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Low Income Fathers, Child Support and Economic Oppression
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news:ceGdnVdWT59YtrXYnZ2dnUVZ_rSdnZ2d@scnresearch. com... "Tracy" wrote in message . .. I wouldn't lump all divorced men into the same cateogy of an ex-husband who cheated on his wife, nor would I lump all men who drink into the same category as an alcoholic... so I guess I'm asking others to not lump all single mothers into the same stereotypical view of a drug abusing mother. I am with you there. That's why I asked why you had even brought it up. I'm sorry if I misunderstood your intentions in doing so. No need in apologizing. Asking questions and asking for clarification is much better then assuming. I don't look at a question for clarification as an assumption. Tracy |
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Low Income Fathers, Child Support and Economic Oppression
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message link.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:TWkVg.835$UJ2.501@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:4U2Vg.779$UJ2.660@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. I'd be thrilled with 50/50. Right now, it's 100/0. Put your MONEY where your MOUTH is and reverse the roles! That would require the other parent being willing to take the other 50%. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever happens - he WAS the one who ceded sole custody to me :-) I was NOT referring to 50/50 when I said "reverse" roles. Are YOU willing to be the NCP? As I said, I would be thrilled with 50/50. Labels don't mean jack - they're just words. Including "pedophile" or "spousal abuser", "prostitute" or even "drug addict"? They don't mean anything, they're just words? How about "cop", "nurse", "felon", "jaywalker", "nerd", "couch potato" or even "parent"? Don't any of these labels tell you at least a little something about the individual? They tell me far more about the person making the judgement. I've seen people on this newsgroup insist that a custodial parent who receives child support is a thief. Does that make it so? Granted, there are some labels that are in response to actions a person took - like abuser, prostitute or drug addict. On the other hand, some labels are thrown around as weapons, with little regard to if they actually fit any actions at all. Those are the labels to which I object. Your spice rack must be a bit of a gamble. Ummm nope. Things are called by their name. You know, salt is called 'salt'. What does that have to do with throwing around labels as weapons, or taking the position that a person's actions are dictated by a label that someone else might impose? Somehow you feel that the terms "custodial parent" and "non-custodial parent" are not names but derogatory terms? I supposed it's all in how the terms are used. Certainly, on the chilod support newsgroup, custodial parent isn't used as a name, nor as a compliment, but as a derogatory term. No matter what the label used, or how it's used, I still don't agree that the use of a label causes a person to act a particular way. Gee, I don't recall seeing a post where someone said that a label forced behavior to match that label. I must say that I do skim posts occasionally, though. Maybe you could direct me to the post wehere someone actually said that being given a certain label forces you to do certain things. This was the point to which I was responding - and please note, that I stated "I still don't agree that the use of a label causes a person to act in a particular way" - at no time did I state that a certain label "forces" a person to do anything. You DO understand the difference between causation, and force? Anyway, here's the post to which I was responding * * * * * ** * * * * * * * * * * * * "Chris" wrote in message news:MlvVg.863$UJ2.52@fed1read07... "You DO realize that being labeled as "NCP" carries with it the burden of having a money judgement against you to your ex, the loss of your children, and the very real threat of imprisonment, among other wonderful things. You cool with that?" * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Now, the label of NCP is not the CAUSE of a money judgement, nor does it FORCE a money judgement. There are other actions involved in the creation of a money judgement. You are so asinine sometimes, and I think you know it. The label NCP and the money judgement et al go hand in hand, and you perfectly well know it. Back to you silly little nitpicking. The label of NCP is not the CAUSE of the loss of children, nor does it FORCE the loss of children. There are other actions involved in the loss of children. See above The label of NCP is not the CAUSE of the threat of imprisonment, nor does it FORCE the threat of imprisonment. There are other actions involved in the threat of imprisonment. See above Now Teach, I've dumbed this down about as much as I possibly can for you - I've pretty much kept it to words of one and two syllables for you. See "asinine" part above. If you still can't understand, then I suggest you go ask someone else. Grow up ROFLMAO!!! That was the most reasoned debate/argument you could come up with? Tell ya what - when you can drop the name calling, and the other tactics you seem to have embraced, and can present a reasoned, adult debate/argument, THEN we can talk. Until then, you may want to consider taking your own advice. Have a lovely day. |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message link.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:TWkVg.835$UJ2.501@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:4U2Vg.779$UJ2.660@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. I'd be thrilled with 50/50. Right now, it's 100/0. Put your MONEY where your MOUTH is and reverse the roles! That would require the other parent being willing to take the other 50%. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever happens - he WAS the one who ceded sole custody to me :-) I was NOT referring to 50/50 when I said "reverse" roles. Are YOU willing to be the NCP? As I said, I would be thrilled with 50/50. Labels don't mean jack - they're just words. Including "pedophile" or "spousal abuser", "prostitute" or even "drug addict"? They don't mean anything, they're just words? How about "cop", "nurse", "felon", "jaywalker", "nerd", "couch potato" or even "parent"? Don't any of these labels tell you at least a little something about the individual? They tell me far more about the person making the judgement. I've seen people on this newsgroup insist that a custodial parent who receives child support is a thief. Does that make it so? Granted, there are some labels that are in response to actions a person took - like abuser, prostitute or drug addict. On the other hand, some labels are thrown around as weapons, with little regard to if they actually fit any actions at all. Those are the labels to which I object. Your spice rack must be a bit of a gamble. Ummm nope. Things are called by their name. You know, salt is called 'salt'. What does that have to do with throwing around labels as weapons, or taking the position that a person's actions are dictated by a label that someone else might impose? Somehow you feel that the terms "custodial parent" and "non-custodial parent" are not names but derogatory terms? I supposed it's all in how the terms are used. Certainly, on the chilod support newsgroup, custodial parent isn't used as a name, nor as a compliment, but as a derogatory term. No matter what the label used, or how it's used, I still don't agree that the use of a label causes a person to act a particular way. Gee, I don't recall seeing a post where someone said that a label forced behavior to match that label. I must say that I do skim posts occasionally, though. Maybe you could direct me to the post wehere someone actually said that being given a certain label forces you to do certain things. This was the point to which I was responding - and please note, that I stated "I still don't agree that the use of a label causes a person to act in a particular way" - at no time did I state that a certain label "forces" a person to do anything. You DO understand the difference between causation, and force? Anyway, here's the post to which I was responding * * * * * ** * * * * * * * * * * * * "Chris" wrote in message news:MlvVg.863$UJ2.52@fed1read07... "You DO realize that being labeled as "NCP" carries with it the burden of having a money judgement against you to your ex, the loss of your children, and the very real threat of imprisonment, among other wonderful things. You cool with that?" * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Now, the label of NCP is not the CAUSE of a money judgement, nor does it FORCE a money judgement. There are other actions involved in the creation of a money judgement. You are so asinine sometimes, and I think you know it. The label NCP and the money judgement et al go hand in hand, and you perfectly well know it. Back to you silly little nitpicking. The label of NCP is not the CAUSE of the loss of children, nor does it FORCE the loss of children. There are other actions involved in the loss of children. See above The label of NCP is not the CAUSE of the threat of imprisonment, nor does it FORCE the threat of imprisonment. There are other actions involved in the threat of imprisonment. See above Now Teach, I've dumbed this down about as much as I possibly can for you - I've pretty much kept it to words of one and two syllables for you. See "asinine" part above. If you still can't understand, then I suggest you go ask someone else. Grow up ROFLMAO!!! That was the most reasoned debate/argument you could come up with? Ther *is* no debate/argument, Moon. Don't be so foolish! The point you are belabouring is not even a point--it is a silly little nit-pick! It has NOTHING to do with the issue being discussed! If the terms CP/NCP are as meaningless as you say they are, let's just DROP THEM and call both parents "co-parents." With the same rights and responsibilities. EXCEPT, of course, in cases where one parent refuses to be a co-parent. THEN you can apply your terms to your heart's delight. Tell ya what - when you can drop the name calling, and the other tactics you seem to have embraced, and can present a reasoned, adult debate/argument, THEN we can talk. I'm not calling you names, Moon. I am labeling your tactics. Trying to focus on whether the label NCP forces a certain behavior IS asinine! 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"Tracy" wrote in message ... "pandora" wrote in message news:ceGdnVdWT59YtrXYnZ2dnUVZ_rSdnZ2d@scnresearch. com... "Tracy" wrote in message . .. I wouldn't lump all divorced men into the same cateogy of an ex-husband who cheated on his wife, nor would I lump all men who drink into the same category as an alcoholic... so I guess I'm asking others to not lump all single mothers into the same stereotypical view of a drug abusing mother. I am with you there. That's why I asked why you had even brought it up. I'm sorry if I misunderstood your intentions in doing so. No need in apologizing. Asking questions and asking for clarification is much better then assuming. I don't look at a question for clarification as an assumption. Cool. You would then, be a rarity around here. :-) CWQ Tracy |
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"Tracy" wrote in message ... "pandora" wrote in message news:ceGdnVdWT59YtrXYnZ2dnUVZ_rSdnZ2d@scnresearch. com... "Tracy" wrote in message . .. I wouldn't lump all divorced men into the same cateogy of an ex-husband who cheated on his wife, nor would I lump all men who drink into the same category as an alcoholic... so I guess I'm asking others to not lump all single mothers into the same stereotypical view of a drug abusing mother. I am with you there. That's why I asked why you had even brought it up. I'm sorry if I misunderstood your intentions in doing so. No need in apologizing. Asking questions and asking for clarification is much better then assuming. I don't look at a question for clarification as an assumption. You also don't tell people that you wish they had died in childbirth like Pandora does. |
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"Tracy" wrote in message . .. "Chris" wrote in message news:0j%Ug.762$UJ2.294@fed1read07... "pandora" wrote in message news:X6KdnSPgFuIC9LnYnZ2dnUVZ_tidnZ2d@scnresearch. com... Indeed as do I. This entire discussion has me wondering just what kinds of people would deny a family the name. Do they get some kind of jollies out of being superior, in their mind, to someone else? A better question would be: why is it so important for such folks to be considered a "family"? That is up to the individuals living within the same household. It is no different than a man and woman who are living together as man & wife. Some states will recognize their living condition as a common law marriage, and other states won't. Ok, but why is it so important for them to identify with such title? Tracy |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:TWkVg.835$UJ2.501@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:4U2Vg.779$UJ2.660@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. I'd be thrilled with 50/50. Right now, it's 100/0. Put your MONEY where your MOUTH is and reverse the roles! That would require the other parent being willing to take the other 50%. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever happens - he WAS the one who ceded sole custody to me :-) I was NOT referring to 50/50 when I said "reverse" roles. Are YOU willing to be the NCP? As I said, I would be thrilled with 50/50. Labels don't mean jack - they're just words. Including "pedophile" or "spousal abuser", "prostitute" or even "drug addict"? They don't mean anything, they're just words? How about "cop", "nurse", "felon", "jaywalker", "nerd", "couch potato" or even "parent"? Don't any of these labels tell you at least a little something about the individual? They tell me far more about the person making the judgement. I've seen people on this newsgroup insist that a custodial parent who receives child support is a thief. Does that make it so? Granted, there are some labels that are in response to actions a person took - like abuser, prostitute or drug addict. On the other hand, some labels are thrown around as weapons, with little regard to if they actually fit any actions at all. Those are the labels to which I object. But WHY, since "labels don't mean jack - they're just words"? Phil #3 |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:TWkVg.835$UJ2.501@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:4U2Vg.779$UJ2.660@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. I'd be thrilled with 50/50. Right now, it's 100/0. Put your MONEY where your MOUTH is and reverse the roles! That would require the other parent being willing to take the other 50%. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever happens - he WAS the one who ceded sole custody to me :-) I was NOT referring to 50/50 when I said "reverse" roles. Are YOU willing to be the NCP? As I said, I would be thrilled with 50/50. Labels don't mean jack - they're just words. Including "pedophile" or "spousal abuser", "prostitute" or even "drug addict"? They don't mean anything, they're just words? How about "cop", "nurse", "felon", "jaywalker", "nerd", "couch potato" or even "parent"? Don't any of these labels tell you at least a little something about the individual? They tell me far more about the person making the judgement. I've seen people on this newsgroup insist that a custodial parent who receives child support is a thief. Does that make it so? Granted, there are some labels that are in response to actions a person took - like abuser, prostitute or drug addict. You forgot "NCP". On the other hand, some labels are thrown around as weapons, with little regard to if they actually fit any actions at all. Those are the labels to which I object. Phil #3 |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:MlvVg.863$UJ2.52@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message news "Chris" wrote in message news:WKjVg.822$UJ2.463@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. Or just reverse the labels every other year, and see what happens. No matter what the label is, it doesn't change anything about form or function. Then you should have NO problem being labeled as the "NCP" by your kourt people since nothing else (form/function) will change. I have no problem with labels - it doesn't change what my priorities are, nor how I live my life. Call me Fred for all I care, it doesn't change anything. You DO realize that being labeled as "NCP" carries with it the burden of having a money judgement against you to your ex, the loss of your children, and the very real threat of imprisonment, among other wonderful things. You cool with that? The label as nothing to do with the sanctions. Actions have a relation to the sanctions. Uhuh, such action being some fool in a black robe creating a label. Check out a book called Frindle. |
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Low Income Fathers, Child Support and Economic Oppression
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message link.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Phil" wrote in message ink.net... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:TWkVg.835$UJ2.501@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:4U2Vg.779$UJ2.660@fed1read07... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:tPVUg.744$UJ2.492@fed1read07... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Rags" wrote in message ups.com... Chris, Lets see if I can stay on target in responding to your comments through all of the history. You begin your response with the claim that money somehow has to change hands. This is simply not true. The ONLY concern that anyone should have is whether or not a child is being neglected (starved, beaten, etc.) Short of abuse, which is criminal behavior anyway, it is absolutely NOBODY'S business how one raises their child! I agree. If the child is not being abused, neglected or exposed to unreasonable risk, it s/b no ones business but the parents. The problem is that once a marriage ends or a child is born out of wedlock emotion kicks in. And everone knows that emotion is the death knell of rational decision making. In the interest of the child, I believe that an intact bio family is best, a mutually respectful CP/NCP partnership a distant second, and an involved, caring, responsible and accountable single parent household third, with the options degrading in desirability from that point on. You forgot mututally respectful 50/50 parenting. Where might that fall on your list? Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting should be covered by the "mutually respecful CP/NCP partnership" statement. This of couse only applies if the parents are no longer in a dedicated mutually respectful monogamous relationship. As soon as you say one parent is the custodial parent (CP) and one in the NONcustodial parent (NCP) you've pretty well trashed the 50/50 mutual custody idea, because one is CUSTODIAL and one is NOT. Mutually respectful 50/50 parenting sounds good. Take off the CP/NCP labels. Some folks, for some reason, fail to comprehend the concept of 50/50. For those who challenge my claim, let them be willing to reverse the CP/NCP roles to prove just how "50/50" it really is. I'd be thrilled with 50/50. Right now, it's 100/0. Put your MONEY where your MOUTH is and reverse the roles! That would require the other parent being willing to take the other 50%. I'll be sure to let you know if that ever happens - he WAS the one who ceded sole custody to me :-) I was NOT referring to 50/50 when I said "reverse" roles. Are YOU willing to be the NCP? As I said, I would be thrilled with 50/50. Labels don't mean jack - they're just words. Including "pedophile" or "spousal abuser", "prostitute" or even "drug addict"? They don't mean anything, they're just words? How about "cop", "nurse", "felon", "jaywalker", "nerd", "couch potato" or even "parent"? Don't any of these labels tell you at least a little something about the individual? They tell me far more about the person making the judgement. I've seen people on this newsgroup insist that a custodial parent who receives child support is a thief. Does that make it so? Granted, there are some labels that are in response to actions a person took - like abuser, prostitute or drug addict. On the other hand, some labels are thrown around as weapons, with little regard to if they actually fit any actions at all. Those are the labels to which I object. Your spice rack must be a bit of a gamble. Ummm nope. Things are called by their name. But they're only labels; they don't mean "jack". Thus, how can you be certain of what's inside? You know, salt is called 'salt'. What does that have to do with throwing around labels as weapons, or taking the position that a person's actions are dictated by a label that someone else might impose? Phil #3 Phil #3 |
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