with exasperation, "Well you can't _make_ someone love you, can you?". How awful for you! I'm pretty sure they don't ask those sort of questions here. If they did I think I'd be pretty rude. If I'd known they were going to ask things like that I'd have requested a private room, I didn't even know you could have a private room until afterwards. I guess I'm lucky I got someone nice. -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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Leslie!, was It's over
PattyMomVA wrote: Hi Leslie, Where have you been? How are things going at home? Happy New Year! -Patty, mom of 1+2 Thanks for asking, Patty! I've been (and basically am still) offline because of a broken computer that I haven't the funds to fix. I've been meaning to try to get on to post an update so since you asked I'll go do it now. :-) Leslie |
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